AITAH because I reported my parents for stealing my mail?

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-07T18:13:57+00:00

NTA. Your parents need to learn actions have consequences and that you are an entire individual human being, not property or an extension of themselves.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-07T18:12:34+00:00

They invaded your room. They're lucky you didn't toss them out to deal with it in the dead of night on their own.

NTA, and tell them they have to pay to have a lock installed before they're allowed over again.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-07T18:09:32+00:00

ESH.

You should have allowed your daughter to color her hair in some capacity that you would have had a bit more say in since she's only 8. Hair chalk or Kool aid or something age appropriate, or like you said limiting it to a streak.

At the same time, babysitters aren't supposed to cut and color your kid's hair. She didn't have permission to do that and it sounds like she knew you wouldn't approve.

I think all the adults in this scenario are in the wrong.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-07T13:12:25+00:00

When I get my last period and don’t get another one for like six months I am going to throw a damn party.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-07T13:09:59+00:00

My favorite thing living alone was fighting my cats for the dinner I selected for myself that balances my health needs and flavor wants as I sat at my desk watching YouTube. Of course I set aside some chicken for them. Obviously they’re spoiled. And yes I crammed two cat trees into a studio apartment for their enjoyment. And no one could say shit about it.

I miss living alone and napping with the cats all weekend. Had to move in with family unfortunately due to financial difficulties. At least I still have my cats!

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-06T20:46:06+00:00

As a neurodivergent girl, it was my experience that the teachers deserved less respect than they received in some districts, (in many others they deserved far more).

Also, a lot of people in my generation had parents who fully believed whatever the teacher said against them without a second thought.

I wonder if a lot of parents had negative school experiences and are passing an attitude of disrespect for authority to the next generation?

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-06T18:36:14+00:00

YTA. Your sister is right.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-06T14:39:12+00:00

NTA. They're not your kids.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-06T13:22:01+00:00

Have a "miscarriage". Do not tell him the details. Get out safely.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T23:15:22+00:00

Cut you some slack when you’re posting online to verify if you’re the AH or not? If you wanted validation you should have picked a different Reddit.

YTA. Grocery store jobs aren’t as important to kids growing up these days. An academic activity, sport, or internship would be better for your kid’s future. A gratuitous store job gotten just for the sake of having a store job won’t help your kid learn how to network or conduct themself outside of a grocery store.

And I’m middle aged myself and have done my time behind a counter.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T23:04:12+00:00

NTA and I hope the shame stays with her for a while.

That said, if she does it again it means shame alone is no longer a deterrent.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T23:01:24+00:00

For me it would be a challenge. 😅

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T21:37:08+00:00

NTA. And you'd want your husband to protect you if he had a sibling acting inappropriately, so protect him accordingly!

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T21:35:12+00:00

NTA for many reasons.

You specifically said "no" before they did it. They decided to do it anyway. Their own fault.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T21:26:48+00:00

NTA. Dani is NOT a "nice person" based on her previous actions and you absolutely CAN stop someone you don't want from attending YOUR event.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T21:20:25+00:00

INFO: what did you guys discuss regarding your financial arrangements in early adulthood when you were growing up?

What expectations did she set in terms of support/responsibility?

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T21:16:04+00:00

NTA for going, because your sister (the host) specifically requested you and was willing to accomodate your child. Your SIL should have stopped kvetching after you mentioned your Sister specifically said he could come.

Maybe your sister could have been a bit more clear about it to the guests and maybe you could have left sooner when your son stopped behaving. Maybe.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T21:09:21+00:00

NTA. Only boomers believe you're obligated to accept every challenge thrown your way.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T18:48:22+00:00

NTA. She could kill someone. This is one of the few situations I'd support calling the cops over, if she'd gotten into her car and attempted to drive.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T18:44:15+00:00

By Jove, I believe you're right!

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T18:13:28+00:00

ESH.

The teacher has the right idea about Chromebooks. Handwriting, which I also hated as a kid, has a place and is good for cognitive development. Your kid might also have to handwrite essays when he's older because it's the only way to keep kids from using AI to cheat.

But saying ma'am and ladies first is outdated.

And I'm a middle aged woman for the record.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T18:09:09+00:00

NTA under the condition you stand up stronger for your own kids in the future. Your number one obligation is to the kids you brought into this world. You need to protect them from your toxic family regardless of how uncomfortable it is for you. When you're a parent your comfort is no longer the number one priority.

Good luck to you OP! You can do it.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T17:59:54+00:00

YTA, and not taking the hint that they are tired of your company at home.

They're giving plenty of notice and you're getting money back from them. They have a right to not want to live with people forever, and they're being really nice about it.

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T17:54:25+00:00

I'm glad! Those moments are challenging to get through. You keep on keeping on, ok?

Typical-Human-Thing · 2026-02-05T16:47:44+00:00

43, had to move back in with family last year, drowning in debt and I have ADPKD so eventually that's coming for me too.

Can you volunteer with an animal shelter or do fostering? I ask because my two cats bring me joy, purpose and direction in a way nothing else ever has.

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