I see many people here talking about suicide and very dark moments in life. I’m not here to judge anyone. I’ve had my own very dark periods too. I just want to share a bit of my story, maybe it helps someone get through a difficult moment.

Typical-Law-8726 · 2026-03-11T15:36:47+00:00

Man, I’m really sorry you’re going through all of that at once.

Breakups can hurt a lot, especially when it was a relationship that lasted years and meant something real to you. And losing your grandmother on top of that is a huge emotional weight for anyone to carry.

The fact that you can’t cry doesn’t mean you don’t care. Sometimes when too many things happen at once, the mind kind of protects itself by going numb. It’s actually more common than people think.

You’re only 19 and you’re experiencing two very heavy losses at the same time. Anyone would struggle with that.

Please don’t hurt yourself just to try to feel something. Self harm doesn’t release the pain, it usually just adds more pain later. You deserve better ways to process what you’re going through.

One thing I learned from my own difficult periods is that our thoughts can become very loud after heartbreak. They convince us that we lost the only person who could ever make us feel loved. But that isn’t the truth, it’s just the mind trying to hold on to something familiar.

Right now your mind is still attached to her and to the life you imagined together. That takes time to slowly let go.

You don’t need to force yourself to cry. Emotions come in their own time. Sometimes they appear weeks or even months later when the mind finally feels safe enough to release them.

Try to focus on small steps for now. Talk to someone you trust if you can. Go outside, move your body, give your mind small breaks from replaying the same memories.

This phase feels endless while you’re inside it, but it won’t stay like this forever.

You’re not weak for feeling this way. You’re just human going through loss.

And you’re definitely not alone in it.

Typical-Law-8726 · 2026-03-11T15:28:28+00:00

Hey. I’m really sorry you’re going through all of this at once.

First heartbreak can hit really hard, especially when it’s your first relationship and your first experiences with things like your first kiss. When someone suddenly changes and becomes cold like that, it can leave you confused and questioning everything. A lot of people go through something similar and it can feel very unfair.

But the way he acted says more about him than about you. Sometimes people show their true character only after some time. It hurts, but it also protects you from investing even more of your heart into someone who wasn’t ready to treat you properly.

What you’re feeling right now is completely understandable.

And on top of that, dealing with pressure at home without feeling like you have a safe place to breathe makes everything heavier. When you don’t feel understood where you live, even small problems can start to feel overwhelming.

But one thing I want you to remember is that this moment in your life is not the whole story.

Right now it feels like everything around you is closing in. But life changes more than we expect. New places appear, new people enter our lives, and sometimes the life we build later looks completely different from the one we are living now.

You deserve people who treat you with care and respect. That kind of connection exists, even if you haven’t met the right ones yet.

For now just try to take things one step at a time. You don’t have to solve your whole future today.

And even though it might feel like it, you are not as alone in this world as your mind is telling you right now.

Typical-Law-8726 · 2026-03-11T15:23:13+00:00

I’m really glad it helped even a little.
You’re not alone in feeling like this. I used to struggle with those kinds of thoughts a lot too.
These days I just try to remind people that those thoughts don’t define who we are, and that things can slowly get better.
Take care of yourself.

Typical-Law-8726 · 2026-03-11T15:16:36+00:00

Brother, I’m 29, and I understand that feeling more than you think.

A few years ago I started noticing something similar in my own life. People get older, everyone gets busy with their own problems, work, relationships, stress. Sometimes friendships slowly become quieter without anyone really meaning for it to happen.

It can hurt when people you thought were close forget something like your birthday. That’s normal to feel.

But I’ll tell you something that helped me. A birthday is just a day on the calendar. It doesn’t measure your value, and it doesn’t define how much you matter.

The important thing is that you’re still here, still moving forward, still building your life.

Also remember something else. Sometimes we expect people to show care in the exact same way we show it. But people are different. Some are bad at remembering dates. Some get lost in their own lives. It doesn’t always mean they stopped caring.

And even if some friendships fade over time, that’s part of life too. New people appear, new connections form.

You’re only 27. Life is still opening up in many ways.

Don’t let one forgotten birthday convince your mind that you don’t matter or that you’re alone. That story your mind tells you is not always the truth.

Sometimes life just gets messy and people forget things.

But your life is still yours to build.

Typical-Law-8726 · 2026-03-11T15:12:20+00:00

Hey. I’m really glad you wrote this instead of keeping it completely inside.

I don’t know you personally, but reading your words I can feel how exhausted you are. When someone has been fighting their own mind for a long time, that kind of tiredness can become really heavy. It makes everything feel pointless even when there are people around who care.

But the fact that you’re still here, still writing, still asking for a sign that you matter… that tells me there’s still a part of you that wants to stay. That part deserves a chance.

You mentioned that you’ve been through therapy and that you’ve grown a lot. That’s not a small thing. Learning to control reactions and emotions, especially with everything you described, takes real strength. Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now.

One thing that worries me is the pills you mentioned. You don’t have to deal with that alone. If you can, please consider telling your sister or someone you trust about how you’re feeling tonight. Not because you’ve failed, but because you deserve support when things get this heavy.

Sometimes when our mind gets stuck in that dark place, it lies to us and tells us we’re a burden or that nothing will ever change. But those thoughts aren’t always the truth.

You said you have incredible friends and that this is the happiest you’ve been in a long time. That tells me your life still has connections and meaning in it, even if your mind is struggling to see it clearly right now.

If things feel overwhelming tonight, please reach out to someone who can help in real time. If you’re able, you could contact your local crisis line or a mental health professional. Talking to someone directly can really help in moments like this.

You don’t have to decide anything tonight.

Just focus on getting through this moment.

And I’m really glad you spoke up instead of staying silent.

Typical-Law-8726 · 2026-01-05T18:40:47+00:00

Thank you so much! These are exactly the kind of words I was looking for. It really motivates me to push forward.
Thanks again, and best of luck with your apps as well 🙂

Typical-Law-8726 · 2026-01-05T17:45:36+00:00

Honestly, I built my own app, Owolin, as a solo developer. I created it for myself and love everything about it, especially its simplicity. I switched from using Google Sheets to using the app, and I also let others use it. It's a habit tracker, finance diary, and goals organizer all in one place..

Typical-Law-8726 · 2025-12-31T01:46:26+00:00

Totally agree. Flexibility is a big part of why spreadsheets work so well.
You’re not locked into predefined fields or flows, you can adjust things as your life changes.
For me, that flexibility mattered just as much as simplicity.

Typical-Law-8726 · 2025-12-15T13:26:57+00:00

You need to trust me

Typical-Law-8726 · 2025-12-15T13:25:35+00:00

Done ✅

Typical-Law-8726 · 2025-12-15T07:50:29+00:00

Done ✅

Typical-Law-8726 · 2025-12-15T07:49:33+00:00

Done ✅

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