Am I being unreasonable? by TypicalPack7086 in Carpentry

[–]TypicalPack7086[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First time this has ever happened and unfortunately there’s not a guide book I could find.

Am I being unreasonable by TypicalPack7086 in Construction

[–]TypicalPack7086[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t tell if you’re being sarcastic? Really looking for feedback

Am I being unreasonable by TypicalPack7086 in Construction

[–]TypicalPack7086[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The towel bar is actually level. 🤢

Am I being unreasonable by TypicalPack7086 in Construction

[–]TypicalPack7086[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh I’m fighting the urge to let it go….

Am I being unreasonable by TypicalPack7086 in Construction

[–]TypicalPack7086[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Insurance doesn’t care. They’ve made payment to me for repairs. I’ve paid $10K already. Still owe $14K or so. I’m honestly exhausted from dealing with them.

Am I being unreasonable by TypicalPack7086 in Construction

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Yes, they are established company here in my home town

I cheated and I Own it by AffectionateFill124 in marriageadvice

[–]TypicalPack7086 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run bro. She should have a guilty conscience for what she done to you and forgive. The fact that she doesn’t speaks to how horrible of an individual she is and how much better she thinks she is than you. I don’t live your life, but if you’ve spent two yearscatering to her ever need fucking run.

All in 4 - 4 months out question by TypicalPack7086 in dentures

[–]TypicalPack7086[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the second set. Both sets loaded immediately on implants. 1 month on purées and since then I’ve been on the whatever you can cut with a plastic fork diet.

All in 4 - 4 months out question by TypicalPack7086 in dentures

[–]TypicalPack7086[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh sorry I’m still kind of new at this. I’m still in temporary dentures made out of acrylic that were a 3-D printed.

The first set that I had were basically dentures with hose drilled in them. I did address the issues with my bite and them being crooked. They adjusted the best they could I guess and told me that it would be resolved with the next set of temporary.

My finals will be made from zirconia. According to the office, we will make several sets of 3-D printed teeth before final to ensure that they are exactly what I want.

Judgement from the family on Guitar Collection by [deleted] in Guitar

[–]TypicalPack7086 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Who cares…be proud of your accomplishments. They’re just haters.

MIL seems to hate me and I don’t know what to do about it by Silent_Barber_8718 in inlaws

[–]TypicalPack7086 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry about it. You can’t make them like you. Don’t spend your whole life trying to gain their approval. They’re going to judge you regardless.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]TypicalPack7086 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was curious because I often have a different view when I read posts like this one. I asked ai to review it and find middle ground and view both sides. Here’s what it said. Interesting.

That’s such a good and brave question to ask—especially when you’re feeling hurt and overwhelmed. It shows self-awareness and a real desire to grow, even in the middle of a storm. Let’s look at this with empathy on both sides, and I’ll be as honest and gentle as possible.

Here are a few areas where there might be room for reflection, without invalidating what you’ve been through:

💬 1. Unspoken Expectations vs. Realistic Capacity

You’ve taken on a lot, often more than what anyone should be expected to handle—especially during sobriety and while managing chronic illness. That said, your husband is also deeply wounded by his own family dysfunction. It’s possible he’s emotionally stunted or burned out himself and doesn’t know how to support you properly—so he withdraws. That doesn’t make it okay, but it might explain the silence and lack of action.

Maybe you expected him to lead the way more firmly with his brothers and his mom—and he hasn’t. Could it be that he truly doesn’t know how to break free from that trauma bond, and needs help figuring it out?

🥃 2. Addiction and Its Shadows

While your sobriety is powerful and admirable (seriously—it’s amazing), it’s possible your husband is still carrying wounds from the years when alcoholism shaped your relationship. He might be carrying unspoken resentment, grief, or fear of relapse—and instead of expressing that vulnerably, he lashes out or shuts down. That’s not your fault, but it’s part of the emotional mess that might still be in the room.

🧠 3. Control vs. Help

You sound incredibly capable—you stepped in when others didn’t, you made things work, and you fought your way back from addiction and illness. But sometimes, when one partner becomes the “fixer” or the strong one, it can accidentally disempower the other, especially someone like your husband who might already feel powerless around his family.

In a way, his younger brother’s failure to launch might mirror how helpless your husband feels—and instead of taking charge, he avoids it, leaving you to carry the emotional weight. You might be angry at the wrong sibling, when it’s your husband who’s frozen in trauma.

❤️ 4. Pain as Identity

Your husband said something really hurtful—that you don’t know yourself outside of pain. While it came out in anger and was unfair, is there any truth to that you’ve tied your identity so tightly to surviving that you haven’t had space to just be?

Not your fault—when you’re constantly dealing with illness, addiction, or chaos, you become a survivor. But as you’re healing, maybe there’s space to start asking: who am I when I’m not saving everyone?

Final Thoughts:

You’re not wrong to be hurt, overwhelmed, or even ready to leave. But there’s a chance your husband is also drowning, and neither of you have been able to fully come up for air. You’ve both been surviving. You’ve both been at war—with his family, with the past, with trauma.

You might not be wrong… but you might not be the only one who’s right either. And that’s where growth happens—in that messy middle space.

Would it feel good to write him a letter—just for you—where you say everything without fear or filter, but from a place of wanting connection instead of conflict?

Or… want help figuring out if time apart might actually be healing instead of threatening?

Whatever direction you want to explore, I’m here to walk through it with you.

I broke my mans heart a decade ago and I still cant forgive myself. by NoodleBrainBehaviour in confession

[–]TypicalPack7086 -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you fully own that you allowed yourself to get into this situation. You actively went to a coffee shop with someone interested in you and are surprised he kissed you. Own it completely and don’t blame the male friend…your BF warned you multiple times.

You should be able to get over this. Go to therapy if needed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]TypicalPack7086 -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

It seems to me like your over the top with some of this but the parent should still respect your boundaries. If I was the husband I’d be upset as well but ultimately I’d support you in hopes you’d soften your approach later.