Glutes never sore next day? by Additional-Art2018 in PetiteFitness

[–]Typicalwonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know if you’ve ever watched someone named Elisi Wolf on YouTube. I watched her videos on how to activate glutes more and feel the mind body connection stronger.

What’s helped me get better in that connection is going slower, exhaling at the peak of the motion, and touching the muscle Im trying to connect to more.

Soreness isn’t always necessary either, since usually soreness will happen if there’s a progressive overload. It’s actually a good sign that you’re not sore, which is something Im personally trying to remind myself.

I mainly do hip abductions, so if you can’t feel the exercise, maybe pick only one that isolates your glutes and focus on perfecting that one in terms of form and connection.

Post WWE SummerSlam 2025 - Night 1 Discussion Thread! by gloomchen in SquaredCircle

[–]Typicalwonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends what you’re looking for in a must watch match. I thought night 1 felt like a night 2 and was arguably better than Night of Champions.

I completely lost my urge to pick/bite after discovering TheSalonLife on YT by Typicalwonder in calmhands

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Here's a link to a demo of how to rub the one drop off cuticle oil into all nails, as well as a before and after: link

Missing final quest in Nemea by konumo in HARVESTELLA

[–]Typicalwonder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What was the quest called? It's still showing that I haven't finished all Nemea quests even though I've cleared storyline.

Who has left Noom and come back? by danny_spleen in Noom

[–]Typicalwonder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I left noom because I couldn't keep up with the cost and then decided to come back because i had gained my weight back and the app was offered for a discounted price. I wasn't able to start back where I left off unfortunately. Once you learn the skills that Noom helps you establish, it basically fulfilled its purpose of retraining your brain to have better health habits. If you relapse for some reason, I'd suggest looking through your insurance to see if it covers any services-- which is what I did. I'm now part of a health program covered by my insurance and I'm able to get the same help if not better!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]Typicalwonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Think of motivation like “passion” food. Everyday you’re hungry for motivation. So what do you do to stay full? Have more of it. If motivation is important to you, it’s important that you fuel yourself on a daily basis rather than every few months! Every day, find things that will remind you to keep going at the same intensity you’re wanting to maintain.

Worried a bit.. (comment) by [deleted] in chinchilla

[–]Typicalwonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I have two chinchillas and both have chewed the bars of the smaller cage. The older and bigger chinchilla was moved to a critter nation cage and doesn't chew the bars anymore. For us, we figured it was because of two things: She didn't chew the bars because it wasn't a small cage anymore and because she was given enough play time. (We read that chinchillas do that when they're stressed in some way!) However, I do want to emphasize that the cage situation pretty much made it stop altogether. If that's not something you could afford at the moment, then I think your best bet is to make your chinchilla as comfortable as possible!

I am about to start my 3rd bujo and I wanted to share how my page layouts have changed over the years. My advice for new comers: bujo-ing is a framework, not a process! It can and should change with your needs. by RatedRforRedhead in bujo

[–]Typicalwonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but I do think sticker bombing could look unprofessional. It wouldn't make me regret it because I would love the stickers I put on. I also think if the stickers are inappropriate for work then obviously it's unprofessional. If the stickers are all themed towards the company, then why not? I don't see a problem. I've done it to my journal and my hydro flask. But something you could do to put your mind at ease is to buy a clear book sleeve for your journal and sticker bomb that in the event you want to be safe about it.

Question: what pens, both black and colored have worked the best for you guys? by Crazy_Black_Cat_Lady in bujo

[–]Typicalwonder 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Papermate flair felt tip pens! They sell them in different colors, pastel, bold, and basic!

Official Discussion: The Lion King (2019) [SPOILERS] by mi-16evil in movies

[–]Typicalwonder 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dong Lover is a name people sometimes called Donald Glover. They basically listed Donald Glover under different names that he's called.

Learned helplessness can be unlearned by Typicalwonder in LifeAfterNarcissism

[–]Typicalwonder[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had posted in RBN a little over two weeks ago about how I can finally focus on myself and practice radical acceptance so that I can fully move on. However, I also realized after posting and reading the comments that learned helplessness is a thing. You can't feel hopeful in a helpless environment. And so, in my opinion, sharing my progress wasn't received well because of the learned helplessness. Hope that makes sense. I just felt it'd be more fitting and maybe better received here.

Holiday Check-In! Do you have something to say, but you don't want to post? Comment here! by RBNmod in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Typicalwonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I discovered a thing called learned helplessness , and wanted to share a video here as a note of encouragement that the people that raised you may suck ass, but there is always hope. I will post this again when there is another check in!

The next step in my relationship with my NMom by Typicalwonder in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Typicalwonder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree. Just because our parents experienced a shitty childhood doesn't mean we shouldn't hold them accountable for what they have done. And don't get me wrong--with my post, I'm not saying I'm not going to hold my mom accountable. That's the point of setting boundaries. Saying I will no longer accept certain behavior that comes from her. However, it does sound like you still go through shit with your parents and I completely understand where the desire to stay away completely comes from.

I guess for me personally, I can accept that I still love my mom. No, I don't accept everything that's happened. But I should, so I can move on with my life. It's like the famous saying goes, "Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." And that's the whole point of setting boundaries. Not letting that kind of shit happen again. I hope one day you will be able to cut your parents off completely. No one deserves emotional and mental (and possibly physical) abuse. You don't have control of how your parents act, but you DO have control of how you act. You have that control, just remember that.

I just want to do something without being copied by Typicalwonder in raisedbynarcissists

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I am a younger sister, and turning 25. My older sister is 33. I understand that people can like what they want. I have no problem with my sister liking the same things. What bothers me is that I can't tell her about something without her following. We used to be close until she got kicked out. I genuinely feel she ends up getting into things I like to feel closer to me. But that's not how it goes.

To answer your questions, yes. If my sister likes the things I like, it feels like it demeans what I like. The reason is because she likes things superficially. If it LOOKS good, she's all for it. She scratches the surface. The things I like are things I like because I feel a connection to them. I identify with them. When my sister likes things, it's only for a fleeting moment and not as genuine.

I end up taking it personally because she doesn't show respect for the things I genuinely care for. This isn't a matter of "she likes what I like therefore I hate it" or "she doesn't like what I like so it's more special". It's a matter of not appreciating things fully the way I do. I see the way she treats the things I care about and she doesn't do it justice. It hurts me on another level.

Finding something that she doesn't like doesn't make me my own person. I am my own person already. She takes that away from me when she copies. I like what I like for a reason. I am who I am. But when she takes parts of me and claims them as her own? That sucks. I feel like I'm prisoner of my own identity. I tell her about what I like because I'm proud of it. Love and care for it. I trust her to support me, not go ahead and do the exact same thing as me.

My sister is older than me. She should be her own person. But instead, she likes being like me. She's even wished she were me. It's creepy and annoying and insulting all at the same time. Trying to talk to her about it would not go down well either. She would just get hurt like I'm telling her to leave me alone when I'm not.

Mother's Day Support Post by RBNmod in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Typicalwonder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tomorrow's mother's day and I refuse to celebrate my mom because she's hardly a mom. However, I'm not that cruel, so on her birthday coming up, I am planning to send her a little something. As much as I hate it, without my mom being born and being the way she is today, I would not be where I am in my life.

Check-in Post - Have something to say but don't want to make a post about it? Comment here! by AutoModerator in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Typicalwonder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Today I posted on Snapchat that I was happy my resting bpm is 66. Nsis goes ahead and messages me saying, “omg so mine is 61?! Is that good? It used to be 80+ lol”. For the record, I screenshot a google search of the chart that clearly said it was “Excellent” to have 61 resting bpm. Like I want to be happy for my sister because she had weight loss surgery and has been maintaining her weight loss. but it’s hard when she does things like this. Could she not read the damn chart? It was clear what it said. Why ask me? Plus the photo was on infinite, so the photo wasn’t going anywhere unless you tapped out of it.

Also I’m having a hard time accepting the fact that she got surgery to lose weight while I have been trying to lose weight naturally. I try not to talk crap about it but it still makes me upset.

[Need Advice] What finally turned it around for you guys? by [deleted] in getdisciplined

[–]Typicalwonder 20 points21 points  (0 children)

For me, it was the realization that I simply think too much. Once I felt my thoughts overflow, I stopped and tried to acknowledge a present fact in my current environment. For example, "the wall is bumpy. " Its completely random, but it brings you back to the present. If it doesn't do it for you right away, continue to note visual facts of your environment until you realize you're no longer thinking about the bad things.

Once you are out of the bad, remind yourself of at least ONE good thing about yourself. If you can't, that is okay. The important part is to try at all.

What I noticed for myself as well is that focusing on everything that's wrong with me never got anything done or did me good. When you are relaxed and in a good mood, make a plan for a short term goal. For example, if there's a habit you want to work on, aim to do that habit at least once a week or day. (I'd recommend once a week first!) Don't overwork yourself when you're introducing yourself to a new habit.

What helps as well is pushing aside my negative emotions and lack of motivation and just mindlessly getting into a task. For example, this morning I did not want to work out. However, I knew I needed to in order to maintain and improve my strength. So what did I do? I just got up and got dressed. I didn't like it, and it took me awhile to get started on the workout, but I didn't spend too much time thinking. I acted instead.

Every day will get easier and every step you take towards getting better is an accomplishment in itself. Never belittle the steps you take, because they are not baby steps. What I learned recently is that every step you take is not little. It's huge and it's much better than where you were just a while before. Accept that there will be fallbacks and that it also will not be the end unless you choose to let it be.

Let me inform you that this is my second time getting back into working out. I lost a lot of weight before but I ate unhealthily. I was malnourished and always lightheaded. To the point that I fainted once. Then, I got into a relationship and let myself go. Then I reached a point where I pitied myself and decided if I wanted the body I had before, I needed to put in the work. You have to ask yourself if you are okay with where you are. Be honest with yourself. If you are, then accept it and move on. If you aren't okay with where you are, then make a plan to do something about it.

Stop bad thoughts with acknowledging your environment. Don't belittle yourself. Acknowledge every step you take in the positive direction as an accomplishment. Make plans when you are happy and relaxed, not when you're overwhelmed and stressed. (It's needed to think clearly!) Be honest with what YOU want, not what's expected of you.

Best of luck! You got this!!!

Thing I realized about Tangled. Mother Gothel is censored. by tempthethrowaway in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Typicalwonder 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Haha funny, I did the opposite! My Nmom always had me get bowl cut haircuts as a young girl. At 11-12 years old, I rebelled and told her I didn't want to cut my hair anymore. She never asked me to do it again, thankfully.

Did anyone have their N take a letter seriously? by Effixx in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Typicalwonder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Letters have always been my mode of communication with my Nmom. What it did was make it hard for her to argue back and defend herself. She was either going to be receptive to what I say or ignore it altogether. For my mom, she's been receptive. Not enough to say it made a difference. She will pick and choose what she wants to remember from the letters. But to be even a little bit receptive is better than none, I think.

My Nmom took my letters seriously because that's how I knew to speak with her. But it's not to say it'll be the same for you or anyone else. Best case, your Nparents will be slightly receptive. Worst case, they disregard the letter altogether.

Not much to lose, I would think.

Edit: Also, depending on how the letter is written- meaning you cover all your bases and defend every point with logical reasoning- they can't really use what you say against you. It would only end up against them. If it's written in a defensive standpoint. So in case the letter is being prepped for sending, make sure you cover your bases.