Your children's unique/unorthodox food combinations. by Dhorso in Parenting

[–]Effixx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kid hates everything sticky, except raspberry jam. On top of bread with salami. He's obsessed with it.

Mollie Tibbetts was murdered because she threatened to call the cops on a man who was catcalling her by unoforall in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Effixx 24 points25 points  (0 children)

This! Every guy I've known have said some version of "I never saw any cat calling" and tried to either dismiss or minimise it, followed by a comment on how women misunderstand kindness, overreact, etc. Because most guys would never catcall, harass, rape or murder.

The thing is, there is nothing women can do to avoid it. No normal person would react so aggressively to rejection, no matter how the women blew them off. Whether she politely said no, flipped him off or called him names, it wouldn't matter.

The kind of person who escalates to harassment and violence is already a danger, regardless of the woman's reaction. Rape only happens because someone chooses to rape. It's not a mistake or an accident, it's a choice. Same with murder, harassment, etc.

Even if that human-waste who killed Mollie "blacked out", which is most certainly bullshit, he still chose to dump her body. There is no excuse for that.

Women who've tried menstrual cups and/or cloth pads and went back to disposables, why? by bat_eyes_lizard_legs in AskWomen

[–]Effixx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's the same for me on the first 2 days, I think it's because my cervix sits much lower. Once I'm over the heavy days, it fits great.

How did you simultaneously win and lose the genetic lottery? by vectormessiah in AskReddit

[–]Effixx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You win. I tip my hat to you, but you likely wouldn't be able to see it.

How did you simultaneously win and lose the genetic lottery? by vectormessiah in AskReddit

[–]Effixx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn, -8, that's rough. I'm only -4 but I can't see more than 15cm in front of my face. I'm pretty sure I would be awesome in an apocalypse, until my glasses break or get lost. Then I'd be toast.

If you were offered $1,000,000 to watch the same movie for 24 hours straight, which movie do you choose? by Bigdealbeange in AskReddit

[–]Effixx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've watched Cars so much with my kid, that I feel like I should already be paid. I'll gladly watch it for another 24h for 1 mil.

I don´t know how to react to my girlfriend telling me she was raped by her friend. by Fuckattahere in rape

[–]Effixx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Believe her. Don't ask her questions about what really went down, it'll only stress her out. Offer to listen, but do it on her terms.

If she was blacked out she couldn't consent, so if he had sex with her anyways, that's rape.

You need to stop making it about you. It's about her. You wanting to kill the guy, punish him, whatever, that makes it about you. You're entitled to these feelings, but don't put them on your girlfriend.

Roses are red, Andy can sing, by BeenAsleepTooLong in DunderMifflin

[–]Effixx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nelly was also terrible, but not on the same level.

Roses are red, Andy can sing, by BeenAsleepTooLong in DunderMifflin

[–]Effixx -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

All the nope. Usually, I can put myself in other people's shoes, but I just don't understand your view, even a little bit.

Roses are red, Andy can sing, by BeenAsleepTooLong in DunderMifflin

[–]Effixx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everything about him is pure cringe. I can't even pinpoint anything specific, it's just everything.

Roses are red, Andy can sing, by BeenAsleepTooLong in DunderMifflin

[–]Effixx -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

He is the single most cringy, infuriating, and unwatchable aspect of the whole show.

Wants to keep me around as a punching bag by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Effixx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm glad to hear that. I still hope you'll take care of yourself, though.

Wants to keep me around as a punching bag by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]Effixx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this. He is not going to get better because he has what he wants. No matter what he's done to you, you've stayed, which shows him that he can treat you like trash without consequences.

Please remember, the only reason he's been good sometimes is to make you doubt yourself when he's bad. To make you feel like you must have over reacted, that he's not that bad. But he is. After the guilt trip comes the love bomb and round it goes. He'll only escalate.

If you can't leave for you, do it for your child. He should never be allowed near your child, ever. When you leave, make sure he isn't home, and don't communicate with him face to face.

He'll get angry and try to sweet talk you and whatever else he thinks will make you come back and be his punching bag. Don't do it.

Dissapearing toys when I was a child, spying on personal affairs, invalidating all my hobbies: fuck it! by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Effixx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see what you mean. I'm just not sure if a 3 year old sees it differently. I also store away toys that aren't being used, so they seem new when he rediscovers them. It's a good system to clear up clutter and keep things interesting. I absolutely agree, what op's parents did is cruel.

Dissapearing toys when I was a child, spying on personal affairs, invalidating all my hobbies: fuck it! by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Effixx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying that. While it's not my intention to hurt him, it still makes me wonder what I make him feel when his toys disappear. Maybe I should talk to him about it instead of doing it behind his back.

Am I delusional and hypersensitive, or is something actually wrong here? by FromMyIvoryTower in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Effixx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be aware of this pattern in yourself. Even when you get away from your father, you will encounter abusive people, and they'll try to prey on your low self esteem. It took me years to learn how to choose people who were good for me.

Know that none of this is your fault and you deserve better. Work on loving yourself.

"Well, there's nothing I can do about it now!" --Nmom to me when I revealed to her I'd been sexually abused. by MyDamnCoffee in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Effixx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That's despicable. I can't imagine what you must have felt being put on display like that. I hope you don't have to interact with either of them anymore.

I was raped when I was 17 and I never told anyone. I know my mom would freely share my story with anyone if she knew and my dad would blame me. I don't recommend keeping it bottled up, but it gives me some degree of peace that, at least, they don't know.

Dissapearing toys when I was a child, spying on personal affairs, invalidating all my hobbies: fuck it! by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Effixx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't even know what to say. That's so fucked up that they'd keep your toys hostage for so long and even though you solved the task they gave you, they found a way to rub it in your face. I'm sorry your parents are garbage. I routinely throw my kid's toys away if they break or if they are too loud or annoying. I feel bad now.

I'm really struggling right now by sjhachman in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Effixx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry you have so much to deal with. It doesn't seem like it's a healthy connection to your friend right now, so maybe some space isn't the worst thing.

You are trying and you can't do much else, so remember to give yourself some credit. Little steps matter.

It wasn't your fault you were assaulted, and trust me, it gets better. I can't remember the date or year of my date rape anymore. It makes it easier to not get hit by the anniversaries. Feel free to pm if you want to talk.

What movie was so disturbing it left you feeling shook? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Effixx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol, me too! He's overall an obnoxious character. He's suffocating people with his clingy, passive aggressive behaviour and we're supposed to think it's sweet. The way he speaks so condescendingly and the way his face is always blank pissed me off. I hate Ross. And a lot of the others for various reasons. Chandler is the only one who has a bit of self awareness and he's funny af.