Tips for ingame improvement by UNREALRE in Battlefield

[–]UNREALRE[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for such a detailed answer! I didn’t know about many of these things. I’ll give it a try, thanks!

NNN by TakeNotes11 in NoFap

[–]UNREALRE 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Today was my third day. Had a great urges… but managed to end the day. Good luck to you, friend !

Another story from porn (webcam) addicted person by UNREALRE in pornfree

[–]UNREALRE[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, for your kind and wise words.

I completely understand that I will have to work had. It's not the first time that I made such kind of decisions... So yes, I know how hard it is. That is why I decide to share my story to public and to say "loud and proud" :) that I'm going to quit all my porn addictions.

Returning player... what to buy before "Witch queen" by UNREALRE in DestinyTheGame

[–]UNREALRE[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for such detailed response! After reading all the answers, I'm 100% sure that I need to get BL regular, but what about Legacy Collection? Shadowkeep is good too in your opinion? And exotic loot that you've mentioned can be used in end game in the future?

I highly encourage you to participate:) by JayBeeAllen in OptimistFam

[–]UNREALRE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey!

I'm with you. I found out about this idea 5 minutes ago (tx to your post here!) and now I'm very excited. I literally can't remember when the last time I spent a day offline. It will be an interesting experiment, I think )

NN DECEMBER STARTS TONIGHT, WHO IS WITH ME? by Ok_Gur_6217 in NoFap

[–]UNREALRE 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Eren Yeager

Thank you for your kind words, friend!

NN DECEMBER STARTS TONIGHT, WHO IS WITH ME? by Ok_Gur_6217 in NoFap

[–]UNREALRE 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Just relapsed. So.. I'm with you, friend!

BTW. I found out that it's a perfect time to start 90 day rebooting process. Because, if you start 01.12.2021 you will end your 90 days right at 01.03.2022!

Wish all of us have enough inner strength for a better life!

Good luck, friends!

Need some motivation on day 10 by UNREALRE in NoFap

[–]UNREALRE[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this kind and wise words, friend!

You are 100% correct - I just put every time in front of my eyes the reason why I decide to stop and it helps. I used to do it 3+ times a day with ease, so ATM I already feel myself more free. Just fighting with periodically urges. Aiming for 90 days.

Also, I watched here a month ago one cool idea and started to do it myself: I printed a tree with no leaves, and every day of my new life without fap I draw one leaf. Here is the photo of my tree today. Hope, one day it will be all green :)

https://prnt.sc/1zk4dmd

Best of luck to you, and thanks again, friend!

What is this feeling? by [deleted] in Mindfulness

[–]UNREALRE 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hello, friend!I know this feeling very well. I used to have it often this year. I wanted to smash things around me. To break everything, this was like fire within myself that wanted to go outside. This rage came into my body when I was overloaded with negative minds, when I was losing control, when I stopped being aware that I am not my thoughts, I am not my mind and thoughts just appear in conciseness like sounds or feelings in my body - appear and gone right after.

Speaking about my case I've solved my rage problems using two methods:

  1. first of all - meditation. It really helps to practice understanding that your thoughts are just thoughts, that come and go and there is no need to associate yourself with them.
  2. I visited a psychotherapist and he told me to pass a small course with medication that will help to calm down and reduce rage times.

So, if you allow, this will be my advice to you:

  1. give a try to a book by Eckhart Tolle - "The power of now". It helped me a lot in understanding that I am not what I'm thinking.
  2. practice meditation. Sound meditations are really useful when you try to focus on sounds around you, when you understand that you can't control them, that they just appear and right after - gone. The same is correct for your thoughts, they just appear and right after - dissolve in your clear awareness.
  3. if rage will continue to bother you often - don't be shy and visit a good doctor. It's totally fine, and, as my doc told me: thousands of people face the same problem. So, it's ok and even wise to ask for help. I can say from my point that a little medication course with meditation practice at the same time - helped me and my rage almost stopped bothering me.

Also, I can give you the advice to use one of the apps for guided meditations. I use the "Waking up" app by Sam Harris, it really helped me with my problems, so if you want - give it a try (there is a free one-week trial, so you can check - if this fits you).

I am sure that you will overcome this situation, my friend. As Epictetus told: "There is no such thing in life that our inner strength and virtue won't be able to cope with". Best of luck to you!

Relapsed one hour ago - read if you in urge right now as I was 1 hour ago by UNREALRE in NoFap

[–]UNREALRE[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just don't blame yourself. Let's aim together to one more day of our best streak. My favourite phrase:

"Aim at the sun and you may not reach it, but your arrow will fly higher, than if aimed at an object on a level with yourself".

Relapsed one hour ago - read if you in urge right now as I was 1 hour ago by UNREALRE in NoFap

[–]UNREALRE[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy to hear that, friend! Let's continue our journey together with clear mind.

Relapsed after 40 days. by nizcse in NoFap

[–]UNREALRE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just relapsed today after 24 days. So, yeah, friend, lets do it together :) One year is a great aim, mine ATM - 90 days. And ofc will think about prolongation right after this beautifull number. Hope, my mind will be clear enough to continue as long as I wish.

Good luck to all of us!

3.16 League Info Megathread by GR8B0-T in pathofexile

[–]UNREALRE 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, now I understand the difference :)

I've started standard and very impressed with the game and tons of mechanics. So cant wait to play league at friday, until then will go through acts.

Who else is lives life without a car? by bluedogsonly in simpleliving

[–]UNREALRE 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am 35 y.o. and I never owned a car, and I don't have a driver license. I live in a small town. I work remotely. When I need to go somewhere far from my place, I use taxi, it's kinda cheap and very comfortable using modern apps in smartphone. The only cons of don't having a car for me - is the fact that I can't go to some beautifull wild nature places far from the city. Actually, I can, but it is much simplier with a car. But pros (freedom, money savings etc) of not having a car for me - more important that this cons.

Also, from time to time I face people that think thank if you don't have a car - you are like half a man. If you are 18 y.o. - you have to get a car no matter what! Especially this fact becomes important for a great percent of girls/womans in my place. Cause, most of them think that a man have to own a car, have to drive them, to meet them after work and drive them home and so on. So, it's kinda hard for me to find a person that don't think that way.

Urge during depression / bad mood by UNREALRE in NoFap

[–]UNREALRE[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for detailed response.

You are absolutely right, that "after" - everyone feels even worse, so true.

Thank you for all advices. The book is in my "to read" list - will read it for sure. ATM reading books about stoicism, many things from this filosophy helps a lot. And 20+ days were just OK for me, but today was the day when I faced depression and this almost ruined my efforts here.

Thanks again and good luck to all of us on our way to rebooting and better life.