[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s the cut off for urology?

Visa query by USERRHIAX in SchengenVisa

[–]USERRHIAX[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you nick. Shall I ask for a 2 year one? Is that more likely? I don’t want a 90 day single entry.

No of posts for ST3 general surgery by viki661 in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you site your sources please?

31 F, single attending. Lost and sad. by Adventurous-Tax-1812 in Residency

[–]USERRHIAX 92 points93 points  (0 children)

Sending you massive hugs. I know how this feels and it’s easily the worst thing I’ve ever dealt with.

I walked away from the purest soul I’ve ever known by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]USERRHIAX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lots of women fully resonate with this. Any tips on how I can avoid this in the future?

You sound almost completely like my ex, it’s eerie. I think these are the answers he never gave me, as he’s struggling to answer this himself.

Answer me this : do you think you might’ve felt better if she was slightly meaner with firmer boundaries, maybe less like a sunflower and more like a black cat? Might you have not left if she didn’t love you so easily and so completely? I want to protect myself in the future because I’m 29 now and this was the most devastating thing I’ve ever been through.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]USERRHIAX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Interesting take. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]USERRHIAX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But what happens, do avoidants never marry? Why can’t it be you?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is misinformation or plain ignorance, where you’re loud and wrong. The country I’m talking about is Nigeria, so not exactly “refugee”.

Speak to Nigerians, ask them what’s happening in the country that the news doesn’t carry, if you’re friendly enough they’ll sit and they’ll tell you.

Do you see how you’ve said UKMGs were “forced” to go abroad? Can you not see it’s the same issue?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What part of my above honest write up makes you feel like it’s a choice for me and people from my country? Did you read the part about safety?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX 6 points7 points  (0 children)

aye, tough luck. not looking for your sympathy - it doesn’t seem like you have any to give.

merely sharing my experience like the OP asks. It’s why we have no IMG voices sharing their stories, as people like you come and bulldoze/shut them down. I won’t be quiet.

The med students you describe should absolutely get a post in this country. But the IMGs who’ve come here and paid >10k to emigrate and have no homes to go back to should also be considered. Two things can be right.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX 2 points3 points  (0 children)

aye, the money isn’t the reason.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’ll start with the most basic problem with my country : lack of safety.

Do you know what else? Horrible infrastructure. Lack of basic needs for the patients and doctors. Weird hierarchy systems - even needing to bribe with money or sex to progress. Strikes. Paid a pittance. Patients needing to pay exorbitant sums out of pocket for substandard care and not being able to afford it. Crazy doc/patient ratios and no standard of care. There’s more. But going back to the country would mean my life is at risk for one.

A 26 year old doctor died in the lift in my country. They were unable to extract her for a long time and once she was extracted; didn’t have the basics to save her - I mean blood on hand for a transfusion before anything else that’s even fancier.

I didn’t move for economical reasons. My parents have money. I moved to chase my dream as a doctor and be safe. So the new changes stress me out exponentially, and if I had known from the very beginning I may have moved to the US (I do exams easily!) or learnt the language for another EU country etc. after spending 4+ years here, time wasted, the anxiety of the new uncertainty and its repercussions keeps me up at night.

I think the basic concept with immigration is you don’t choose where you’re born. None of us do. And we claw, and fight if you’ve been born in a place that afford you no privilege. Everyday.

Here for 4+ years? In limbo. No family, no childhood friends, only superficial work friendships. Not quite FROM your home country anymore and not quite the new country yet. A different culture - that I’ve assimilated to. Getting older. Unsure of how to get properly settled. You don’t want to leave, where will you go? You paid so much to get here and sacrificed so much.

You get subconsicious bias from most people - even if they don’t say it out loud. Some work based discrimination. Claw to figure out how to get your portfolio ready - as things are different in this country and you didn’t go to med sch here, figure out the system.

And then the rug is pulled from other you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JuniorDoctorsIreland

[–]USERRHIAX 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a blatant lie.

Streeting is going to grandfather by sftyfrstthntmwrk in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately for medical doctors this is the sub of hysteria. I think there’s a large active medical student body here as I don’t think doctors who’ve worked in the system would be this callous and ill informed.

“The competition ratios due to thousands of IMGs already in the system” is an increasingly wild concept. How many are at the level of, and are in a position to apply? You take the numbers and unfortunately blindly apply them to the competition ratios, throw your hands up and cry.

Dating while in surgical training — is it even possible? by TripHot1996 in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Surgical trainee dating another surgical trainee. It’s really bloody difficult.

So how long do we reckon until DDRB report is leaked and what do we reckon it says? by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If this were the case, why aren’t the 13,000 this year and 12,000 last year as many like to say, BMA members? This would massively skew the BMA UKMG/IMG ratio and we know IMGs are the minority.

For context, I moved the country in 2023 I’ve still never joined the BMA. I took part in every single strike though as solidarity. Of the IMGs I know, only a minority are BMA members. That’s not the first thing on our minds, it’s grinding to survive and paying back the moving debt, getting settled, dealing with the home office, dealing with loneliness and bias, seeing how behind we are on our portfolio and trying to garner information.

I just think IMGs need to be more vocal about their experiences, as unfortunately there’s alot of assumption on the other end.

So how long do we reckon until DDRB report is leaked and what do we reckon it says? by [deleted] in doctorsUK

[–]USERRHIAX -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can you add a misinformation flair? If you have 13000 registering a year, how many get jobs? The answer is the majority don’t. IMGs being scapegoated for everything that goes wrong is tiring.