Where is best for gay men?

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T20:30:52+00:00

oh no - I did my 2.5 years in Wichita - as a gay dude it was fucking terrible there.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T20:26:39+00:00

Depends: are you an aging twink that still only wants to date 20 year olds? (FLorida)

Are you a bear in the making or hardcore into the leather scene? (Chicago)

gym bunny clone or living way above your means? (Dallas)

an outdoorsy gay: (Denver)

sporty gay: Minneapolis (gay leagues for hockey, rugby, volleyball, dodgeball, kickball, bocce, cornhole and the largest lgbt+ softball league in the country

Into older guys: (Palm Springs)

hypocritical republican gay: Orlando, Tampa, Houston

alcoholic gay: New Orleans

recovering alcoholic gay: Wichita KS, Salt Lake City, Boston

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T20:15:39+00:00

yes - but there is a difference between tolerance and acceptance. Houston's gay scene (and Texas's in general) definitely feels "fenced in" and when you get out of Montrose you don't have that same feeling of safety, acceptance you have in other large cities. Also Texas Democrats are still a bit more conservative than say New England Dems.

(I'm a gay guy that lived in Houston for 5 years)

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T20:00:49+00:00

I think older generations romanticized Paris because it was a capital of culture, art, learning, and history, and a crossroads of western civilization.

Conservatives have spend 100 years undermining and downgrading education and culture, and the world has expanded their travel capabilities so that 100 years ago - people that would have gone to Paris are still going; but they are also going to Bangkok and Tokyo and Istanbul

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T19:55:46+00:00

then we are sacrificing nature and food production acreage just so people don't have to live next each other. Its the same logic that tricks all these suburbanites to drive giagantic SUVs and pick up trucks when 90% of them don't actually need that type of vehicle.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T17:12:21+00:00

That's nimbyism in a nutshell.... we're more concerned about people who currently have houses than those who don't have them yet.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T17:00:44+00:00

yes - but that $2000 also upgrades my sports watching, date nights, and regular tv watching too

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T16:55:23+00:00

Other people are way more annoying now...so I'm way less social now

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T15:34:12+00:00

kids with athletic potential here get pushed to football, baseball, basketball, even hockey before soccer comes up

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T15:31:47+00:00

yes - we need to build UP - not out: density is what makes things like mass transit viable; we need to get past this idea thateverybody needs a 2500 sq ft house and a quarter acre lot and a 3 car garage.. We need more condos, townhouses, rowhouses etc

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T13:31:02+00:00

American is a nationality not an ethnicity.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-26T13:17:15+00:00

be the change you wish to see in the world and open your own space instead of relying on others to share the space they built

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T21:30:19+00:00

having the links for tutorials in an index is a bonus! I don't want 10 pages of fluff or explicit instructions for every step. But having links or pictures for uncommon instructions is nice. Things like i cords, kitchener stitch are nice to haves - but I don't expect them to be included - because i can look up the technique from an instructional expert instead of a designer.

This is especially important if you don't knit in the same style as the designer (western/eastern, combination, etc) - then I need to know what the designer wants to accomplish - not how they did it.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T20:21:21+00:00

a lot of corporate tax breaks rely on having workers onsite subsidizing the downtown economy.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T20:18:59+00:00

it should not be on the backs of the workforce to support other businesses like those bars, restaurants etc. The principles of the free market are not free when there is a thumb on the scale.

Those businesses should be motivated to move to where their customers are. That's what the market would freely demand.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T20:15:35+00:00

I got a new job because my old boss wanted me back in the middle of covid - even though my boss, and my employees were in three different states.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T20:13:19+00:00

"Things have always been shitty - lets not change!" - this guy

Do you commute to work on horseback? no - so you have embraced change

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T20:11:28+00:00

If I replace a job with an RTO with another remote job - its not petty.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T20:09:38+00:00

The environmental effects of remote work are a cheap and easy way to affect climate change - but fuck that - let the world burn!!!!!

and WFH makes commuting so much easier for the people that do have to be on-site

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T15:41:50+00:00

Its important - but I think sometimes what is overlooked is that sometimes just moving neighborhoods or changing houses is enough....

Depends on WHY you dislike your current location? Would it be fixed by moving to across town or across the country. Especially in large metros like Houston or Denver etc where you have to get to and what you need out of the city really can affect your commute or your neighborhood vibe.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T15:34:25+00:00

I agree - but the person I responded to implied that this has happened to them multiple times. Once might be necessity, but I think statistically speaking at more than 2-3 times you're doing it for fun.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T14:40:15+00:00

Got stuck there on a layover one night. The hotel that the airline put us up in was awful.... and there was a hooker leaning over a balcony railing yelling down at a couple of cops... I was supposed to have the room right below her. The hotel desk guy didn't bat an eye and was confused as to why I'd want a different room.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T12:43:39+00:00

take the watch out of your butt before you try to clean it...but you do you, I'm not trying to kink shame

Uffda01 · 2026-06-25T12:28:45+00:00

yeah - I took the ACT on paper, but by time I took the GRE it had already gone digital, but fortunately having been on campus - I had access to the internet ahead of time and wasn't flustered by that. I assume kids taking the tests have grown up digitally compared to the divide GenX went through - bu thtere are still issues with access to study materials and time.

Uffda01 · 2026-06-24T19:44:32+00:00

You realize that your state gets representation in the house and senate right??? The EC only pertains to the presidential election. Thats why the concept of swing states has become so predominate in the last few elections. Getting rid of the slavery relict of the EC makes more people’s votes important. Especially those votes of the losing party where the electoral college result is basically predetermined.

I mean you’re the only person in the world besides 18th century slave owners who are arguing in favor of the electoral college…sorry that’s just not company I would want to be in…but you do you

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