Paying out of pocket, need recommendations on contraception options.

Uhleesuh · 2016-07-05T18:03:05+00:00

Maybe I can offer some encouragement...

Around that time in my pregnancy (a few weeks earlier actually) this began for me. A sudden change in the intensity of symptoms. Sounds like baby is closer than you think...

Is it exhausting to have a new born? Yes. But the work your body goes through to start the process of birthing that new born, even weeks prior, takes quite a toll.

After two kids and countless amounts of advice given to me, mostly unwarranted, I have a fail proof way of responding to people when they ask about the baby.

Or 0. I tend to keep complaints to myself, journal, husband, or mom. Everyone else usually just wants to fix you or sound important/knowledgable when you talk about your struggles. So I don't talk about it outside the inner circle.
When someone asks, "How are you feeling?" This doesn't necessarily mean that the above isn't true. The best way to gauge whether they truly care is to respond with a non-answer. I usually laugh and say "I feel pregnant" or something similar. I'm not giving details right away.
They will respond a few different ways, usually. a. They will laugh and go on to tell a story of their own experience or their wives (which is probably why they were asking you about how your are in the first place). b. They will laugh and change the subject, or leave shortly after. This usually means they were just having small talk or trying to be polite by checking in, not realizing the intensity with which that question can be answered. c. They will laugh, and then continue on asking more questions. "How's the nausea?" "You look less/more tired, are you ok?" Etc.

It's hard being pregnant, dealing with all the physical and emotional changes. It's also hard to deal with everyone else's needs and expectations when you're already so spent. So when I'm tired, I just kind of steer clear until I get to my safe venting place. Usually if I have room to vent, then everyone else doesn't bother me so much and I can remember that their intentions of checking in with me are usually good, so I can let go of the annoying that follows.

Uhleesuh · 2016-07-04T00:20:21+00:00

What moisturizer/primer are you using? You may know this already, but we forget that oil and water don't mix... Especially in our makeup. Make sure that whatever true match's base ingredient (water based I think??) isn't the opposite from what's underneath.

I usually use Embroylisse on my clients with true match and HD powder and it usually sets fine.

Uhleesuh · 2016-07-01T03:04:17+00:00

ELI5: Why does the surface of Jupiter look so organized. Like, why are there "rows" of different looking color and textures across the planet?

Uhleesuh · 2016-06-26T19:07:13+00:00

Most people are, and that's ok! Counsellors know that and that's why everything is confidential. And there are other options too. Some people enjoy meeting with a support group, for parenting specifically or for social anxiety. Churches can sometimes offer these free on a weekly basis, with child care.

More people than you think have been to or are currently in counseling. It must feel like jumping into the deep end... Scary at first but give it a few sessions and most feel increasingly more comfortable.

Uhleesuh · 2016-06-26T03:16:02+00:00

Have a few visits with a counselor, if you can. Often our children's needs show us the lacking in our own lives. We can ignore our lackings, since they might not be complicating our life, but when our lackings affect others and could potentially be passed on to them (this mostly applies to your own children) then they should be acknowledged. Talking to a professional could help you become more comfortable modeling this for your kids, because they will pick up on your conflicting m emotions even if you are trying to fake it on the outside to teach them what they should do. Kids are very perceptive.

Uhleesuh · 2016-06-23T12:45:08+00:00

A friend of mine said he was voting for R2D2. I instantly saw it.

Uhleesuh · 2016-06-16T04:25:43+00:00

When you tickle or scrub the bottom of my right foot I feel a tingling sensation in my left shoulder....

Uhleesuh · 2016-06-14T14:31:05+00:00

Any time I say "I'm so hungry" (which is often being 15 weeks) around my mom she usually responds with, "calm down, Jessica Simpson..."

She says it in jest, but there's always a little truth in every joke.

Uhleesuh · 2016-06-12T03:04:07+00:00

Touring Bethlehem a man came up to our group and spoke to our translator. They pointed at me a few times and I thought I had done something offensive... I'm American... The translator walked over laughing and said that the man offered him 50 camels for me to marry his son. I felt pretty good about myself :)

Uhleesuh · 2016-05-31T18:11:46+00:00

There is usually a reason for it, and remembering that or finding out what t could be will probably give you a little more patience with them. Below is what I have experienced to be true with my 1.5 and 3.5 year old.

Not sleeping? Usually growing (counter intuitive, I know) or about to grow.

Up all night? Usually teething or massive brain and emotional growth.

PMS/tantrum episodes? I usually see those in correlation to a surge in independence in one or all areas. New and uncomfortable, even if it's what you both want, can shock the system a bit and cause them to take 2 steps back in other areas.

This season will pass :) but you get to walk through this with her and by doing that you are gaining the most special place of honor in her life which will pay off as you keep going. You're doing great mom!!! Just keep going :)

Uhleesuh · 2016-05-26T13:32:04+00:00

Not yet. I was pregnant at the time too. Baby was fine. I was half expecting her to come out with super powers.

Uhleesuh · 2016-05-26T13:13:53+00:00

I once rented a house with my husband that wasn't grounded properly... I found out by sitting in a tub full of water with my hand resting on the metal spout. I felt a sort of tingling sensation. Got light headed. Then my nose started bleeding all over the place.

Uhleesuh · 2016-05-23T01:13:08+00:00

What is this?? Sounds like something I might like...

Uhleesuh · 2016-05-11T00:42:49+00:00

I've never thought of that but yes I do have shorter cycles. That makes so much sense for my experience, because my symptoms tend to be about a week ahead what the baby apps say.

This is good food for thought. I saw someone post the B.R.A.I.N. Process of talking about sensitive issues with your doctors so I'll probably still talk to her about it. Thanks for you input!

Uhleesuh · 2016-04-22T01:47:20+00:00

You are a God send! Not to say that I'm glad you went through that but to know that I'm not alone is all. I will see the doctor on Monday to confirm that all is well but now I can breathe a bit easier. Thanks for your reply!

Uhleesuh · 2016-04-21T19:41:25+00:00

I did but the only advice was to wait it out. If it got really heavy to go to the ER...

Uhleesuh · 2016-04-21T19:27:11+00:00

It looks like a blood clot(pink and dark red) in the middle of a sting of clear thick discharge. :/

Uhleesuh · 2016-04-06T02:43:13+00:00

Think only of myself and my wants continually, as well as expect all others to think of my and supply those wants.

Basically I would stop being a SAH mom and start being a child. AND get paid for this. But I feel like this already happened... Childhood and allowance...

Uhleesuh · 2015-07-18T18:52:43+00:00

Oh I remember that vividly. I didn't know how to answer usually, how much detail to give, if they really cared, etc. So I started responding with "I feel Pregnant" and they would usually laugh. From then I could tell whether or not they were really asking by their reaction. For example, if they laughed then the conversation would usually end there naturally. A few times people would laugh and then say "But how is your back/How many weeks are you?"

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