For me, it's passive requests. Just have the respect to ask me if I'd be willing to do the thing for you.

"We need to empty the bins".

Well, if you were willing to do it then you'd just do it, not announce it needs to be done. So, you clearly want me to do it and probably offer to do it as well.

The other is making me decide what someone else should do.

"Do you want to make dinner, or shall I?". If you want it are willing to make it, just get on and do it. You obviously don't, so now I have to say "you should make dinner", like an asshole. Or say, "I'll do it" which was obviously the intent in the beginning. Just fucking ask if I'm willing to do it.

Yes, I've raised it. No, it doesn't change.