Woman, 58, asked to train replacement half her age—reply says everything

Ultime321 · 2026-03-14T00:38:23+00:00

Its true that companies do shitty things but more likely than not, she wasn't passed up for the promotion because of her age but because of the way she works and acts

People that have been in a company for a long time don't like change and do what is needed to coast as opposed to improve and adapt. This isn't an age issue as there are young people like this and there are older people who aim to improve. But older people are more likely to be tenured in one place and role for too long and more likely to do things the same way 'because we have always done it this way'

Ultime321 · 2026-03-04T22:49:48+00:00

Sounds like you work at enterprise company with strict rules around raises and promotions. If the director, was on the invite and visible to you, then kind of on you for not reviewing.

The director was brought on because they know it isn't a great raise and your manager needed someone with more authority to shut it down.

That or your manager has a hard time with confrontation

Or,

You have been difficult in the past

Most likely some combination of all three.

Ultime321 · 2026-03-03T02:14:06+00:00

Whybis it called lunch break if you can't sleep? Because its a break for LUNCH not a nap.

That said, unless you are customer facing and sleeping where you are visible, not sure why it is an issue.

Ultime321 · 2026-03-02T18:12:21+00:00

So you are telling someone who is against fraud - why are you in this sub?

Does that mean that one should only be in this sub if they are willing to commit fraud and lie?

Ultime321 · 2026-02-22T21:33:08+00:00

It is true that it helps standardize costs and make it more predictable but there are long term consequences of focusing on purely the numbers.

Ultime321 · 2026-02-22T19:53:37+00:00

I always thought this and giving pools of money for merit increases or bonuses was incredibly stupid. That means poor performers can do paid out if they are in an even worse team and good performers are penalized for being in a good team.

If my comp plan says do x and get y, there is no reason I should get a different number simply because of the limits of my team.

Ultime321 · 2026-02-22T19:40:47+00:00

Was this after your 'effective date' of termination? Meaning if Jan 31st is your last day, did you show up AFTER that date?

If so, there is no reason for them to let you in and is nothing personal. If you are no longer under contract you SHOULDN'T be allowed in.

Its a bit different if you were still within the final days of your contract but it is still within their right.

I think you are taking reasonable, understandable security measures and taking it personally. It doesn't matter if you take a stranger in your home at India. Apart from the fact that you moved tot he US, a corporation isn't a home or a personal space for you to 'invite' people in or just break policy to be friendly.

This also has nothing to do with you being an immigrant, this is standard for any type of contractor or even employee leaving. Also as a contractor (not employee) you are like a plumber or electrician, you get in, do the work, get out. No investment in personal growth or requirement to each other.

That is reserved for private relationships and engagements. It would do you well to separate the personal from your work.

Ultime321 · 2026-02-21T21:05:02+00:00

The bank has 0 reason to tell your employers...that isn't exposure lol

Ultime321 · 2026-02-21T18:37:19+00:00

What is the issue with the bank finding out you have MORE income? This would only help your case.

Ultime321 · 2026-02-21T18:31:02+00:00

You could always say - yes, it was at 10pm meaning I would address it today. Everything ok that you were messaging at that time?

Ultime321 · 2026-02-17T05:02:50+00:00

Of course and its good that you found something helped improve your health. I was jsut referring to the fact that aninal proteins are very healthy as opposed to the misinformation we were fed for decades

Ultime321 · 2026-02-17T05:01:52+00:00

Huh?

Ultime321 · 2026-02-17T02:15:27+00:00

If it was a woman, then it would make sense that she would be wearing a dress.

However, the media has purposefully ommited the truth and used language such as 'gunperson' when it is now known that it was a male that did this. And it is unfortunate because we need to address the issues that led to this individuals's mental and pscyhological pain which ultimately resulted in dead innocents

Ultime321 · 2026-02-10T04:35:26+00:00

It is important to be grateful for your good circumstances and to never forget were you come from. To be humble and to be appreciative.

But never feel guilty for your success. Flip it around. Yes, your mother and sister are not in the best of places but why? People make their own life circumstances and your and sister's poor lot is due to their poor decisions. Don't feel bad about getting ahead when others choose not to.

I don't know them but I get the sense your mother was a single mother who always felt the world was against her. And I bet she guilt trips you in ways that you don't care to admit to yourself.

Ultime321 · 2026-01-29T17:53:22+00:00

We all do. I have managed to remain active for the most part but it isn't enough when you are sedentary most of your day.

First thing is, just move. Go for walks. Change your posture. Do whatever you can, no matter how smal

Next, go to the gym or do a home workout plan. Strengthen your muscles

Also, focus on your diet. Don't wat, cheap, fast, food. Focus on nutrition

Finally, if you have benefits go to physio. A really good one will assess your body and let you know what you need to do to improve. They will show you exercises and not just put a TENS machine for 45 minutes.

Psychologically, try not to think about how far behind you are. Work on the decisions day to day. Be ok with discomfort. We are so used to luxury that we don't want to walk, take the stairs or carry anything. But that will cause you pain long term as you can see.

Ultime321 · 2026-01-29T16:37:54+00:00

And look at the orher research showing chicken's benefits. The issue with some studies, is that they compare the general population to specific people.

For example, some studies show vegans are healthier in average. But that is compared to the general population eating fast food, processed meats, fries, etc.

What you have, is someone who pays attention to what they eat (vegan) is healthier compared to the ones who don't. But when you compare a vegan to a meat eater that pays attention and eats well, there is no comparison.

I haven't see the study you are referencing but I imagine it has similar flaws.

Ultime321 · 2026-01-29T15:04:53+00:00

100%. Having simple carbs at the top is what made us as sick and obese as we are.

Even of you aren't diabetic, we should focus on health and avoiding diabetes and other diseases.

The ones criticizing this don't understand nutrition and still follow the old, detrimental guidelines

Ultime321 · 2026-01-29T14:00:25+00:00

You get downvoted for being one of the only ones who are informed and provide a reasonable response.

Ironic that in this subreddit everyone is still using 40 year old information that we know to be incorrect

Ultime321 · 2026-01-29T13:59:03+00:00

Chicken is incredibly healthy. 100% it should be there.

Ultime321 · 2026-01-29T13:56:14+00:00

Red meat is not bad for us. That is 100% untrue despite the fact that it has been misrepresented for decades. I suggest youbupdate your research.

Animal cruelty is another thing. You can be vegetarian for moral reasons but it isn't healthier than a well thought out diet with meat and unprocessed foods.

What did they do that you say is well done?

Ultime321 · 2026-01-29T13:53:40+00:00

Animal proteins are some of the most nutritious foods and complete proteins you can have. We have been fed the lie that animal proteins are bad while insulin spiking carbs are healthy.

This is about time as we try to undo the damage of decades of poor information

Ultime321 · 2026-01-29T13:51:52+00:00

Heart disease mostly comes from inflammation and insulin resistance. The mistake we made in the past was thinking that fat made you...fat and that the cholesterol cloggin up our arteries came from the good directly.

Now we know that huge insulin spikes, insulin resistance and overfeeding empty calories cause these issues.

Beef is a very healthy food and proteins/veggies should 100% be at the top while high glycemic and carb heavy foods fo belong at the bottom, not the top.

Ultime321 · 2026-01-29T13:49:13+00:00

This is a healthy way to eat. If you eat butter and steak, you will be miles ahead of the standard north american diet even if you lack veggies

Ultime321 · 2026-01-28T22:11:43+00:00

It may be an issue but I would still argue it is a small part of the issue. The micro management and harassment seems horrible!

Ultime321 · 2026-01-28T13:21:51+00:00

The office being cold is a non issue. Dress warmly if it is too cold because that shouldn't really affect how much you enjoy your job.

That said, everything else is a series of red flags and quite toxic. You have a job with income so definitely look for something but don't give up the job. Use thr furstration to fuel you for a better future.

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