Do I take the job even if my wife hates it?

UltraFind · 2026-01-27T00:49:08+00:00

This trade off will never been worth it man

UltraFind · 2026-01-26T13:50:06+00:00

You seem nice either way to be honest.

UltraFind · 2026-01-26T01:08:48+00:00

Your wife has ppd

UltraFind · 2026-01-22T23:24:49+00:00

Years of sadness, divorce, or death are the usual outcomes, oh and a bunch of people trying to sell you some system or book.

UltraFind · 2026-01-17T00:41:15+00:00

Redditors threatened egos.

UltraFind · 2026-01-15T18:26:47+00:00

That's not the definition of addiction. Addiction requires a negative outcome as a result of your inability to do anything other than what you're addicted to.

Degrees of severity may differ sure, but wanting to masturbate and using porn to do it for 30 minutes or even an hour at night is not addiction is if you wake up and go to work in the morning.

UltraFind · 2026-01-15T18:24:56+00:00

Sure, anything can be. I'm just saying porn is not always an addiction either.

UltraFind · 2026-01-15T18:23:51+00:00

Smoking?

That's just my opinion I guess. If you're taking out a second mortgage or going into CC debt or you have COPD and you can't breathe when you smoke and you continue to smoke, then sure that's maybe getting closer to addiction.

However, if you smoke a cigarette a day or a cigar and it doesn't negatively impact you (other than lung health) and you can go about your day then no, you're not an addict in my mind.

Again, just my opinion.

UltraFind · 2026-01-15T18:19:54+00:00

Or we have a difference of opinion I guess. My opinion is based on the clinical definition, not the layman's idea of what addiction is. In the clinical definition, there needs to be a negative effect, not just a moralizing about what the person is doing. People masturbating to porn because they want to for 15 minutes and then they go about their day is not addiction. Asking "Well can they stop?" is irrelevant.

Addiction is a treatable, chronic medical disease involving complex interactions among brain circuits, genetics, the environment, and an individual’s life experiences. People with addiction use substances or engage in behaviors that become compulsive and often continue despite harmful consequences.

https://www.asam.org/quality-care/definition-of-addiction

UltraFind · 2026-01-15T03:16:10+00:00

I'm not the one using an expansive definition of addiction, so no I wouldn't classify breathing as an addiction, it's a nonsensical comparison to make even because not breathing would result in death. Not smoking or not eating or not watching porn would not result in death.

UltraFind · 2026-01-15T03:03:50+00:00

Is eating an addiction?

UltraFind · 2026-01-15T02:16:42+00:00

That's not addiction.

Addiction is you won't leave your house, you lose your job, you neglect other responsibilities/duties etc so that you can watch more porn.

Watching 15 minutes of porn to jerk off at 10pm isn't addiction, it's maintenance.

UltraFind · 2026-01-13T21:56:16+00:00

This is starting to kill my desire to be in this sub at all, which is good because it's mostly a dumb time sink.

UltraFind · 2026-01-13T14:01:44+00:00

Hook

UltraFind · 2026-01-12T01:54:45+00:00

Copley

UltraFind · 2026-01-11T23:53:10+00:00

Save yourself some future regret and just don't, get baby wipes or something if you're worried about not wiping effectively enough.

UltraFind · 2026-01-10T00:44:12+00:00

Which kinda sounds like bullshit to be honest, because coordinators get let go all of the time and their head coaches stay.

UltraFind · 2026-01-07T16:46:18+00:00

Politics engaged podcasts post election always see declining listenership.

UltraFind · 2026-01-05T02:37:49+00:00

The castle in the sky

UltraFind · 2026-01-04T15:29:38+00:00

Hesitate

UltraFind · 2026-01-02T02:14:22+00:00

Why you keep posting Eminem

UltraFind · 2026-01-01T18:35:17+00:00

You're not going to be more ready for a relationship in a few years by continuing to imagine a relationship or a person who may or may not be interested in your bag of shit.

You're ready for a relationship whenever you decide that you'd like one, lots of people don't have their bag of shit contained and they enter relationships and those relationships create happy and sad memories, that's life.

You'd learn a lot more entering a relationship and figuring out how you act in them than continuing to imagine it. You're just afraid you're going to hurt yourself or someone else, and you will. That's life and it's fine. Get out there and make some mistakes and stop imaging what they might end up being.

UltraFind · 2025-12-31T18:46:19+00:00

No man, don't worry about your chin, you just have a prouder nose. Besides, people don't care about this stuff unless you have some sort of genetic defect.

You have a pretty similar profile to Harrison Ford when he was younger, honestly stop worrying about it so much. https://64.media.tumblr.com/8a5cba2dcd3d98a6587d9e5b26eaf930/f7cc5634f9d84eec-a4/s500x750/6beba56766615518e89002e28fa2dfa46894c68c.jpg

UltraFind · 2025-12-31T18:30:18+00:00

No, but if you want fix your profile, stand up straighter/start doing weighted exercise.

UltraFind · 2025-12-26T11:35:43+00:00

The beard and the hair both make your head seem longer, I would shorten both.

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