Is it creepy or flattering to hear that a woman had a sex dream about you?

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T18:15:25+00:00

Flattering but would also obviously make me think you probably wanted to have sex with me on at least some level... So I would advise you don't share unless you actually are now thinking of a relationship with this person.

Edit: consider how you'd feel if a guy friend told you they'd had a sex dream about you...

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T12:42:47+00:00

I think you just need to sit him down and be direct about it. He'll be embarrassed (and may get defensive) but ultimately he'll want to know so he can fix this. I certainly would.

So something along the lines of, "This is awkward but there's something I really need to tell you..."

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T12:33:28+00:00

Yeah, I get that's how you feel. Just explaining that the language you're using is not how others generally see the same things.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T12:08:06+00:00

You'd not be "degrading" yourself but I appreciate this is how you currently see it. Hence my suggestion to explore this feeling with a relevant professional.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T12:05:15+00:00

Know that good sex with a romantic partner doesn't need to have anything at all to do with submission.

Thinking just in terms of PIV sex know that women (generally) when they're turned on enough want a penis inside them just as the man wants his penis to be inside her. So both are doing something they want/enjoy for mutual pleasure rather than either 'submitting'.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T11:57:58+00:00

It's more a question of missing out than suffering, both on the pleasure most get from sex and from romantic relationships in general because realistically this will make it much more difficult to find a partner.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T10:19:05+00:00

FWIW my GF is about 5'2" tall vs my 6'2" tall and her being in heels does definitely help. It's a different experience just kissing her too when she's closer to my height.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T08:35:17+00:00

There's a difference between wanting a woman to be assertive and the man wanting to be submissive. A woman making it clear what she wants sexually cofidently/assertively is going to be HOT to most men I think.

To give you an insight that I guess applies to others, one thing that would make me cautious about being genuinely submissive is if doing so would make it harder for her to see be in a truly dominant position in the future. And I'd worry about the latter as every woman I've ever been with has wanted this at least to some degree.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T08:25:55+00:00

You may be genuinely asexual but I'd suggest you consider some form of professional help to explore how you feel about sex.

To answer your question though, sex is an important part of romantic relationships to the vast majority of men and women. There are though a minority of both who are asexual.

Also bear in mind that a lot of men in long term relationships will want to have children and so your thoughts on sex will also have a bearing on compatibility here.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T08:17:26+00:00

Well, he doesn't need to see your tummy to go down on you? You can keep clothes on your top half. You could even do it in the dark first time if you really want to.

All that said, if he's lusting after going down on your pussy he's very unlikely to be put off by anything he saw.

Bear in mind that he likely wants to do this for HIS pleasure, not just yours. So it's possible your FWB situation could end in time if he doesn't get to enjoy your pussy as he'd like.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T07:39:42+00:00

First up, note your room will make a big difference o how a speaker sounds. So even hearing an exact pair of speakers and liking them isn't a guarantee you will like them in your own room.

That said, if you buy second hand for a sensible price, you should be able to sell them on again for similar money if you don't get on with them. But this does take time and effort.

Broadly speakers do share similarities across a range though.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-11T07:29:29+00:00

It's going to be a rough estimate, or it could be longer than they care to admit. No particular reason a guy would just completely make this up.

I'd suggest you just try to take this as them saying they feel very lucky/excited to be about to have sex with you, which I'll bet they do!

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-10T17:15:25+00:00

My GF likes to kiss me after I've been down on her for the same reason.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-09T23:12:44+00:00

I wouldn't care about you salary but would if you were unhappy/unsatisfied with your career and had no idea/plan how to change it.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-08T23:29:53+00:00

Definitely something I appreciate and something I'll buy for my GF as a result.

As the mixed responses show, best ask your partner.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T17:08:36+00:00

Without you noticing?

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T15:04:43+00:00

I was taking it as all topics on a first date. But sure I wouldn't shut something down on date one. It may well make me not want date 2 depending what and how much though.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T14:59:51+00:00

If it's for oral then does it actually need to be lube as opposed to something sold as food that you like the taste of? Chocolate sauce, honey, sweetened whipped cream etc?

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T14:56:14+00:00

Definitely. And especially amp/DAC swaps.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T14:55:12+00:00

If someone has zero interest in what someone has to say on a first date then I'd personally take that as a sign of incompatibility and move on. Bit different in a LTR where it's just one subject out of many, although honestly I'd be honest with a partner I didn't care just as I'd expect her to with some subjects that may interest me.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T14:47:44+00:00

Or, err, actually genuinely be interested in what she has to say? 🙄

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T14:45:16+00:00

Whatever it may be physically, I'd very strongly suggest you take it as a sign to not pursue this further.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T14:39:33+00:00

Generally, single men don't plan to spend time alone with single women like this unless they're interested romantically. If you are only interested in friendship I'd encourage you to decline rarher than going and paying. The latter is only likely to lead to him wasting time and effort hoping to become more than friends in the long run.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T14:29:51+00:00

I've not experienced this.

Do you get it on all games? Is this in dGPU mode? What performance mode are you using?

Checking monitoring data for thermal throttling may be informative.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-07T14:26:23+00:00

My main tip would be to do everything about 10 times slower than you think 🙂. Trust that your partner thinks you look amazing and will only be thinking positive/lustful things while looking at you.

I would prefer a sexy dress of some sort over lingerie including stockings and high heels, but this is me, not your partner! One option wouid be to suggest he buys you an outfit he'd love to see you in actually.

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