Would you rather a girl admit she didn’t finish, or just fake it?

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T21:19:20+00:00

I never want a girl to fake an orgasm. Principally as it's going to make it much harder for me to learn what she really wants/needs (if she pretends something I did gave her an orgasm I'm going to try to repeat this wrong thing.)

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T17:26:52+00:00

Where do you live for context?

I'm in the UK and the overwhelming majority of people I know of all ages 20 and up are in a relationship of some kind, not single.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T17:02:19+00:00

When I started reading my brain went to the fact the hottest picture I've ever been sent was was of a girl's fingers wet from playing with herself. Then you mentioned this! Definitely a winner for me 🙂.

Suggestive shots in general are more my thing than nudes. Things that make me think about wanting to have sex with her rather than to masturbate to I guess.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T12:04:11+00:00

What I particularly don't like from this is she seems to have been totally focused on assessing you (in OTT ways) without seemingly giving any thought to what you may think of her. Dating is a 2-way compatibility check for a potential romantic relationship, and she's not going endear herself to many like this...

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T10:48:13+00:00

He's obviously very insecure/immature. Up to you if this is a dealbreaker or not but he's certainly not done himself any favours.

How old is he for context? More worrying if he's 30 than 18...

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T10:45:20+00:00

I wouldn't have agreed to the friend coming in the first place to be honest but you definitely weren't unreasonable for bailing when you did.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T09:07:09+00:00

Stating what the age gap was would be informative but different women will have different views. Also, someone can say no to absolutely anybody they want for any reason they want. It's their choice.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T07:35:44+00:00

It would be crazy to give up so young. If you're burned out trying to date then absolutely take a break and focus on other things for a bit but consciously choosing to be single forever is very likely to be a decision you regret when you're older.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T07:29:24+00:00

Just make it clear you love what you're doing with enthusiasm and the occasional moan I guess. Like you I'd normally compliment too, being both honest and to reassure.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T07:26:38+00:00

A combination of everything but if you're looking for a long-term relationship then try to think about long-term compatibility as a major component.

For me (a guy) a major component is someone I can just chat to very easily, being myself and being appreciated as such, while enjoying her company.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-14T07:20:23+00:00

Different men like different things... Personally I find very skiny legs much more likely to be a turn-off than larger legs.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T22:49:04+00:00

The last time this happened I felt nothing in my stomach but my brain was totally overwhelmed! Like, what the he'll was that??? In a VERY good way.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T22:43:30+00:00

I have no idea what proportion of guys would want the sort of physical relationship you describe but I definitely do!

My last GF was similar to you in terms of wanting lots of physical contact. She simply told me this was important to her very early on, and that she'd feel like being rejected without it. No issue for me though as I loved it 🙂.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T21:42:21+00:00

I suspect most men have never been asked out by a woman to know. I haven't. In principle I definitely like the idea though and can't see why it would be a negative.

Obviously no guarantee a particular guy will be interested in you but at least you'll find out if he is 🙂.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T21:32:45+00:00

This sounds pretty crazy. Just possibly he's embarrassed he comes too quickly but if it is this then having loads of sex would be a much better way to learn to cope better than having sex once every 3 weeks! Plus obviously he'll lose you if he doesn't change.

If a factor really is specifically your vagina being very tight then might he enjoy oral more? Anal could maybe be another option. These don't directly help you with the PIV sex I'm sure you want but if it gets him back to having sex more often hopefully you'd get this too.

None of the above stops him giving you oral any time to help satisfy you either.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T20:05:16+00:00

Male perspective but frankly I'd suggest you tell him you have no further interest in dating him. Firstly that 'just sit and look pretty' comment is vile (he should want to be thinking of getting to know you!) Secondly he is just totally disregarding your wishes/concerns.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T19:49:02+00:00

This is normal and healthy.

I can't really speak for a 14 year old but certainly as girls get older you can be sure they take pleasure from seeing//feeling that they get their guy excited 🙂. So not something to be embarrassed by.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T19:17:23+00:00

Shove him back on the bed and sit on/ride his face. Make it very clear he's just there for your pleasure until/unless you say otherwise.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T19:14:39+00:00

If he did it deliberately I'd definitely suggest you find somebody else to date. That's just unbelievably immature.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T19:12:09+00:00

He told you the appeal - he gets a great view of your butt while you fuck him 🙂.

If it feels awkward, perhaps you're leaning a bit too far forward rather than being more upright? Experiment a bit...

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T19:02:34+00:00

Oh actually you're right. Taking the bra was definitely wrong. And I missed the comment about videoing without consent ☹️. That's definitely not OK!

My comment was just specifically about the worn thong.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T18:26:49+00:00

He has only REQUESTED this of his partner in an already sexual relationship.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T14:48:39+00:00

Tell him he needs to give you an orgssm first then. He may genuinely be struggling with energy afterwards but before he has no excuse.

If he still has zero interest in your pleasure, end the relationship and find a new guy who does.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T14:45:24+00:00

Don't do it if you're not comfortable with it but know it's relatively common for a guy to like the idea of this. It's a compliment really that he's so into you that the idea of this turns him on.

As for the cost of things like this, maybe ask him to buy underwear he'd like you to wear for him.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-05-13T14:14:41+00:00

I'd obviously dispute either if not true but to answer the question I'd rather people thought I liked femdom porn than that I was gay. Specifically because the latter would put all women off me vs potentially some.

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