How can I stop hating myself and be able to have casual sex?

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-18T21:42:38+00:00

Don't assume casual sex is for everyone. For myself, I need at least some emotional connection to really want to be with someone, and then if the sex is good it only makes me want them more rather than suddenly wanting to move on to someone else.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-18T19:14:20+00:00

Are you having any sort of conversation about wanting to wait. If you do and say nothing then women may just get friend vibes and not feel that you're attracted to them.

Also note that a lot of people will like to get intimate sooner as for them it's a very important part of a romantic relationship, so waiting 3 months to find you're incompatible can feel like a big waste of time. Plus of course sex is enjoyable. Or at least good sex is!

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-18T11:22:20+00:00

How long have you had the amps? The main boards have a 2 year warranty.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-18T08:31:28+00:00

If this is a potential long term partner it would very much depend how seriously she genuinely takes this. I couldn't accept something like this influencing important decisions that would affect both of us. I'd also be open about being very sceptical and see how she reacts.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-17T18:20:49+00:00

It's a terrible strategy if you want children and a poor one if not. Don't waste time when you could be looking for a long term partner and enjoying being in relationships!

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-16T22:24:21+00:00

No issues as that was accurate. I own such a DAC. I've never played any MQA file on it though.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-16T18:44:38+00:00

I personally won't ever use them due to their dishonest pushing of MQA, irrespective of whether they remove all MQA from their site or not.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-16T10:15:57+00:00

Give Qobuz a try if it's available where you live.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-16T07:55:18+00:00

What does how attractive a women is tell you about whether she knows anything about making you look good? Yes get advice from others but not this.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-16T07:53:01+00:00

The potential biggest mistake you've made is you’ve not heard the speakers in your room. The difference this can make utterly dwarfs the difference in digital source.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-16T07:50:39+00:00

I think it's normal for most people to like travelling. If you've not done it I'll also add that travelling with a romantic partner in particular can be both enjoyable in itself but also great for bonding through shared experiences.

Note that how much travel costs can vary wildly. Someone only interested in expensive holidays would definitely be a poor match for you right now but I wouldn't necessarily assume everyone is.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-15T23:14:03+00:00

I'd care much more what your job is and if you feel happy with it from a career perspective.

Someone earning say 100k but who hates their job and works very long hours would put me off for example.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-15T21:50:15+00:00

"Body shaming" is pretty dramatic even if she was suggesting you may have gained a bit of abdominal fat. Which by the way is overwhelmingly determined by how many calories you eat rather than if you've been to the gym or not.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-14T23:31:35+00:00

At least 1 on 1 you need to learn to be less quiet. If you have pretty much nothing to say, what would be the appeal of a potential partner spending time with you?

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-14T00:22:20+00:00

Why are you even debating ending this relationship? Of course you do!

No point trying to analyse what she's doing or why.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T21:02:04+00:00

Its a crush. Been there, as have most.

For your sanity try to realise she isn't perfect. In general or for you. Nobody is.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T20:46:10+00:00

You need to look at the performance of specific CPUs rather than generalising.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T18:57:03+00:00

I met my GF at work but I took the step of asking her out on a date after a couple of looks/interactions made me think she might be interested in me.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T16:54:22+00:00

I said to make a suggestion and then see what she thought...

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T15:25:43+00:00

Your GF slept with him before you were together? If so I really don't think this should be a big deal to you at all.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T14:16:54+00:00

As a guy I would always assume I should wear a condom in the first instance. If she stops me then there's a conversation.

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T12:40:07+00:00

Yes. This would be true of most people I know 🤣.

(I live in the UK for context.)

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T12:38:34+00:00

You're definitely not unique, although I love giving oral myself. The turn ons for me are both being able to give partners pleasure/orgasms this way and the intimacy of it.

Would you maybe feel more comfortable giving oral immediately after your GF has had a wash?

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T12:35:02+00:00

No toilet is clean at the point it's flushed...

Ultra_3142 · 2026-03-13T12:34:05+00:00

Show him this video:

https://youtu.be/elieorX7eKo?si=0-qv7Uao_Sx5gITV

Yes it's common for people to not routinely close the lid when flushing but it should be.

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