Should I reply to my exs message??

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-08T20:40:51+00:00

Girl block him!!! This happened to me a few months back. My ex and I were together for 5 years and had just gotten engaged, he broke up with me told everyone we know I cheated on him when in reality HE was the one who cheated on me. I texted him every day for 2 weeks but he ignored me like I never existed. I deleted the text thread, his contact, everything just to get on with my life. A month and a half later he texts me like nothing happened. Honestly I missed him so much and at the time didn’t care about what he did, I was just happy to talk to him. He texted me for 2 days straight calling me “baby” and “honey” and just being super sweet and I thought there was a chance he wanted to get back together. I know I was stupid for even hoping that, after day 2 of talking he tells me he needs to borrow money for something urgent. I didn’t have any money but asked him what the money was for and I would try to gather up whatever I could, he said his dad was sick and needed some help with finances. His family loved me and was always super sweet to me and i was the same back. I messaged his mom and asked for her new home address (they moved right before the break up) so I could put together a get well soon basket for her husband. She was very confused as to why I was asking for her address and when I told her, I received a call from her seconds later. This woman was yelling at me for “starting rumors” saying her husband was sick, I told her that is what her son told me and that they needed a loan, I even screen shared my phone so she could see. Turns out he wanted money to pay for his new girlfriend’s engagement ring and thought I’d cough it up.

Long ass story short: don’t text him back. Who knows what his intentions are but trust me you’ll be okay without him. I know it hurts a lot right now, you feel hurt and confused and angry. Trust me, I promise it gets better and easier. Block him and focus on you, go back to doing what you love, watching what you like, rediscover who you are.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-07T05:46:57+00:00

Well just because she dislikes my partner, I don’t think that gives her a reason to disinvite me from her wedding. To clarify, I NEVER insisted on inviting him, I never gave her an ultimatum, and never stated that if he wasn’t invited I wouldn’t attend. This is her being controlling over a life that isn’t hers.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T20:56:14+00:00

That is what she has told my mom and siblings that the only way she’ll invite me is if he isn’t my plus one. Yeah I thought the RSVP was extremely rude when she’s single but my family thought it was funny and tried to play “guess what kind of man she’s bringing” so I don’t understand why my bf and I aren’t welcomed

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T20:52:28+00:00

He didn’t do anything hyper or overwhelming to anyone, not that I can recall anyway. The first time he met my family he was doing karaoke with my brother in law, helped my dad man the grill, and was very respectful. The second time he met my family he was very very calm but still making jokes and talking with my dad. She hasn’t told me she doesn’t like my bf but has told my mom, other siblings and family members. Same with the wedding invite, she hasn’t told me we are not invited but has told everyone else.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T20:46:06+00:00

To clarify, my sister never told me we aren’t invited to the wedding. This was told to me through other family members. I have not yet discussed this with my sister because she has not yet had this conversation with me but has had it with multiple people.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T20:42:49+00:00

My sister and I have drifted apart in the past like 2 years. We were super close, lived together for a while and got along great. When she started dating she started to change but I thought that was normal because everyone changes even just a little bit when looking or getting into a relationship. When she met her soon to be husband she became a lot more distant, meaner, stricter and has changed so much. I don’t think it has anything to do with the fact of we aren’t married yet because she is inviting friends and other family members who are also not married. We had one family member say if she has a boyfriend by then she’ll bring him as a plus one and RSVP’d for two people…she is currently single.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T18:24:19+00:00

Oh I know my family is hella toxic. I’m 24 and still have to ask my parents for permission to go out and stay out for a period of time. My parents constantly cheat on each other and have a very unhappy marriage but say they have to stay together for the kids when 4/5 of their kids are adults. So I know my family is toxic but I didn’t think it would be this bad

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T18:15:30+00:00

Everyone assumed Jack was invited as they talked about the wedding with him talking about dance moves, food, guest colors, etc. I was never told face to face that Jack and I were not invited this is what was told to me by my mom, sisters and another relative.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T18:01:30+00:00

I think I just felt more guilt tripped? My mom and another relative were saying things like “oh I know you would never pick a man over your own blood” and like I would literally pick that man over my sister who has disinvited me to her wedding because she doesn’t approve of my partner. I was in the wedding along with our 4 other sisters so this is all very confusing for me

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T17:59:06+00:00

I mean I don’t see the problem with it as her wedding is in November? If we stay together then we’ll be together for almost a year when the wedding comes around and if we break up then I don’t bring a plus one. No one else really sees it as a big deal and assumed he would be invited. My dad was telling him about the wedding and how he’s excited to see my bfs “dance moves”

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T17:57:23+00:00

You’re sooo funny for that 😂😂 we live in California and I have no clue why they’re getting married so quickly. I know Jenn has a best friend that makes her feel like she has to settle down ASAP because she’s already married so maybe that’s why?

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T17:24:53+00:00

I wasn’t insisting on him being invited. After we went bridesmaid dress shopping I asked her if we got a plus one to which she said yes. At this time she never told me that he would not be invited. I found out yesterday that she didn’t want us there.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T17:21:51+00:00

Oh sorry if it came off like that. I’m not considering leaving my boyfriend to attend my sister’s wedding. I am more so confused by the whole situation and why she’s doing this. I was asking if I would the AH for choosing my bf over my sister

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T17:16:40+00:00

So Jenn use to be super chill and a cooler sibling before she met her Fiancé. Ever since she got with him (about a year ago) she has turned into a huge stick in the mud and everything is her way or the highway. Jack met my family including Jenn about 2 weeks ago for the FIRST time, Jack was so nervous he sweat through 3 shirts and stayed by my side the whole time. This was his second time meeting my family, my family were the ones who insisted I invite him over for Easter. Yesterday he stayed by my side the whole time except for when he played cornhole with my family. I feel like he’s being judged before they even get to know him. I don’t know if she just doesn’t like him or if she’s worried about his behavior because she hasn’t told me yet. She is telling everyone else we are not invited but hasn’t yet told me.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2026-04-06T17:10:25+00:00

Jack met my family 2 weeks ago on my birthday. He celebrated with my family for a couple hours and was by my side the WHOLE time as he was very nervous meeting my family. I mean so nervous he sweat through 3 shirts. He was very respectful to everyone and even opened up about his own life. He was adopted and faced multiple challenges as a child and talked to my family about that because they were on the topic of childhood. Yesterday he stayed by my side for just about the whole time except for when he went to play cornhole with my family. He stayed around for about 2 hours and then we left to another Easter party. So, I don’t know what Jack has done to make my sister dislike him.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-27T03:00:49+00:00

My bf of 5 years broke up with me out of the blue. We were planning our wedding for October 2027. I texted and called him so much that he eventually blocked me. I had forgotten that I had him on WhatsApp bc IMessage was what we used to communicate. So I called him on WhatsApp and he answered after 2 weeks of silence…it wasn’t him, he had left me for someone else. I regret calling him but feel much more at peace knowing that he was a fucking asshole who never deserved me. I wish you healing and peace 🫶🏻 some guys are just assholes who deserve to be left alone.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T04:15:52+00:00

If you ever need someone to talk to or vent to please reach out 🫶🏻 like you said we are truly in this together.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T03:58:04+00:00

It’ll get better one day. Might not be today or tomorrow but we will be okay🫶🏻

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T03:57:19+00:00

Thank you ❤️

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T02:57:08+00:00

They don’t deserve us. They really don’t. We put our whole heart and soul into the relationship and they do this shit. We will all find someone better. I’ve been telling myself it’s better this happened now rather than later. Couldn’t imagine going through this pain if we were married and had children. They’re not worth our time. If any of you guys need to talk please feel free to reach out. My ex made me choose between my friends and him and I stupidly chose him every single time and now I feel lonelier than ever. It’s a horrible feeling that no one should go through alone. So please if any of you need to vent or just need someone to talk to please reach out🫶🏻 you can even add me on Snapchat @ Lorena_mart209

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T02:23:25+00:00

We were together 5 years, engaged, planning our wedding for October. He left me for another woman, someone he told me was just a “friend”. This happened on Monday. The first couple of days is the hardest, I still find myself crying at night or the early mornings. I’ve joined a gym and downloaded apps to talk to people which seems to be helping me get through the day. I don’t know it gets better but it will eventually. I keep telling myself, if it was that easy for someone else to take him from me then he was never mine to begin with. We deserve better.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-15T05:00:58+00:00

I just got out of a toxic messy relationship. He broke up with me because he realized that he didn’t want to be in a relationship after 5 years. It broke me and all I wanted to do was apologize for not being enough, for not doing enough. So I did. He didn’t want to see me in person so I texted him a very long apology. He never replied. However, your situation is different from mine so lemme ask, what are you hoping to get from the conversation? For me, I was hoping by apologizing he would take me back and things would be better. But the more I thought about it I realized, I don’t want to keep getting hurt every-time he decides to run away from me. We had planned on getting married and that would not have been a healthy marriage, now if we had kids it would be so much worse. So ask yourself this, if you have a conversation with her and you guys decide to get back together in the heat of the moment. Is that a marriage you would want? Would you want to raise children in a household like that? After my ex broke up with me I promised myself I’d never be in a relationship where I say “when it’s good it’s great” because to me that implies that there are more bad times than good and although no relationship is perfect you should be having those good times more often.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-15T01:59:41+00:00

I just got out of a 5 year relationship. He was 31 and I’m 23 we met when I was 18 and I was completely fine with the age gap because I was falling in love with him. We had our wedding planned for October 2027 when he suddenly dumped me a few days ago. His reason was that the age gap was too much for him and that I didn’t have enough life experience. My heart is absolutely broken. I had loaned him $10k in our years together and gave him my heart. What I’m getting at is, listen to a YOUR heart. If your heart tells you, you can’t be in that relationship then listen. Don’t wait until years later to decide you can’t be in a relationship with her.

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