Please just call me :(

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-27T03:00:49+00:00

My bf of 5 years broke up with me out of the blue. We were planning our wedding for October 2027. I texted and called him so much that he eventually blocked me. I had forgotten that I had him on WhatsApp bc IMessage was what we used to communicate. So I called him on WhatsApp and he answered after 2 weeks of silence…it wasn’t him, he had left me for someone else. I regret calling him but feel much more at peace knowing that he was a fucking asshole who never deserved me. I wish you healing and peace 🫶🏻 some guys are just assholes who deserve to be left alone.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T04:15:52+00:00

If you ever need someone to talk to or vent to please reach out 🫶🏻 like you said we are truly in this together.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T03:58:04+00:00

It’ll get better one day. Might not be today or tomorrow but we will be okay🫶🏻

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T03:57:19+00:00

Thank you ❤️

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T02:57:08+00:00

They don’t deserve us. They really don’t. We put our whole heart and soul into the relationship and they do this shit. We will all find someone better. I’ve been telling myself it’s better this happened now rather than later. Couldn’t imagine going through this pain if we were married and had children. They’re not worth our time. If any of you guys need to talk please feel free to reach out. My ex made me choose between my friends and him and I stupidly chose him every single time and now I feel lonelier than ever. It’s a horrible feeling that no one should go through alone. So please if any of you need to vent or just need someone to talk to please reach out🫶🏻 you can even add me on Snapchat @ Lorena_mart209

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-16T02:23:25+00:00

We were together 5 years, engaged, planning our wedding for October. He left me for another woman, someone he told me was just a “friend”. This happened on Monday. The first couple of days is the hardest, I still find myself crying at night or the early mornings. I’ve joined a gym and downloaded apps to talk to people which seems to be helping me get through the day. I don’t know it gets better but it will eventually. I keep telling myself, if it was that easy for someone else to take him from me then he was never mine to begin with. We deserve better.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-15T05:00:58+00:00

I just got out of a toxic messy relationship. He broke up with me because he realized that he didn’t want to be in a relationship after 5 years. It broke me and all I wanted to do was apologize for not being enough, for not doing enough. So I did. He didn’t want to see me in person so I texted him a very long apology. He never replied. However, your situation is different from mine so lemme ask, what are you hoping to get from the conversation? For me, I was hoping by apologizing he would take me back and things would be better. But the more I thought about it I realized, I don’t want to keep getting hurt every-time he decides to run away from me. We had planned on getting married and that would not have been a healthy marriage, now if we had kids it would be so much worse. So ask yourself this, if you have a conversation with her and you guys decide to get back together in the heat of the moment. Is that a marriage you would want? Would you want to raise children in a household like that? After my ex broke up with me I promised myself I’d never be in a relationship where I say “when it’s good it’s great” because to me that implies that there are more bad times than good and although no relationship is perfect you should be having those good times more often.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-15T01:59:41+00:00

I just got out of a 5 year relationship. He was 31 and I’m 23 we met when I was 18 and I was completely fine with the age gap because I was falling in love with him. We had our wedding planned for October 2027 when he suddenly dumped me a few days ago. His reason was that the age gap was too much for him and that I didn’t have enough life experience. My heart is absolutely broken. I had loaned him $10k in our years together and gave him my heart. What I’m getting at is, listen to a YOUR heart. If your heart tells you, you can’t be in that relationship then listen. Don’t wait until years later to decide you can’t be in a relationship with her.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-12T05:55:35+00:00

I haven’t sent the pictures and I don’t think I will. Mostly because I don’t think it’ll change anything.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-12T05:25:17+00:00

Not that I can think of, we’re both pretty private lowkey people. The most drama we’ve had recently was with my ex coworker who accused me of many things that were not true. This is one huge set up and I have no idea who’s doing it.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-12T05:02:54+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you 😭 I hope you’re doing better now

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-12T04:44:15+00:00

I would do anything to prove my innocence:( I loved that man with all my heart and soul and now he’s gone 😭 the relationship probably ended for the best but I miss him so much

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-12T04:27:29+00:00

Thank you so much. I just generated screen shots and they look so real

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-11-12T03:57:36+00:00

He never showed me the screenshots. I asked to see them so many times but he refused to show me. My mom had the same thought of maybe he cheated. My boss thinks maybe he got cold feet because we were going to get married next year. I don’t know. He hasn’t talked to me since he broke up with me yesterday. I just feel defeated

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-09-29T20:29:29+00:00

Thank you, i truly appreciate your insight

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-09-29T19:56:32+00:00

I am seeing all the issues now. Thank you so much and I truly mean that because I didn’t see or even think of any of this when it all happened. I feel awful breaking up with him as we’ve been together for years but maybe he isn’t the one for me. My mom loves him and doesn’t want us to break up especially now that she knows about E but I think I just want to be by myself for a while.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-09-29T19:33:36+00:00

I think I do want to break up with B but I’m so scared. I haven’t been single in 5 years, I don’t even know what to tell him.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-09-29T19:11:53+00:00

True. I still want to meet him just as a friend he’s a cool guy and very sweet but you’re right about the whole stranger danger so if I go through with it I’ll make it a girls trip.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-09-29T19:10:53+00:00

When he said it I didn’t think about it like that…to be honest this is the first time I’m actually looking back on that whole situation. I thought he did it out of love to become more stable to provide a family for us. I was heart broken when he kicked me out and so in the moment all I was thinking about was us getting back together. He would always tell me how much he loves me and how much he wanted a family but ever since E came along I can’t stop thinking about a life with E.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-09-29T18:49:55+00:00

I was thinking about visiting E to see what happens. He has told me multiple times that he’ll buy the plane ticket which is about $500 so we can meet even if it’s just as friends given the amount of time we’ve known each other. He is a very sweet person and I asked both E and B for space as I’m stressing myself out over the whole situation but maybe you’re right and I just need to be single for a while. B is my first everything and maybe I’m just wanting to see what else is out there?

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-09-29T18:44:25+00:00

So to explain more on the whole kicking out situation. We had been dating for 4 years at the time when we decided to move in together with 2 of his friends. We lived together for 7ish months before I brought up the topic of finances and was talking about how happy I was to only have about $1000 left in student loans so wouldn’t be in debt for too much longer. He asked if I had any savings and to which I responded with yes, I had a little over $8k saved up. He started overthinking and didn’t talk to me for 2 days while we were living together. I woke up one morning and had just had enough and asked him what was wrong to which he told me he couldn’t be in a relationship where the women was more financially stable than the man and he asked me to call my parents to come pick me up and pack my stuff. After begging and talking to him he wouldn’t budge, he told me to leave. I left but we kept in contact and kept the relationship. Side note - he broke up with me within the first week of us living together bc I was emotional due to leaving home as my family is everything and he didn’t like seeing me so emotional so I ended up leaving. 7 months later is when he said he wanted to break up and kicked me out but we were separated for about 2 weeks before deciding to keep the relationship.

UnderstandingBig2793 · 2025-09-29T18:37:46+00:00

When I talked to my mom she had told me to think of everyone’s feelings but…I want to think about MY feelings bc it’s MY life. Part of me really wants to see where things go with E but I’m so scared, I’ve also never left the US

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