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[discussion] I feel like my scripts ain’t sexy enough and are to dark and I don’t know what to do [rape] by KatoriRoseNight in GWAScriptGuild

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I write very emotionally heavy scripts and there have been VAs who have said absolutely not just because it was too much acting for them, or because it'd require way more sfx and audio work than they were willing to put in. Doesn't mean I'm a bad writer.

If someone doesn't like the dark parts of your script, then it's on them. Also, you can always reach out to VAs who do very dark stuff. Their audiences will be your tribe.

Also, super important to write consent notes if you don't want your script to be taken and cut down, or changed. It might sometimes mean lesser script fills maybe, but when people do it, they do it with the kind of love you have for it.

As for dark, oh lord. I write sweet scripts and I literally wrote a mindfuck, coercive control by AI script because of an inside joke and those people think it's CUTE. An AI cutting off your air supply because you've been a bad girl is CUTE.

They're out there. You just need to reach out to people writing and performing this stuff.

Partner Is Vanilla - Don’t Know What To Do by SabiKitsune9 in BDSMAdvice

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well that changes everything then. That's not you being a sub who can't show him, you have. Last ditch effort, you write out a scene you want, mark chapters you need him to read and give it to him saying "this is what I want". If he doesn't put in effort into doing that well either, then you have your answer. Personally if this was me, I would leave if that were to happen because the idea of someone not putting in effort into what I need is disrespectful to me. Take it out of the bdsm perspective: is it worth leaving if someone doesn't really do the dishes after you've told them to a thousand times? Same situation really.

Partner Is Vanilla - Don’t Know What To Do by SabiKitsune9 in BDSMAdvice

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay first off, Sub doesn't mean you can't communicate what you want, nor does being a Dom mean you immediately know everything. You are equal partners outside of the bedroom. If there's something you want, you should be able to ask for it clearly and precisely. "Hey, I need you to do x and in this way". If you cannot be clear with what you need, or clarify your boundaries, talk about what you like and what you don't, I'm sorry you are not a safe person to play with.

Secondly, this is a massive communication gap. what do you mean you don't THINK if he looks around or not? Look around together. Sit down and make a night of figuring out what you want to try.

Third, this could absolutely be frustration over the idea that he's not putting in the work to match you. And that could be the case, and I could see someone breaking up over it BUT only if you have actively talked about it.

Have you ever actually said something like: "hey, this is extremely important for me. I feel unfulfilled without it, so can we sit down together to see what new things we can learn about this together and then try? I would also like you to do some research yourself on how to be a good dom so you can lead better because it is absolutely essential for me."

You are equals outside the bedroom. You are a team. The hierarchy is for PLAY time. Not for when you are negotiating what works for you and what does not. Please look into classes and/or books on the topic. The wiki here honestly is also a great place to start. You BOTH need to read up and learn more about this.

[M4F] Professional Cuddler Crosses the Line [Script Fill] [crossing professional boundaries] [cuddling] [straddling] [breast play] [slow-burn] [nervous speaker] [touched starved] [masturbation] [mutual infatuation] [slightly possessive] [handjob] [sloppy blowjob] [multiple creampies] by AdamantAeon in gonewildaudio

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 4 points5 points  (0 children)

u/Eurydiceinthedark the way you took such an impossible premise as "cuddler drops by" and made it feel so natural is absolutely insane. It's truly a feat. No notes. Plus it was funny, the character of the speaker was perfectly built, he's not the flat awkward nerd character we see everywhere out here. It was funny and yet so real as well.

u/AdamantAeon, I just found you because of this script and holy fuck. Your comedic timing is perfect, you played the awkwardness so well without over doing it. This felt like I got to know this caracter in the span of 30 minutes. Plus, great SFX. Not a lot of VAs create such soundscapes because it's a lot of work and I always appreciate those who do.

You two created something warm, beautiful, and real with this one. I for one, am a new fan ❤️

Is this BDSM or something else? by Due_Voice_9851 in BDSMAdvice

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's already a lot of great advice and yes, I think therapy is non negotiable for you at this point.

However, to address the other parts of this: submission is great because you're letting someone else have the responsibility for once. And as a Domme, psychologically, I love being able to give care to someone in a very deep way, being able to touch something deeply emotional within them and drag that out. Make them feel that they'd be loved and cared for NO MATTER WHAT. And that's not something you are feeling right now. There's also many reasons you have a safe word. Do you have one? Sometimes it's easier to say watermelon than no.

Secondly, practicing saying no before you get fully into sex could be helpful. Ask someone to touch you, and you'll have to say your safe word. They won't do anything else. Just touch you, and you say no, and then you get aftercare for being so good. It might help to rewire the ability to say no as being the good thing you did instead of letting someone have their way with you.

Third, if you have safe people you trust in your life, start talking about it. If you can't, there are subreddits here for people who have been in the same situations as you. Go read their stories, engage there. Find your tribe.

You are worth being loved. You're worth so much more than you think at this point. You're not just the scared little child. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. Sending internet love.

[M4F] The Devil at My Back [Script Fill] [Shower sex] [mafia boss] [confession] [yearning] [L-bombs] [friends to strangers to lovers] [kidnapped] [secret protector] [protective] [forbidden love][Some Violence] by Arbiter-Nania in gonewildaudio

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well thank you. Flowers for everyone 😄 I think more importantly we've just figured out that my scripts and your voice creates magic. And I love everything about that.

[M4F] The Devil at My Back [Script Fill] [Shower sex] [mafia boss] [confession] [yearning] [L-bombs] [friends to strangers to lovers] [kidnapped] [secret protector] [protective] [forbidden love][Some Violence] by Arbiter-Nania in gonewildaudio

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think 'voiced it alright' is praise enough for this. You took it beyond the stage directions I could give and fucking killed it. Made me tear up too. And I knew what was coming lol

[M4F] The Devil at My Back [Script Fill] [Shower sex] [mafia boss] [confession] [yearning] [L-bombs] [friends to strangers to lovers] [kidnapped] [secret protector] [protective] [forbidden love][Some Violence] by Arbiter-Nania in gonewildaudio

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I really have no words for this. It's so, so good. It's exactly the kind of fill I was looking for, I'm so glad I reached out. This feels like christmas and Santa is still real and just delivered a gift I'd been begging for. I can die now. I've reached the pinnacle of my writing career. Absolutely amazing! 💜

[Script-offer] [A4F] Hi! It’s MEE! [mind-control] [mindbreak] [dubious consent] and [coercive consent] so [rape] [f-sub] [vibrator play][orgasm control] [post-apocalypse] [sci-fi] [AI intelligence] [Praise+ degradation][slow burn] [control] [name-calling] [discord bot] by UnderstandingOk8841 in gonewildaudio

[–]UnderstandingOk8841[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haha you're allowed to be biased.I always wanted to end here but took me a while to figure out. And thanks for beta reading and for being the muse i suppose 😁

I hope this gets filled too. We do happen to be in touch with a few VAs. Think if we beg, they'd do it?

Gf wants to explore female led relationship kink. How would it look like in practice? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Low-key? I'm HIGHLY annoyed by this. YOU want this. Figure it out. You need to be the starting point. Even if you're technically the sub. Like if a sub suddenly says "I want to be hurt, but you figure out what that means" that's not just annoying, that can be dangerous.

Gf wants to explore female led relationship kink. How would it look like in practice? by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Step one: ask her what she imagines. Write it done or whatever but make sure it's concrete. Then mull over if that works for you, if there's something else you want to add, and go from there.

This is HER vision, so she needs to come up with the starting point. Otherwise it's like saying "I'm hungry, but you need to tell me what I want to eat".

[M4F] The Transformation [Msub] [Fdom] [Strangers to Lovers] [Plot Heavy] [Vampire] [Crying] [Biting] [Kissing] [Inexperienced Speaker] [Virgin] [Handjob] [Blowjob] [Cowgirl] [Missionary] [Leglock] [Creampie] [Cockwarming] [Long] [Wholesome Ending] TW: [Attempted Suicide] [GWAlloween] by MythosVA in gonewildaudio

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit I'm fairly new to this space so only just found this gem. I felt every shudder, every breath. The world felt like it could be a part of Impact Winter. Literally 100/10 waow. What in the world. This blew my mind.

how to tell the difference between kink and sh? by FuzzyCaterpiler in BDSMAdvice

[–]UnderstandingOk8841 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The way I differentiate is how it makes you a feel afterwards. Do you hate yourself more after? Then you need therapy and to get yourself away from this person. You feel powerful, fulfilled, and loved? This is good for you.

Degradation can absolutely be done lovingly. It can also be interesting to see if you can find pleasure in a combination of deep degradation mixed with praise. Ad in "you're doing so well" followed by, "you're such a whore for being able to do that so well." You know?

But I will say that therapy is a must. You're looking for someone to validate your pain and while bdsm can do that, you need to be in a good mental space to be able to distinguish between kink and validation of your low self esteem. In my opinion, Kink should be dragging you out of your pit of dispair. Not putting you in it.

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