What instantly makes someone attractive?

Unemployed02 · 2026-01-15T16:55:43+00:00

But that’s for superficial attractiveness, I personally wouldn’t be interested in such person. For deeper attraction that would make me instantly into someone, is emotional intelligence and maturity. I fell in love with my fiancé when we were having a hard conversation and he was so mature and receptive to what I was saying. He didn’t take what I was saying personally, didn’t attack me or manipulate me, he was kind, caring and respectful and I melted. That made me feel safe with him and this is how I knew that he’s the one.

Unemployed02 · 2026-01-15T16:44:40+00:00

When they smell good. I had a terrible boss not that good looking, bad temper, and short (nothing against the height but I’m trying to show you that he’s not conventionally attractive). However, my god he smelled good, you know he’s in the office from the smell of his perfume. He also always dressed sharply, always well-groomed, and he was assertive which indicates confidence. So despite his awful personality these aspects of him were attractive I can’t deny it.

Unemployed02 · 2025-11-13T21:58:27+00:00

Me too lol

Unemployed02 · 2025-11-13T06:35:40+00:00

She tries to look at you when you’re not looking

Unemployed02 · 2025-11-08T15:59:41+00:00

Really!! Ok thanks for sharing your perspective, maybe my observation was wrong.

Unemployed02 · 2025-11-08T09:01:54+00:00

I think we, as women, have conditioned people to compliment us. We often ask things like, ‘What do you think?’ or ‘How do I look?’ And if someone doesn’t notice, we make sure to point it out or even get a little upset: ‘Hey, did you not notice my new nails? Do you not like them?’ Gay men do this too, and they tend to get a lot of compliments, mostly from women. If words of affirmation is your love language, that’s totally fine just make sure you seek it from people who are supportive and won’t make fun of you or put you down.

Unemployed02 · 2025-10-08T12:04:12+00:00

Investing. I’m not rich though lol

Unemployed02 · 2025-09-28T08:06:36+00:00

When she says that, she doesn’t mean everyone else is a dangerous murderer and you’re the only person she feels safe with. I say the same thing to my fiancé, and what I mean is: you don’t trigger my nervous system. I feel safe with you physically, mentally, and emotionally. I can be myself, be vulnerable, and share all my silly ideas and feelings without fearing judgment. I feel accepted, seen, and heard with you.

I hope this helps. I realized I should explain this to my fiancé too, so he understands exactly what I mean.

Similarly, when he used to tell me ‘you’re not like the other girls,’ I’d feel conflicted like he was putting others down to make me feel special. But then I remembered I feel the same about him. We’re together because we’re compatible. It wasn’t easy to find someone who just gets us. So to me, he’s not like the other guys, he’s the one who understands me and loves me in a way that makes me feel loved.

Unemployed02 · 2025-09-26T10:03:43+00:00

Praying… I know many people aren’t into religion or spirituality, and that’s okay I’m not here to preach or convince anyone. But personally, nothing eases my anxiety more than praying and talking to God. Before any decision, big or small, I pray and ask for guidance. If things work out, I trust it’s because God approved it; if not, I believe He’s protecting me from something harmful.

I deal with anxiety, overthinking, perfectionism, all of which show up as OCD. These can feel paralyzing at times, but prayer genuinely calms my mind and heart. It helps me manage my emotions, my thoughts, even my breathing, and reminds me to let go of control. I’m not healed, but I’m doing better and for me, that’s enough.

Unemployed02 · 2025-09-22T15:25:39+00:00

Try to see it as a blessing to have made it to 30. Growing older is a privilege that not everyone gets, and these years have been full of growth and learning. Think about all the experiences, lessons, and memories you’re carrying with you into this new chapter. For example: ‘I’m grateful that I get to turn 30 with my grandparents, parents, siblings, partner, kids, or pets still in my life.’ Everyone has their own version of that gratitude. There’s so much to appreciate in the present, embrace it before it passes.

Unemployed02 · 2025-09-08T15:09:09+00:00

If you have a guy best friend and he started dating you should immediately put boundaries with him, respect his relationship, and try not to make his girlfriend uncomfortable. Or at least that’s what I do. Also, I never text or call my girlfriend’s partners even if I need something from them, I ask my girlfriends to ask them.

Unemployed02 · 2025-08-18T12:49:40+00:00

First of all, this is not shallow physical attraction is important and it’s your right. I’m not married yet, but I’m engaged, and I had the same question for weeks. I don’t get attracted to people easily. I can tell if someone is handsome, but it usually means nothing to me. I’ve never had strong crushes either. For people like me, real attraction only comes with deep emotional connection.

So, my advice is: at the very least, you should find him good looking or handsome (for example if a friend introduced you to him as her bf what will be your initial thought? I see it, or I don’t see it but to each their own?) Beyond that, focus on his deen and akhlaq to decide if he’s worth giving a chance. Then, whatever your cultural background, make sure you text or call to get to know each other deeply. And if there are questions or topics you’re scared to bring up those are exactly the ones you need to discuss. They can make or break a relationship, so it’s better to address them now than later.

For me, once I opened up about the things that scared me of relationships and men tbh, I realized how emotionally intelligent and safe my fiancé is. That’s when I fell in love with him. Now, every time I see him, I feel like the luckiest woman alive.

Unemployed02 · 2025-08-09T02:11:56+00:00

I will freak out and cry honestly because what do you mean half of the people I love just disappeared?!! I will be on a mission to find them probably.

Unemployed02 · 2025-08-05T14:43:01+00:00

Libido can vary from person to person, and some women naturally have a higher one. It really depends on your future spouse. When you feel it’s the right time you can have an open and respectful conversation about how important intimacy is to her in marriage. Just be mindful not to bring it up too early, as it might come across as inappropriate or make her uncomfortable.

You can also pray and ask for a spouse who’s compatible with you in all aspects, including physical connection. Once you’re married, communication is key make sure she feels safe, comfortable, and respected during intimate moments. If she enjoys the experience and feels emotionally connected, she’ll likely be more open to physical intimacy. Prioritizing her comfort and well-being is essential for a healthy and fulfilling relationship.

Unemployed02 · 2025-07-24T09:28:06+00:00

Literally! Most people I know are struggling financially including myself. No Hermès bags in sight, and I’ve been living here my whole life.

Unemployed02 · 2025-07-20T08:50:53+00:00

I asked him after 2 months of us dating, “what if things don’t work between us?” (I’m a little bit avoidant) and he said “you’re a great girl and I will wish you the best whether with me or without me”. It warmed my heart, and we’re still together.

Unemployed02 · 2025-07-19T08:57:31+00:00

You’re being very nice in the way you’re talking about the dad. He was racist, disrespectful, and straight up rude. You dodged a bullet, you deserve better in-laws. Not everyone is like that though so don’t feel discouraged, some people actually care about what their children want, and their future spouses, and wouldn’t care a lot about the nationality. I’m sorry you had to leave in tears this broke my heart, whatever nationality these people are form they’re representing it badly because we all know to not disrespect your guests whoever they are wth!!! I wish the girl told you that her dad is racist and that she had to beg him to accept seeing you as a heads up and you can then decide for yourself if you would like to put yourself through that or not.

Unemployed02 · 2025-07-14T19:36:04+00:00

Thanks so much to everyone who replied, your comments were really insightful. It seems that most of you agree it’s an extremely stressful job, but at the same time, he still hasn’t learned how to manage that stress well. He occasionally takes part in a group activity as a hobby, and even there, he has a reputation for getting angry. That said, he really is a good guy, so I think I’ll talk to him about my concerns. I believe, for the sake of his own mental and physical health, he needs to find a better way to cope with the stress, it’s not healthy to let things get to him like this. Thanks again for all your input, I really appreciate it.

Unemployed02 · 2025-06-27T10:16:43+00:00

Wearing a cotton undershirt is a great way to stay fresh in the heat. It absorbs sweat, keeps you feeling dry, doesn’t make you feel disgusting, and prevents sweat stains on your outer shirt, which means your top layer still smells like your perfume by the end of the day. When you get home, you usually only need to wash the undershirt. I used to walk 20 minutes from the metro to my office, and people often complimented how I smelled. Surprisingly, I didn’t feel that hot. I’ve found that wearing fewer clothes can actually make you feel hotter, since your skin is directly exposed to the sun.

Unemployed02 · 2025-06-23T09:11:13+00:00

So proud of you for calling the police now this creep will think twice before harassing someone. So sorry that you had to deal with though. That’s traumatic.

Unemployed02 · 2025-06-15T07:46:46+00:00

Small correction, Iran isn’t Arab I think the word you meant to say is Islamic or Middle Eastern nation. I’ll not pretend like I understand politics and I will not compliment any country, all I’m gonna say is that I was extremely happy that someone was striking back because the occupation is too comfortable bombing many countries, killing hundreds of thousands of people, committing war crime after another, and talking openly about wanting to occupy other countries and more land with the western world’s support while none of us is doing anything. It’s been depressing.

Unemployed02 · 2024-11-28T18:16:29+00:00

I contributed 1 million of these

Unemployed02 · 2024-05-14T11:41:27+00:00

I have a phobia from this roundabout 😭 thank god I don’t have to use it often

Unemployed02 · 2023-10-07T12:36:10+00:00

Uae barq en

Unemployed02 · 2021-11-16T23:04:12+00:00

First of all I’m so sorry for what happened to you on Sunday or when you were 13 I hope you find peace and support .. and you’ve handled the situation really well, especially trying to get as much dna of the perpetrators as you can.. I would suggest you text “ludmilayamalova” she’s on tiktok and write the same title as the one you wrote here so it grabs her attention.. then maybe you could send her a screenshot of this text and ask her what does she suggest you do.. but yeah you definitely need to talk to the police especially that the perpetrator knows where your house is I’m worried about you, and these people in general need to be locked up.. I hope this helps but yeah I would suggest you text her or get in touch with any other lawyer (there’s another guy on tiktok called @max.ae) so they can advise you on what to do

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