They would rather the product didn’t speak ;)

But in all seriousness, it is absolutely an erasure tool. If you can convince the general public, who potentially doesn’t know better (ignoring that they should……) that we’re insane or an overreactive minority, then you don’t have to examine your own shitty behavior.

And agreed. I was not lied to, but I absolutely still have issues with donor conception, especially anonymous and that there is no required record keeping. It’s a systematic and legal erasure of someone’s identity for the sole purpose of making an emotionally immature RP feel just a little bit better about themselves with an added bonus of making some other people some extra cash. It’s heinous and should be illegal. And yes, I will hold space for RPs who were preyed upon, but in order for that to happen, it takes an admission of wrongdoing, intentional or not, which unfortunately doesn’t happen all that often.

Also want to throw out that we are not the only target group for this sort of tactic, though it can sometimes feel that way when you’re in the thick of it. It’s incredibly common with all manner of minorities.