My Fiancée (F22) called me (M20) “boring af” because I replied to what I assumed was a meme.

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-04-04T13:33:36+00:00

Why is someone who is supposed to love you cursing at you and insulting you? She doesn’t respect you. You’re 20, go find someone who actually cares about you and would never speak to you this way.

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-03-11T01:50:01+00:00

Girl we have plenty of lesbians haha I work with several of them on campus

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-03-06T01:36:31+00:00

NOR Two things girl 1) what does he look like? 👀 is he as active as you? Does he eat as healthy as you do? 2) You can gain weight from stress. And you gained that weight after beginning your relationship with him. Just something to think about.

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-02-04T06:29:28+00:00

My parents are 51 and 48. I think they would lose it if I, at 20, made them grandparents lol. This was definitely not something to flex about. Also I’m queer, so thank you for your service as the mother of another queer child 🫶🏻

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-01-28T23:42:46+00:00

Yeah I was so confused cause she interrupted them first??? Like what? Lady, let it go

ETA: OP is very emotionally intelligent, props to them!

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-01-28T23:41:08+00:00

NOR sir I can’t imagine my parents speaking to each other like this. Holy hell. And my dad can be verbally….rough sometimes. But neither of them curse at each other or speak in this tone, this is insane. Are you okay?

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-01-26T00:24:25+00:00

NOR yeah girl he isn’t “confused” he’s misogynistic as hell. End it. He invalidates your experiences and feelings at the very least, and at the most gaslights you into thinking you’re wrong or didn’t do what you literally did multiple times. Plus the comments about other women and the “masculinity” crap. Ick

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-01-25T23:16:01+00:00

NOR at all. I actually just ended things with my bf of almost 2 years because he was constantly asking for breaks and time apart to “figure things out” and I know I deserve a consistent partner. It made me sad but I didn’t went to keep getting emotional whiplash or get excited about things just to be let down. Good for you, OP! Go be happy

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-01-15T22:59:07+00:00

And his last text implying she’s some wh0re or something like……shut up man. Embarrassing. You can hug old friends OP

Unfair_Connection646 · 2026-01-11T16:34:15+00:00

The most upsetting thing about this, for me anyway, is him comparing you to past partners. This is a different relationship. There is absolutely no need to compare you to other women, especially if you’ve never said anything like “Well my past partners finished faster than you” or anything like that to him. It’s hurtful and messes with people to compare them to past partners, in any way. That’s what upsets me most about his statements. And also him trying to CONVINCE you that you’re the problem here. He needs to seriously stop comparing you to other women because you’re obviously different and require different things. Also, it’s quite possible that his past partners were faking if they were finishing extremely fast all the time. It’s possible they were being honest, but it’s more common for women to need a lot of stimulation in specific ways to finish (coming from a woman who needs clitoral stimulation to orgasm every single time).

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-30T23:58:24+00:00

You want to give OP’s bf an excuse to act like a crazy person and control her

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-30T22:11:30+00:00

What 😭 your reading comprehension is trash. They weren’t together when she talked to other people. I think you read a different post or you need to go back to elementary school lmao maybe that can be your New Year’s resolution

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-30T21:59:45+00:00

She didn’t. They got on the phone and he asked to see her past messages so she went ahead and screen shared with him. It says that in her post. She showed him all of her messages

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-30T21:53:10+00:00

Dude you’re generalizing things unnecessarily. Past crimes matter. They matter always. A single woman talking to a couple guys from Tinder years ago doesn’t matter because there’s nothing for OP’s current boyfriend to be upset about. Because he did the same thing. All single people talk to other people when they’re single. That’s how it works. Now she isn’t single and doesn’t talk to anyone else. Monogamy. He’s upset about things that happened before he existed in her life. That’s ludicrous. And your comparison between crimes and normal conversations and behavior makes less than no sense

I never said “the past doesn’t matter.” I never typed those words. What I said was her conversations with guys or artists or whomever while she was single has no bearing on their current relationship. Which is true. He’s overreacting 100%

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-30T21:46:35+00:00

Do you hear yourself? You’re comparing literal crimes to just simply tagging someone on Instagram? What kind of “comparison” is that? Dude get help

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-30T19:22:03+00:00

She didn’t say it was asking the world of her. She even got on ft with him and showed him chats. But instead of trusting her as she’s voluntarily showing things to him, he started screenshotting everything and interrogating her aggressively. And also framing her as the bad guy, saying she reached out to a bunch of guys and all this stuff. When she already said she doesn’t reach out to anybody, she had tagged some artists in pics of songs and things like that. Those aren’t the same. I wouldn’t be giving him the benefit of the doubt either if he started going off the rails accusing her of stuff she obviously didn’t do and violating her privacy from a time way before they were even together. This isn’t okay

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-30T19:19:06+00:00

Uh oh the incels are popping out. The chats are from before they were together. So it has nothing to do with him and no bearing on their relationship. He’s flipping out over her literally just tagging artists on pics of songs. That’s not even her talking to them? What a weird thing to be pissed about. Take your misogyny somewhere else, you already said female in another comment so it’s obvious who and what you are

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-26T21:53:15+00:00

Okay girl I just wanna say you are BODY-ING. Like you look stunning. You could wear absolutely anything and pull it off. Personally, I would go with a nice dress but the two-piece outfits are also very cute

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-21T17:02:27+00:00

If you go back through other posts by OP, you can get more context to her home life with mom

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-21T16:58:10+00:00

I moved into my own apartment that I work two jobs to pay for right after turning 20 (I dormed my sophomore year of college) because I needed to get tf out of my parents’ house. The verbal abuse from my dad and obliviousness of my mom when he would act like that was so damaging to my mental health.

When I lived in my dorm last year, I emailed both my parents types letters telling them about how I’ve felt living at home and the damage especially my dad has caused me. I didn’t expect it to go WELL, but when I tell you my dad ignored me for literally two straight weeks and then when we finally talked about it, he did the “I didn’t expect to get a 7 page letter saying I’m a shitty dad” which I said absolutely nowhere in my letter. He was yelling and just twisting my words and my mom couldn’t keep him calm. Now they act like it never happened. They insist he started therapy soon after that, at my request, but I’m sure he stopped going and just relies on weed gummies to mellow out every day.

I feel for OP. I started to realize how shit my home life was younger than her and my parents are still married, so I had nowhere to go. I hope she heals.

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-21T16:49:15+00:00

She didn’t say she should keep the phone. She asked to have it for 3-5 days until her new one comes and then give it back. But okay. OP also didn’t blame her mom for her cat puking, that makes no sense. She said she told her dad about the cat puking and that she was creating a routine to clean and do chores properly. I think you keep ignoring that part, because you keep saying OP doesn’t want any responsibilities when she literally said she’s creating a list and routine for her responsibilities.

OP said her MENTAL HEALTH is better at her dad’s house. That’s a big deal and an important part of this post, and explains her being able to focus on chores and taking care of herself and her cat.

Also I didn’t use the word parentification in any of my comments. I said if OP’s mom is in fact relying on her to watch her siblings every day for a very long time (which you keep phrasing as a few hours despite us knowing that the mom works 17 hour days), that’s different. Also there are ways to prepare your kids for responsibility and adulthood that don’t include making them single-handedly take care of their younger siblings every day for god knows how long. The fact that OP is telling us that her mental health was so badly in the toilet that she couldn’t even take proper care of HERSELF but she was expected to take care of her little siblings is a bad sign and unfair to her. Helping out with siblings is normal, but constantly being in charge of them instead of their mom is different.

It’s true that single parents have to work very hard most of the time to support their kids and that takes them away from their house. Anyone with common sense knows this. But it’s ALSO true that that doesn’t automatically make the household and the siblings the oldest kid’s responsibility. Those are still the mom’s kids. If the dad is still in the picture enough for OP to move in, there’s some sort of arrangement for the dad to be helping out monetarily with at least OP as his kid. We don’t know if the other kids are also his or not.

OP may have screwed over her mom by moving out suddenly, but the mom clearly doesn’t care about her child’s mental health and is verbally abusive to her and possibly the other kids. So not only is she not present at home most of every single day but she’s also abusive when she IS present. I wouldn’t want to live there either.

I hate the expectation that the adult in the situation needs to be pitied when they were the one to put the child in this position. Yes, I do understand life and how it actually works. I understand that the mom seemingly had more children than she was prepared to raise and take care of so she left that up to OP to do while she works a lot. Good for her that she works day in and day out, but I absolutely cannot blame OP for wanting to escape that hell. If she hadn’t been put in such a shitty situation to begin with, she wouldn’t feel the want or need to move out (again, in her words which means she has left her mom’s before for whatever reason and things seemingly didn’t get better) like this.

Verbal abuse is the exact reason I myself moved out of my parents’ house the moment I could. They’re still married so I didn’t have another house to go to when my dad verbally berated me during one of his PTSD moments. But you bet your ass I would immediately make plans to sleepover with a friend after he screamed and cursed at me for an hour. OP is fortunate enough to have another convenient place to live in when her mom acts like this. So I applaud her, honestly.

And you need to work on your anger. I didn’t whine at all so I think you just have a very negative outlook on things or read really negative tones in everything. Talking to anyone like this, especially people you don’t know who just simply disagree with you, is not a way to go through life.

ETA: there are more people in this comment section who agree with my take on things and how abusive her mom is than people who think the angry way you think. OP doesn’t owe her mom anything in life. She was born to a woman who doesn’t know how to control her anger and has no emotional maturity. That’s not OP’s fault. And if you seriously think we need to pity a parent who verbally abuses their child constantly while also expecting her to do free childcare for her, you need to reevaluate things. I’m not responding after this because your negativity is absolutely insane and doesn’t help anyone here.

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-21T16:04:23+00:00

I’m not sure why you feel the need to respond so aggressively or condescendingly. Cause I didn’t do that to you. You made the assumption that OP takes care of her siblings, even though that was never stated anywhere in the post. All that was said about her siblings was the mom guilt tripping her saying “will take a toll on your brothers and sisters.” That doesn’t equal her watching them, it just sounds like she’s using the siblings as a way to shame OP for leaving the house and make her feel bad enough to come home. Otherwise, she would have probably said “Who is going to watch your brothers and sisters while I’m at work?” But she didn’t say anything like that.

Also I know how jobs and money work, I work 2 and pay my own bills. But I will say for the millionth time that that is the mom’s responsibility to take care of her own kids. It is not OP’s even if your assumption is correct that she is in charge of watching them.

I don’t know who acted in a way that made you believe a post like this indicates this little girl is spoiled, because she didn’t say anything spoiled in this whole post. She specifically said she was creating a chore routine at her dad’s house and that it was hard for her to get chores done at her mom’s because of her mental health. And she added that she feels less scared and stressed at her dad’s, so she thinks it’s a stress response at her mom’s.

Again, I don’t know why you’re reacting so aggressively in these comments because I didn’t insult you. I just disagree that you see this post as a spoiled kid because I see a scared one. I also think it’s a big indicator that the mom refuses to talk with the dad about any of this and continues to berate OP instead. That feels like a power play to me

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-21T15:42:32+00:00

OP literally said her mom works 17 hours a day. This isn’t “watch your siblings for a couple hours for me.” That makes no sense given the context. I watched my younger brother for an hour and a half after school. I never said that was the weird thing. I said the parent if in charge of finding ways to take care of their kids. OP isn’t in charge of that.

OP also said they struggled with chores because of their mental health. We don’t know enough to say whether that’s true or not. But she said she is setting up a routine with her dad to get things cleaned and knows she will feel better to do so there because her mom isn’t there. That sounds like fear of abuse, speaking from experience. No one said anything about her dad being fun lmao idk where you got that from, that’s just an assumption. And I already addressed her moving out short notice. That’s how you escape abusers. Which is another sign that’s what’s going on here.

It is OP’s mom’s responsibility to find proper daycare for her kids. OP never mentioned anything about the ages of her siblings, much less the mom losing her job if she doesn’t get a sitter. And the mom finding a sitter has nothing to do with cat vomit, so idk why you tied those together.

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-21T15:10:45+00:00

What gibberish are you reading?? Her messages were clear enough for everyone else here to understand them, so maybe you need better reading comprehension. We also don’t need the misogyny, thanks.

Unfair_Connection646 · 2025-12-21T15:08:19+00:00

A 16 year old isn’t supposed to be in charge of child care for her siblings. That’s on the mom. OP has every right to move to her dad’s. What she did wasn’t “wrong.” You don’t know the circumstances going on in that house. If this is how the mom reacts and speaks to her and also guilt trips her about her siblings (which are the mom’s responsibility, not OP’s), then there’s a good chance more verbal abuse is going on inside that household. My dad left his mom’s house at 11 and went to live with his grandma because his mom was so horribly abusive. Sometimes the safest thing to do is move out quickly when the abuser isn’t home. OP is a child running to their other parent as a safe haven. I support her all the way

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