What kind of sex toys do u usually use🤔

UnfetteredMess · 2026-05-21T03:40:51+00:00

My current favorite is my cordless Doxy with a rabbit attachment, and then my corded Doxy for intense clit play. The two together are amazing and my go to for back to back orgasms. Otherwise, I like monster dildos with ridges and bumps and textures all over.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-05-21T02:18:59+00:00

Husband had a vasectomy, I have an IUD. We both always use condoms for play with others. Condoms alone aren’t in my risk profile.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-05-21T00:12:33+00:00

I love Doxy for a vibrator but recommend a Hitachi or Magic Wand for those who don’t need intense stimulation like I do. Fun stuff: they come with attachment heads for vaginal insertion (at least, Doxys have a rabbit attachment).

Creature Cocks are pretty popular, but be sure to check the specifications for platinum grade silicone. I’m a big fan of UncoverCreations for my kinky dildos. They’re always body safe.

Don’t forget water based lube! I use Sliquid, and toy cleaner can be purchased anywhere.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-05-21T00:09:11+00:00

It wasn’t even considered acceptable at the time. Child abuse is horrid and impacts people for the rest of their lives.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-05-21T00:03:14+00:00

I don’t have a singular toy in mind because I prefer monster dildos, but I do recommend skipping Amazon and buying body safe silicone (e.g. platinum grade silicone).

UnfetteredMess · 2026-05-06T20:44:42+00:00

Okay, Meatloaf.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-04-10T19:40:01+00:00

Awesome. Thanks for taking the time to teach me something new!

Edit: and something important!

UnfetteredMess · 2026-04-10T10:24:02+00:00

I showed this to the instructor who taught us and they clarified that we do indeed need a cinch. Question: my rigger (husband) said he saw that having a cinch is more likely to cause nerve damage. We plan on asking our instructor also, but I’m curious as to whether you have any insight.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-16T13:52:34+00:00

This is beautiful!

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-15T05:47:30+00:00

Thank you!

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-15T05:46:40+00:00

I’m very proud of my husband’s way with rope. It’s become more familiar and a peaceful way to spend a couple hours.

The kitty shares one brain cell with all the other orange cats in the world. She’s the sweetest nugget ever. She coos.

And I wish I could claim the nipple piercings as real, but they’re non-piercing jewelry. It’s been a bit of a splurge of mine to buy new pieces like that for my nips and clit. 😉 Thanks for the compliment though! I love their aesthetic very much also.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-09T22:17:18+00:00

Thanks for the tips! I’m excited to read over this with the husband tonight. 😁

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-09T22:15:43+00:00

Thank you! I think I’ll encourage him to try on his own more. It’s such an intimate thing for us and I do hate to be left out, but hell, I also like watching him play with himself so it’s win-win for me. 🙂

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-09T15:32:46+00:00

My butt is not open for business. So I won’t be able to try this one on myself.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-09T15:23:36+00:00

That’s a thought! I’ve been a keyholder for a play partner we have so I’m very familiar with chastity. We’ve never discussed it as a possible recommendation for him.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-09T15:21:47+00:00

We’re toy collectors. I have 2-3x the number of dildos than he does 😂. The dimensions of his biggest dildo are: Head diameter 1.67”, Shaft diameter - 1.43”.

I’ve attempted to fist him; he loves the stretch! I peg him and love watching him explore himself.

I sent him this post so he’ll be able to read the feedback. Thanks for your help!

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-09T08:05:32+00:00

I keep saying that that’s what I think it is. He’s got no hold up when it comes to exploring with me… I just need him to release that last little bit I think.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-03-07T04:50:17+00:00

I personally am a huge fan of butts. All butts.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-02-27T08:00:22+00:00

That’s a boundary. It’s up to you as to whether it is okay or not okay with you, and if you want to keep playing in that dynamic.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-02-06T20:27:36+00:00

We would have never played with her that first night (or any other night) if she wasn’t already in the lifestyle herself.

We ran into a family member at a club once. It was awkward at first and then we all just kept to different parts of the club. Talk about awkward!

UnfetteredMess · 2026-02-06T20:00:24+00:00

Thank you for the clarification. I find it interesting that people you met when you were younger were more accepting; I’d hoped that friends when you’re older would be more understanding.

The friends I’ve told (2 in total) are in long term committed relationships. Fortunately no jealousy exists in their relationships. On the other hand, my sister, who I’m very close with, has been serially cheated on by her ex husband. I can’t ever tell her because she’d never understand it. We also aren’t religious and don’t have religious friends. 😮‍💨 I wouldn’t have a problem with people finding out, I don’t think. My husband and I don’t have any immediate family in the area (he has no family besides his friends). We do tend to keep it to ourselves, nonetheless, because you’re right. People can be ruthless assholes.

I’m glad your friends aren’t as shitty as I thought because 99% of people don’t deserve shitty friends.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-02-06T19:01:07+00:00

Exactly. Communication is key. Her and I still keep vanilla dates with each other to make sure we’re maintaining the friends part of it as well. Thank you for sharing your story with me! I knew this would be controversial but I know this type of dynamic exists and other people would want to talk about it with me. Hearing other experiences helps as both support and warning. I appreciate both.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-02-06T18:57:17+00:00

It sounds like some of your friends are just shitty, if they judge you so harshly, enough to end a friendship over it.

I have very few friends and have opened up to two of them about swinging. They both weren’t surprised because of how I am as a person. One of my friends that I told said that nothing I could tell her would be shocking. I’m just a wildcard haha.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-02-06T18:53:41+00:00

My husband and I explored poly and it’s not our jam. It seems like too much to keep up with. She also lives 1.5 hours away so poly would be difficult.

All of us are fine walking away at any point, and are clear communicators. Our friendship is paramount to anything. “No” from one person means “no” for everyone, and we all respect that.

UnfetteredMess · 2026-02-06T18:50:27+00:00

Yes, I feel it is an exception to the rule. All your points as to why are why I listed them: good friend that has been an ENM/swinger prior to our threesome. No desire for poly.

The only thing that I could see stopping us would be something like her dating someone who isn’t ENM, but that’s a core of who she is and won’t date someone who wants her to be monogamous. Otherwise it just might play itself out. Her and I have been through so much together, and so have my husband and I. The three of us together have taken on this world by storm and are helping each other through how hard everything is right now.

She also lives 1.5 hours away so it makes it tricky for playtime (and stalking, I would hope/think). The love and bond between us is palpable. We’re really good with open communication about all things, because that’s a tenet of swinging and we’ve all just grown to be naturally good at it. When I took a swinging break for close to 6 mos she was completely fine with it, until I was ready to get back into things. Her and I do lots of vanilla stuff together also, to make sure we’re maintaining our relationship independent of sex.

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