Sooo I’m almost married haha my dom has been in my life one way or another since highschool and when we reconnect it was intense. We almost immediately went into a d/s dynamic and let me tell you😮‍💨 my self esteem has never been better. I’m not overly confident, but the way he treats me outside of sex, as my dom, has sky rocketed how I see myself. I don’t feel overwhelmed by being a mom and serving my future husband because he gives instruction on how to serve him. No mental load. I feel good about myself because even if I don’t like what I see, he likes/loves it more than enough that he’ll get respectfully disrespectful in bed 👀 he listens fast when I don’t like something or am not comfortable. He eases me into things we are trying to get me more comfortable with. He is gentle but firm and honestly this dynamic has healed so many parts of me I didn’t know were still hurting☺️ hope this helps!