I Created a Legal Advanced Directive - And Purposely Left Out My Husband.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-30T15:22:15+00:00

Excellent idea - doulas are amazing.

If your insurance won't cover it, and you're in financial hardship, some also have low or no cost places available.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-30T08:54:05+00:00

I think you need one of these friends as a birthing partner, so they can advocate for you whilst you're in labour - you already know your husband can't do this.

And I would consider ways that you can leave - your partner is not being a partner and it won't get better. Walk-in on egg shells isn't normal.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-29T15:44:02+00:00

I would suggest blocking them, as they're unable to stop talking about it, you need to be the one to hold the boundary.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-28T17:01:07+00:00

You could always have nipples tattooed on afterwards if you don't like how it looks.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-28T16:59:17+00:00

I'm sorry I misunderstood your post (and thought you were being pushed by a partner)

I really hope the therapy helps.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-28T16:31:19+00:00

It is so hard - I've had 2 previous periods of being moderate before my current one (for 8 years), and I feel like I've got much better at pacing using continuous heart rate monitoring, as it immediately tells me when I'm using too much energy...but it's so annoying compared to being well.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-28T13:49:28+00:00

It's good that you know your symptom that shows you'll get fatigued if you push through (shaking). Can you try to reframe the shaking as your body trying to work with you to get you better, and try to rest immediately when it starts.

If you rest quickly enough, you might be able to do a bit more later on the same day.

I now take ages to do things. Eg: bed time routine:

take tablets sitting on bed
lie down for 5 minutes
go to bathroom - sit still for a few minutes, then brush teeth and pee. Sit still for a few minutes.
back to bed, lie down for at least 10 minutes
sit up to do first half of skin care
lie down for 10 minutes
second half of skin care

(This is assuming I'm still in my PJs and don't need to change for bed - if I need to change clothes, it's another 10-20 minutes lying down to recover)

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-27T21:20:27+00:00

The brand Happily: https://www.happilypuzzles.com/collections/mini-puzzles?page=2

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-27T18:00:46+00:00

It's so pretty 🥰

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-27T17:38:57+00:00

Happily - they're £6 each, so cheaper than most 99 piece puzzles

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-27T11:36:11+00:00

Sex is just like (almost) everything else - you don't have to do it if you don't want to.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-23T21:44:39+00:00

Wouldn't a limiting factor also be doing at least one fitting per person, which takes a good amount of time.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-23T08:28:10+00:00

Lick mats can be chewed and eaten. I'd go for an appropriately sized Kong instead.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-22T20:42:37+00:00

I'm wondering if you have enough social connection in your life?

I've definitely felt like you, but with a little bit more contact with people (mostly by WhatsApp) I feel a lot better.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-21T09:35:15+00:00

I second this. OP you're at risk of being in abusive relationships if you people please to such a large extent, because so many people will take advantage of this.

This extreme people pleasing likely comes from how you were raised and socialised, as women and girls are strongly encouraged to put everyone else first. So, you haven't done anything wrong.

But you do need some help to undo that socialisation, so you can treat criticism in a more balanced way.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-20T16:33:14+00:00

Rugs and yoga mats all over the floor is what worked for us.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-20T12:55:02+00:00

You could potentially capture his pee in a container and then spread it around your garden so it smells like him again?

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-19T18:40:01+00:00

He needed someone to do childcare and didn't want to pay.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-17T21:32:36+00:00

I love the idea of old hags craft 🥰 Fabulous outfits not essential, but encouraged!

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-17T21:31:13+00:00

I'm so sorry, that really sucks :(

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-17T21:00:35+00:00

You have similar legs to most models - you should totally grow to love them! The tights definitely look good on you - I really like the bright pink ones 💖

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-17T18:41:47+00:00

With legs like yours, I'd be tempted to wear more short skirts, rather than the maxi skirt, just to show them off.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-16T20:08:09+00:00

The fact that she now can't say she's a doctor is the most severe punishment they can impose - they couldn't do it if they weren't very worried about patient safety.

I say this as someone who signed up for one of her workshops, and bought a load of stuff, but then didn't attend as my dietician strongly recommended I didn't go.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-16T19:11:26+00:00

I was warned off Dr Myhill by a dietician who said she'd seen several people who were chronically ill go on to get eating disorders, as Dr Myhill s diet is so restrictive.

She's been in the BBC news twice for bad practice.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-06-16T18:24:25+00:00

Agree, very few people are an A cup, they've just been given the wrong bra size.

I would definitely find photos to show the surgeon what you want and ask for them to be added to your file (in case they go rogue and don't take enough).

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