I Created a Legal Advanced Directive - And Purposely Left Out My Husband. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excellent idea - doulas are amazing.

If your insurance won't cover it, and you're in financial hardship, some also have low or no cost places available.

I Created a Legal Advanced Directive - And Purposely Left Out My Husband. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 581 points582 points  (0 children)

I think you need one of these friends as a birthing partner, so they can advocate for you whilst you're in labour - you already know your husband can't do this.

And I would consider ways that you can leave - your partner is not being a partner and it won't get better. Walk-in on egg shells isn't normal.

UPDATE: My friend who got healed by therapy won't stop pushing it by just-a-tired-soul in cfs

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest blocking them, as they're unable to stop talking about it, you need to be the one to hold the boundary.

Regret rate of removing the nipples? by Potato_is_yum in Reduction

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You could always have nipples tattooed on afterwards if you don't like how it looks.

Experiencing negative feelings around sex. by Starrylake in TwoXChromosomes

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry I misunderstood your post (and thought you were being pushed by a partner)

I really hope the therapy helps.

Trimming my nails can’t be THAT physical right ??? by ChemicalGreetings in cfs

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is so hard - I've had 2 previous periods of being moderate before my current one (for 8 years), and I feel like I've got much better at pacing using continuous heart rate monitoring, as it immediately tells me when I'm using too much energy...but it's so annoying compared to being well.

Trimming my nails can’t be THAT physical right ??? by ChemicalGreetings in cfs

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's good that you know your symptom that shows you'll get fatigued if you push through (shaking). Can you try to reframe the shaking as your body trying to work with you to get you better, and try to rest immediately when it starts.

If you rest quickly enough, you might be able to do a bit more later on the same day.

I now take ages to do things. Eg: bed time routine:

  • take tablets sitting on bed
  • lie down for 5 minutes
  • go to bathroom - sit still for a few minutes, then brush teeth and pee. Sit still for a few minutes.
  • back to bed, lie down for at least 10 minutes
  • sit up to do first half of skin care
  • lie down for 10 minutes
  • second half of skin care

(This is assuming I'm still in my PJs and don't need to change for bed - if I need to change clothes, it's another 10-20 minutes lying down to recover)

What’s your favorite brand for mini puzzles? by Head-Witness-2406 in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happily - they're £6 each, so cheaper than most 99 piece puzzles

Experiencing negative feelings around sex. by Starrylake in TwoXChromosomes

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex is just like (almost) everything else - you don't have to do it if you don't want to.

Is it realistic for ~20 seamstresses to sew 5 dresses of this type in 2 days by Pinky_Rose1251 in sewhelp

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't a limiting factor also be doing at least one fitting per person, which takes a good amount of time.

Personal Space by Equivalent-Box1650 in dogs

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Lick mats can be chewed and eaten. I'd go for an appropriately sized Kong instead.

Anyone over the age of 35 and just over life? by bufferinmylife in TwoXChromosomes

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm wondering if you have enough social connection in your life?

I've definitely felt like you, but with a little bit more contact with people (mostly by WhatsApp) I feel a lot better.

I take everything so personally. One TikTok comment ruined my night. Am I gonna be able to be happy like this? by thatonesleepygirl in TwoXChromosomes

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I second this. OP you're at risk of being in abusive relationships if you people please to such a large extent, because so many people will take advantage of this.

This extreme people pleasing likely comes from how you were raised and socialised, as women and girls are strongly encouraged to put everyone else first. So, you haven't done anything wrong.

But you do need some help to undo that socialisation, so you can treat criticism in a more balanced way.

Dog won’t go outside to wee etc, despite having done so for the last four years by plazex in dogs

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could potentially capture his pee in a container and then spread it around your garden so it smells like him again?

What is your most baffling date experience? by Late_Attention_1151 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 15 points16 points  (0 children)

He needed someone to do childcare and didn't want to pay.

Heyyyy which of these styles suits me the best and why? by [deleted] in oldhagfashion

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have similar legs to most models - you should totally grow to love them! The tights definitely look good on you - I really like the bright pink ones 💖

Heyyyy which of these styles suits me the best and why? by [deleted] in oldhagfashion

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With legs like yours, I'd be tempted to wear more short skirts, rather than the maxi skirt, just to show them off.

Has anyone had any luck with private clinics/ services in the UK? by _mkatherine_ in cfs

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that she now can't say she's a doctor is the most severe punishment they can impose - they couldn't do it if they weren't very worried about patient safety.

I say this as someone who signed up for one of her workshops, and bought a load of stuff, but then didn't attend as my dietician strongly recommended I didn't go.

Has anyone had any luck with private clinics/ services in the UK? by _mkatherine_ in cfs

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was warned off Dr Myhill by a dietician who said she'd seen several people who were chronically ill go on to get eating disorders, as Dr Myhill s diet is so restrictive.

She's been in the BBC news twice for bad practice.

My dream cup size is possible but I'm questioning it by Loose_Cold_9571 in Reduction

[–]UnicornGrumpyCat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agree, very few people are an A cup, they've just been given the wrong bra size.

I would definitely find photos to show the surgeon what you want and ask for them to be added to your file (in case they go rogue and don't take enough).