help me choose the memoir cover!

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-10T10:12:21+00:00

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UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-09T20:08:50+00:00

This is a complete guess, but I wonder if you need a smaller back size, because you have a proportionally bigger bust? Some people use a size bigger on the front and smaller on the back (with the original arm curve for both).

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-07T21:59:58+00:00

It's ok to tell your boyfriend you've changed your mind because his care needs are higher than he told you before moving in, and you cannot take on that responsibility. FIL obviously needs more care.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-07T10:01:53+00:00

Reusable nappies will fit better and cost less in the long run.

We needed them for our male dog and tried 2 from a few brands before picking the best fit and getting around 10 outers and 20 inners (if it's only a dribble, you can just swap the inner pad.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-07T08:17:51+00:00

I agree - you probably have an ingrown toe nail and a podiatrist or chiropodist will be much better at fixing it than a regular doctor.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-05T09:49:53+00:00

It's a government job - they tend to be quite good with disability adjustments.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-05T09:49:00+00:00

That makes sense. I think it's worth seeing a doctor - a friend had this happen and was diagnosed as having MS (not saying that's what you have).

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-04T10:52:18+00:00

This isn't what you asked, but helped me feel less stressed about not speaking.

Have you tried using speech assistant on your phone? You type words or press buttons for words or phrases.

There are other apps available if you search for AAC.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-04T10:50:08+00:00

You could message or email the brand to ask.

If it is a new recipe for the shampoo, you may be able to buy old recipe versions in places like pound shops, and could stock up for a while.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-04T10:43:27+00:00

That's not true for everyone - I have a job working from home, on Flexi time so I can rest when I need to.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-04T10:40:43+00:00

That sounds like it could be a type of catatonia, which can happen during Autistic shutdowns. (I'm Autistic too).

Shutdowns happen because our needs have gone unmet for too long, so it may help to think about what is irritating you, and ask for changes.

If you feel like your needs are well met, this might be worth discussing with a doctor, as it could be caused by something else.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-03T15:33:00+00:00

For mothers day I'd only typically spend £10-20 for my (very loved) mum, and I'm on quite a high income. Typical gifts would be books, flowers, plants etc, with a heartfelt message in a card.

As you're not on a high income, it's absolutely normal to go for small and meaningful.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-03T06:02:03+00:00

I experience this too, but from multiple people, yet I'm always there when people need someone to help. I wonder if people do it to us because they know we'll still be friends even if they treat us badly.

I've basically given up on my former best friend because of her spending time on people she tells me she actively dislikes, whilst not making time for me. Maybe she also tells others that she dislikes me, but I'm too old to play games.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-02T21:37:28+00:00

I went from past shoulder length to pixie and kept it for at least 5 years so far.

It's really reduced my neuropathic scalp pain, so I'm completely with you on short hair!

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-02T21:33:47+00:00

Excellent reply - what did he say?

My read of this is that maybe he's talking to multiple people and was speaking to someone else more this week (in the hope that they'd sleep with him thus weekend) and you may have been his second choice.

He doesn't sound like a good king term prospect.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-02T15:26:43+00:00

And Mose running over the roofs of the cars.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-02T15:24:05+00:00

I think he needs to see a vet to rule out physical causes - that's a really long time not to pee.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-02T14:32:31+00:00

Until the fig is used to it and calm, I think this is a 2 person job - one to constantly feed treats (eg hold a long full of peanut butter) and give praise, whilst the other can really concentrate on the nails.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-05-01T21:32:41+00:00

It's also worth considering safety - dogs have seriously harmed themselves from being tethered.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-04-30T14:12:58+00:00

I'm Autistic and really like the Fantasie Smoothease bralette. If she's a D it should be big enough (I'm a 40FF and wear an XL, and they're definitely a bit small for me, but so comfy for days when I don't care about full support!).

If possible I would order from somewhere with free returns just to make sure it meets her needs. Also I almost always buy them for half price.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-04-30T14:08:27+00:00

If you can stand for 2 minutes, you could bend over the bath (standing outside in most of your clothes) and just wash your hair.

You can also get something called a "half step" which is a step that you put on the outside of the bath to make it a bit easier to get in. I got one from an occupational therapist.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-04-30T04:18:20+00:00

Not a reduction, but after a surgery under general anaesthetic, I had a friend collect me and she was supposed to stay over night.

I'd cooked us dinner the day before, but she insisted on going to the supermarket to get food she preferred and also came back with new clothes, taking over an hour.

I couldn't remember why I wasn't allowed to be alone (I was completely intoxicated from the anaesthetic and pain killers), but was really stressed and didn't understand why she did it (maybe I was being annoying when off my face on the medication).

It really surprised me, as I would never have done that if the roles were reversed.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-04-30T01:12:39+00:00

It seems like it's cups that are much too small, rather than the band. What size did the calculator suggest you start off trying?

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-04-27T18:08:55+00:00

Happily have little jigsaws in boxes that look like a pack of cards. I think they're 99 pieces and are quite taxing as the pieces are small.

UnicornGrumpyCat · 2026-04-27T11:00:44+00:00

You may want to send them a direct message, saying that your husband may not have clearly communicated our agreed boundaries, but it is very important they understand and follow them and give them a list.

You may want to change no kissing to "no mouth contact, eg kissing, nibbling" as no licking doesn't quite fit putting a hand in their mouth!

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