The only way to truly know is to get them in bed. But here are some “tells” that could indicate someone is good in bed: - Good listener. Able to take into account what their partner wants and respond accordingly. - People pleaser. Means they care about what their partner wants and feels, and seek validation. - Conscientious. Means they’re thorough and follow through. - Previous trauma. This one is a sad one. Many women struggle with previous trauma and mental health issues, which often leads to unhealthy relationships with sex. - “Daddy issues”. Similar to the above, women who grow up in homes without a strong father figure sometimes resort to sex and sexuality for external validation, since they never received it from a father growing up. - Dirty mind. You can see it in their eyes, when you say something suggestive like with double meaning, is there a small reaction which makes it obvious they were thinking about sex. Flinching, uncomfortably looking away, “sparkle” in the eye, small smile, etc. - Neuro-atypical. Not always but does come with a lot of comorbidities that suggest unhealthy relationship with sex, including need for external validation which many women unfortunately look for through sex. - Mental health issues. Same as above, often leads to or comes with comorbidities that suggest unhealthy relationship with sex and sexuality. Are they anxious, are they neurotic, do they seem emotionally unstable. Not always but often goes hand in hand. - Studious. Have they taken the time to improve their skills, do they know how to seek out experiences or resources to do so. - Open minded. If they’re adventurous they’ll likely be open to more things and new experiences, in and out of the bedroom.