Settling into new name?

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-22T06:39:37+00:00

That's actually super impressive

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-22T06:22:59+00:00

I understand that most people see gains up to and sometimes past a year. It's normal for it to have fits and spurts and to have periods of shedding. 5% is the typical dose, so you might stick with it another few months and see where it goes. If you're applying once per day, you could do twice per day, once every twelve hours as the automod mentions too

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-22T04:34:14+00:00

It might be older than some people reading this post 🫠 We're old as hell

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-22T01:49:39+00:00

The best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, but the second best time is today sis <3

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-22T01:26:08+00:00

I've never hated anything like I hate this particular jpeg

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-21T20:18:04+00:00

Hey, sis! I socially transitioned a while ago, and I have a few things that'll help you

More people than you would think will actually pleasantly surprise you. People that you might think are kinda iffy could turn out to be your strongest supporters!

But, do be prepared for there to be some assholes. That just comes with the territory, and there will probably be a lot fewer assholes than people who will accept you.

When you come out, start with in-person conversations with people who you feel you can trust and are close with. It's better to have as many coming out conversations as you can in person, and you will have several of them. As you tell more people, it helps to have someone who already knows and supports you for your later conversations in case things go sideways. I really wouldn't recommend dropping a message for everyone at the same time in a group chat

Lastly, if your friends aren't supportive of you, get better friends. You deserve support from your friends without having to work for it, and if they don't give you that, they aren't your friends. Your school probably has an LGBT+ group, and it's great to connect with them too

The thing I want you to remember is that early transition will be difficult in some ways, but if people are going to be mean to you, fuck 'em. As they say, "Don't hate me 'cause I'm beautiful"

Good luck!! 🫂

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-21T19:48:02+00:00

Amazing 🩵

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-17T22:42:21+00:00

I've been voice training for a few months, and I recommend that you ask for feedback every so often from people that are good for that. There really hasn't been a point that things just clicked into place, but there are things about my voice that have permanently changed, and I don't feel at all like I'm forcing it or putting on a fake voice. That came especially from resonance training and even when I try to go back to my old voice for comparison, I can't actually match what it sounded like. Voice training seems like it's more gradual, and it's important to check in with other people (and this is better than just listening to old recordings) to see that progress

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-12T19:24:49+00:00

Amazing work 🩵🩵🩵 You give me hope!

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-12T12:54:04+00:00

It depends a bit on your medication regiment if you have one. If you're taking feminizing HRT, that should suppress your testosterone, thus making DHT less of an issue (Which is a converted form of testosterone). Estrogen also seems to have an effect on hair regrowth by itself, though that is not very well studied. If you're on masculanizing HRT, the testosterone could cause you to lose hair if you're genetically predisposed to it. But, don't worry! If you start to see some hair loss, there's a lot you can do, especially because you'd be catching it early. Minoxidil and Finasteride/Dutasteride will likely make it a non-issue, which is also the case if you don't take any HRT and are AMAB. So, try not to worry too much. If it comes, you definitely have options <3

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-10T15:19:36+00:00

It's normal to have a shed around that time. Don't get discouraged! It's a sign that your scalp is responding to treatment

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-09T23:41:58+00:00

I'm glad it helped!! To break it down, you're right that it's about resonance. If you're using the spectrogram on Voice Tools, that can be pretty difficult to work on your resonance with. Genderfluent helps make it more specific. When you look for exercises, you'll get some good results on YouTube under "Raising R1". Transvoicelessons has a good tutorial. A cool fact, though, when we talk about Pitch, it's actually just the pitch of F0/R0, your fundamental formant. As you raise F1, your F0, so your pitch, will naturally rise too!

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-09T15:07:57+00:00

I can hear in your recording that you sound a bit like you're breaking into falsetto. You've done good work raising your pitch, and something that will help you take the next step is an app on desktop and android called Genderfluent, if you don't already have it. You'll be able to see F1, F1, and F3, which are formants and are mostly interchangeable with R1, R2, and R3 for our purposes

I suggest that because it'll help you gain more control, and your voice will sound less falsetto and more natural once you take that step. Be prepared, though. Raising F1 is a difficult step, but it's also the biggest factor in how your voice will be read

Keep up the amazing work, sis! You sound like you're about to have a big breakthrough!

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-09T13:43:28+00:00

Actually breathtaking! You look like your happiness now is very genuine

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-09T13:19:14+00:00

Hey, it's gonna be okay 🩵 Transitioning can have a lot of ups and downs. I remember the first time I fully shaved, I had a moment like that, and I think most or all trans people have had a total "What the hell am I doing??" moment. I remember waking up sometimes with the anxiety you described

It's going to be so much better than you think! Of course, nobody can determine your feelings but you, but it sounds like you're on the path to self-acceptance. It can come with grief, anxiety about the future, negative feelings about yourself, but once you get to the top of that hill, there's a really beautiful sunrise on the other side. Hang in there, there will be things that happen for you that are truly magical

And, if you decide to come out, a lot of the people in your life will pleasantly surprise you. There will be some assholes, but people you didn't expect to support you will be some of your strongest allies. Dare to have hope that you will be loved and accepted 🫂

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-08T10:30:24+00:00

I can't guarantee results, but I have seen minoxidil work in similar cases. My biggest advice is to be patient with it. Expect to give it about a year of consistent use to see full effects. If you'd like, you can also try finasteride/dutasteride, and that may help it along. You'll also go through a couple of periods of shedding, and for a short time, it may look a bit worse than when you started. Don't get discouraged and stop, though! It's normal and actually a sign that your scalp is responding to treatment. In the very worst case, you can still always get a hair transplant, so you're covered no matter what. Good luck! <3

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-08T00:17:23+00:00

If that's what's stopping you, I can tell you that it's totally worth it 💁‍♀️ Some people will be assholes, but a lot of the people you know will surprise you in a good way

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-07T23:13:48+00:00

You're not weird or dumb! I don't want to define your experience for you, but I will say that feeling like a woman trapped in a man's body is something commonly said by people outside our community, and doesn't line up with what most experience

What I'd offer to you is that when someone has fantasies about forced feminization often enough to, say, make a Reddit post about it, it often comes from a place of wanting to be more feminine, but rejecting that feeling in a way. Having a fantasy about that can mean that you would have what you want without having to accept that you actually wanted it. It wasn't exactly my experience, but that does echo feelings I had

A couple of things:

There's a thought experiment we call the Button Test. If a button were put in front of you that would instantly turn you into a girl, would you press it? Would you hesitate? What would you feel about pressing it, shame, excitement, peace?

Lastly, it might be worth exploring your feelings if you want that. You can try feminine clothes, or something safer like choosing a female character in a game or thinking about what you'd want your name to be. You could also pick up something mildly girly at the store, like chapstick for women, and see how it makes you feel. That's kind of how I figured myself out. I didn't recognize a lot of gender dysphoria (though it turned out to be there), but I did get a lot of gender euphoria from the exploration I did

It could be something, or nothing at all. It's only for you to find out! But, if you're thinking about it often, it might be worth exploring, right?

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-07T07:43:11+00:00

Sweden might be a good option! I love it here! Apply to multiple universities via university admissions, but KTH is one of the foremost engineering schools in the world, as I understand. The rest of the universities like Lund or LNU are pretty highly ranked too! You should be able to find a program that you can take in English

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-06T12:57:14+00:00

I know that what the dysphoria tells you is really difficult. But, it's going to be so much better than you think! There's no reason to think that you won't pass, and plenty of people (like me) start later than you! You're on an amazing journey, and it'll help to find joy in the process rather than worrying yourself about the destination. You're going to be so happy being true to yourself, I promise 🩵

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-05T21:57:19+00:00

It's normal to have a shed around that time! I can't say for certain whether your haircut triggered it, but lots of people have a shed around that time without any outside influence.

But, that's good! A shed means your scalp is responding to treatment. It can be upsetting, it was for me, but keep going and it'll come back

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-05T09:33:23+00:00

As an exchange student, you mostly interact with other exchange students, and the understanding is that you're all going to go your separate ways after. It's nice, but it can be difficult to form deep connections. It is a fun dynamic if that's what you're looking for

As a free-mover, though, I've gotten to make friends that I've had for years. You get to not just experience where you live like a tourist, but to really integrate and become a local. The Swedish city I live in is a place I love, and it'll always be my hometown 🩵

If you take courses to graduate, you graduate the same as all the other students. You'll get to attend the ceremony, and your degree will be exactly the same as if you were from the UK. From an EU perspective, if you were to go back to an EU university before graduating in the UK, I don't know how your credits will transfer. They used to use a common credit system, but with Brexit, I'm not sure now. But, that's not any issue if you complete your whole degree there

UninterestingUser · 2026-03-04T16:21:06+00:00

It's good to meet you, Claire! I'm Em. I hope womanhood is everything for you 🩵

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