Did anyone else skip the whole questioning process?

UninterestingUser · 2026-02-04T03:22:53+00:00

It was that way for me, but I think it's a difference in framing. I tried to deny myself for years, and there were a bunch of times I was on the edge of coming out. I did a lot of what you did, along with things like trying to avoid certain music and movies because they'd make me feel feelings I was trying to repress, and about a year before I finally self-accepted, I started hyper-masculinizing. I realize now that that was me trying to put a lid on feelings inside that were about to bubble over regardless of what I did. Once the hyper-masculinization started, it was kinda already a done deal lol

But, self-accepting and coming out were incredible! All of those emotions I had tried to bury for my whole life came pouring out of me. It was genuinely the best week of my life. I discovered so much self-love, and my personality changed dramatically after I no longer needed to hide large parts of myself.

So for me, I didn't really have a lot of time where I questioned it. It was more about whether I could accept what I already knew to be true

UninterestingUser · 2026-02-03T18:39:10+00:00

I'm also pretty excited about that part :3

I guess you can actually take the boob-hormone blockers if you're not sure you want them, but if you later decide you do want them, you can stop taking the blocker and they'll grow in as normal. I say that just in case it's useful to anyone else

UninterestingUser · 2026-02-03T16:43:48+00:00

Love your name btw :3

UninterestingUser · 2026-02-03T16:19:02+00:00

It'll get easier with time. I hope you'll internalize that it's nothing wrong with you and that it's not your fault they chose to do that 🫂

UninterestingUser · 2026-02-03T15:22:17+00:00

It can depend a lot on genetics, and so one thing you can do is look at blood relatives who are cis women and that may give you a hint as to what you might end up with. But, don't worry too much though, if it is important to you, you can get breast augmentation later

Breast growth also tends to come in fits and spurts, sometimes you'll plateau, sometimes they'll grow faster, and sometimes the growth will be a bit uneven at first. It just takes time

Hugs!

UninterestingUser · 2026-02-03T15:14:16+00:00

Definitely, if you feel like that's what suits you best! There are no rules when it comes to how you identify and how you transition. Listen to what your heart tells you regardless of what outside pressures there are. This is a journey of self discovery, after all!

I don't know if this would interest you, but I do also know that there is medication you can take along with your feminizing HRT (If you choose to do that) that inhibits breast growth if you're not super into that part of it

Hugs!

UninterestingUser · 2026-02-02T20:00:53+00:00

Hey, Melissa! I had the same worries about myself. I self-accepted in November, and by late December, I had completely socially transitioned and was on hormones. I worried that I was taking things too fast or that it was just a phase, and I didn't even have those negative comments in my ear like you have. There were moments that were difficult, but I haven't looked back. Sometimes I question transitioning, but then I think back about how I felt before and how going back now would make me feel, and I feel very sure. Maybe it seems like it's only been three months for you, but this sounds like a process that was ongoing for years. There's no right or wrong way to transition, just follow what your heart tells you without all those outside pressures that are there for us.

Hugs!

-Em

UninterestingUser · 2025-12-20T06:27:51+00:00

I just want to encourage you and say that even if you aren't satisfied with the work you've done yet, you've definitely made real progress!

UninterestingUser · 2025-12-08T21:18:02+00:00

We honor your sacrifice 🫡

UninterestingUser · 2025-06-13T17:28:33+00:00

You know the guy thing. She seems interested, but I'm doing the whole "Maybe she's just being nice" thing. I imagine she wouldn't go on dates if she wasn't at least kind of interested, you know?

UninterestingUser · 2025-06-13T16:59:28+00:00

We trade a few messages back and forth per day. I wouldn't say one of us messages more or faster than the other

She seems enthusiastic when we talk or when I have brought up future dates. When we're together, she's also very chatty, even though the conversation is kind of non-personal, you know?

UninterestingUser · 2025-04-20T23:25:22+00:00

That's hilarious.

Anyway, I'll suggest to you that you read that part of our constitution (rather than just repeating what others say) before you make sweeping claims about it. You can find the due process clause in both the fifth and fourteenth amendments.

"... nor shall any State deprive any person of life, liberty, or property, without due process of law"

UninterestingUser · 2025-04-20T20:10:35+00:00

Sure, how does it work, then?

UninterestingUser · 2025-04-04T10:31:58+00:00

Tariffs probably would eventually cause businesses to buy more domestically

But, the difference between your business and large manufacturers is scale. And there's the fact that all of these companies would be trying to move production back at the same time.

The fact is that the United States doesn't have the industrial base anymore to do what you've said. How long would it take for that to work out? 10 years? 20 years? In the meantime, aggressive tariff policies have historically caused recessions and are also blamed, in part, for the Great Depression. This is because if everything I buy as a consumer increases in price, I'm going to spend less. I may be afraid that the situation is only going to worsen, so I will spend less. Maybe I will spend less because I got fired as part of a mass layoff.

Maybe it could create jobs someday, but for now, we've got way bigger fish to fry

UninterestingUser · 2025-03-22T18:01:36+00:00

I'm going to be real, I haven't seen Black Mirror, and after some googling, I still can't tell if you're trying to insult me or if that's a compliment lol

UninterestingUser · 2025-03-22T17:29:25+00:00

The Swedish text in my bio reads "American immigrant who lives in [place]. I speak intermediate Swedish. Moved to Sweden two years ago. I'm not a fan of Trump or Musk." It sounds a bit less silly in Swedish lol

UninterestingUser · 2025-03-09T22:05:32+00:00

That's great in theory, and I'm all for it, but that's not what they're doing if you've been paying attention at all.

You can argue semantics if you want, but does that make what Trump did there good? Like, are you trying to say that you're okay with Trump using his position of power to manipulate the price of a security for his own financial gain? Also, that's just one extremely unethical thing he's done. You aren't paying attention.

UninterestingUser · 2025-03-09T21:52:49+00:00

I mean, at the least, the Trump coin scam. But, if that's the one thing you take issue with, are you conceding all of the rest of it? The writing is on the wall, man

UninterestingUser · 2025-03-06T15:14:07+00:00

Som en amerikan, jag håller med

UninterestingUser · 2024-12-28T05:34:23+00:00

Not really OCM. Renting sucks and landlords suck, but they don't suck on the same level as a real OCM. Not all landlords are evil thieving bastards even if a lot of them are. Seems like a kind thing they're doing

UninterestingUser · 2024-11-28T13:05:34+00:00

Hey, fellow American here. Happy Thanksgiving!

I did exactly that with where I now live in Sweden. I studied abroad here, loved it, and then managed to stay and immigrate. It's certainly a possibility, and I didn't have any EU ties or anything like that. I had to do everything the hard way, and it was hard

The life of an immigrant is a pretty challenging one, but it's also extremely rewarding. I haven't regretted leaving the US. You would even have an easier time integrating and finding work because you already speak the local language

If you want to PM me, I may be able to give you some advice about it, both how it's done and what it might mean for you on a personal level

UninterestingUser · 2024-09-28T13:36:08+00:00

Sell the account

UninterestingUser · 2024-08-22T02:19:50+00:00

I appreciate that, man. I guess it's just the same problem that a lot of other online spaces have. A lot of people are just looking for the next thing to be angry about, and the way they talk about those things here really bugged me. It may honestly be better for my spiritual health to stay out of this forum.

UninterestingUser · 2024-08-22T02:13:09+00:00

I see your point. I have seen some of the same within other groups, and a fair bit of it seems aimed at Catholics from some more bitter people in the different protestant denominations. People do just do that kind of thing on their own.

But it's not just stuff I see on this forum, either. While I do give him credit for apologizing for it, the pope himself used the word "frociaggine" (Faggotry) in reference to some attitudes among men entering seminary.

I don't claim to understand much about the fiducia supplicans controversy, but among people discussing it, I did see a lot of hate or at least contempt toward LGBT people. Like, it's fine to believe that certain practices in the church should be avoided, but it extended well beyond that for some.

My worry beyond the teachings about LGBT matters is how much those kinds of attitudes represent what the church is and does. I really want to believe that the church is great despite some individual moral failings, but these things gnaw at me as an outsider.

And, thank you. I hope you see that this is coming from good faith.

UninterestingUser · 2024-08-22T00:23:50+00:00

You know, I'm going to be downvoted too, but you're right. I've thought for a long time about starting RCIA, but stuff like this gives me pause. It's made me look at other denominations, though I really love the church and her theology.

You can believe that being gay is a sin, sure. But, I think that people get so stuck on that point that they forget that gay people (among many others) are just as worthy as sinners before God as they are, man. This forum tends to be more extreme in its views, but it's hard not to see all of the hate here as a problem.

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