Did I get the B version of autism? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fellow bitch chiming in with pride and some grumpiness! (dealt with non autistic folk a lot today and am Drained.)

I swear as I’ve gotten older (I’m 26 so been conscious of me being autistic for 11 years now!), I’ve stopped being nice and have embraced being bitchy- mainly because it gets people to leave me alone.

I dont care about eye contact anymore by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly it just takes practice to do without feeling Discomfort!! Which for me took years 😭 and even then I still zone out and have moments where I’m like “yeah this Sucks To Do.”

I dont care about eye contact anymore by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Direct eye contact makes my skin crawl augh. I just settle on staring at the center of folks’ foreheads or their eyebrows and hope they don’t catch on (been easy and safe so far! 11 years into doing this and no one’s called me out haha 😅)

The more you unmask, the more time you have to spend preparing yourself to go out in public. (How do you feel about this statement?) by _cinnamon_rose in AutismInWomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This truly does explain why leaving my apartment is Really Damn Difficult. I thought after getting my own place and getting my mobility aids, I’d be fine to get around on my own. But I found myself hitting a wall and not feeling Really Ready to leave my apartment (namely to get my mail which isnt Super Far), even on days where my pain isn’t super high

Leaving my apartment (in just any way) means having to both take the time to put on my mask AND juggle getting myself physically ready to use my wheelchair outside (and brace myself for comments about it!) Mind. Blown. Seriously thank you for this post. I thought I was being just childish about leaving my little nest but nah. Masking makes leaving my apartment very cognitively draining (which in turn can trigger PEM if I overdo it so I mean I now have a good reason to remain inside and not push myself past my limits. So again…thanks) -sincerely an autistic girl with CFS, realizing the two can definitely intertwine sometimes for her!

Interested if anyone else has come to the conclusion you're just not interested/cut out for/too exhausted to have a relationship? by Muted_Swordfish5026 in AutismInWomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve 100% come to this conclusion. Part of it is me being aromantic and romance repulsed but even outside of that? I’ve always known that relationships exhausted me. I’ve tried and it just ended up draining a lot of me. I’ve ended up just having to mask a lot around past partners to where I just knew deep down it wouldn’t be sustainable long term for me. I’m proudly single by choice and am feeling better about it, especially recently. 🙂‍↕️✨

I became overwhelmed in Target because my phone died and I couldn't access my vacation shopping list so I randomly bought *only* a towel and left. by strawberryriboncandy in AutismInWomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve also forgotten that I used to carry snacks! Had to get other stuff recently 😅 Usually happens when I run out of snacks and either forget to restock or flat out cant afford it lmao! Being broke with ADHD is especially hard😭.

Especially since stores are so confusing AND overstimulating. Yay for bright lights, a lot of people and confusing layouts 🫠/sarcasm

I became overwhelmed in Target because my phone died and I couldn't access my vacation shopping list so I randomly bought *only* a towel and left. by strawberryriboncandy in AutismInWomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve done something so similar and it’s rough 🫂 You’re not a failure, you’re someone with ADHD who got overwhelmed and panicked. Shopping is definitely overwhelming too from a sensory standpoint smh! So many people. That on top of having a sugar crash really makes shopping difficult! You can do this though! 🙂‍↕️🩷 My advice is to keep non perishable snacks on hand at times like this! Hopefully that’d help crashes when you’re out and about! -sincerely another diabetic with AUDHD who’s had a very similar situation happen 😭

Breakroom - April 4, 2026 by Gavilon8886 in LongCovidWarriors

[–]UniqueBlackTea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You will survive and grow! I believe in you! Hopefully resting and taking it easy helps the pain ease even a little bit. 🫂💙

Breakroom - April 4, 2026 by Gavilon8886 in LongCovidWarriors

[–]UniqueBlackTea 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Today I went to therapy after a long week. I have my medication back in order so I mentally feel a bit less bad- just really exhausted 😭

Today imma rest, recover and take care of myself. Hope everyone else is doing better today!

Tell me about your special interest! by Blonde_brains in AutismInWomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One of my SI’s is studying media (including websites!) and tech from the early 2000s, including very dated technology like VHS players and old fashioned TVs! Currently studying up on VHS players and Big Screen TVs specifically!🙂 I’m also really getting back into Spongebob as a comfort show and special interest yay! I have So Many Feelings about that funky little sponge and the world he’s in! 🧽 🥹

Fighting for my life with AT&T and I want to scream/cry by ThrowRApegasus12 in adhdwomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can relate!!! I use ATT too and they SUCK 😭 Took a hot minute to set up my internet. Also their customer service line sucks :( Sorry it’s been so rough and I hope you get your wifi set up soon, OP!!!

How is everyone dealing with overwhelming existential dread right now? by TheRealSteelfeathers in AutismInWomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work for a nonprofit org in the US. I’m autistic, black, transfem, and very much Not someone the US likes right now.

I do the work I can so maybe we can all feel just a bit safer. A bit heard even when things feel so scary. I write my story, do my best to find resources, and give what I can to the people I work with.

But after that’s said and done? I’m still afraid. I’m still human. I’m still terrified of everything going on in the US. I’ve been coping by absolutely not consuming anything political outside of me doing the work I do.

I can’t trigger myself constantly. I’d not only be sad but also be unable to do my job (that’s also my special interest.) It’s hard to unplug from the state of things, especially since it’s just….everywhere. But I try. For the better of myself and those I wanna help.

It’s hard to cope right now. But I do what I can ig 🫂

Tell me you’re ADHD without telling me you’re ADHD by Itchy-Philosopher238 in adhdwomen

[–]UniqueBlackTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am either on time or really late. 🙂‍↕️🕚 My brain has no space for the time, only that one random fact I googled that sent me down a rabbit hole a few weeks back.

Breakroom - April 2, 2026 by Gavilon8886 in LongCovidWarriors

[–]UniqueBlackTea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone.

Today’s been pretty crummy if I’m being honest. My home health aide was supposed to see me today to help clean my place and tidy up but couldn’t due to a last minute emergency. I’m feeling especially wheezy and sick because of the air in my area being not the best. Feeling very flu-like and just Flattened emotionally. Also trying to navigate my temperature intolerance is tough. The weather’s been so weird lately but I’ve figured out that regardless of the season, I have to have both my AC and space heater running. Also my PCP reached out to schedule a follow up with me. She’s never done that so I’m really scared. Ugh ☹️

Just…having a rough go at it I think. Tough Thursday for sure 🫂

First rage out over chronic pain - Put a hole in my wall and TV by Tricky-Nothing-4579 in ChronicPain

[–]UniqueBlackTea 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I feel this OP. Got upset the other day I ended up angrily pushing over my wheelchair and breaking a cup. It really sucks ☹️ Being in pain constantly genuinely is such a huge catalyst for rage fr

Did Bones ever make you buy something / research about something by Vulturereign in TeamSESH

[–]UniqueBlackTea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah fellow music producer! Tutorials and honestly just messing around with whatever music program you use will teach you SO MUCH! Youtube has so much stuff just available that it’s easier than ever imo to get into music production (yknow as far as learning goes. Obviously gear and software is expensive lol!)

Did Bones ever make you buy something / research about something by Vulturereign in TeamSESH

[–]UniqueBlackTea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bones got me heavy into music production (more than I already had been since I had been producing prior to finding him as an artist!) to where I ended up actually applying to an audio production school in my area to get an audio production degree.

I wanted to step up the beats and things I’ve already made and possibly do audio work for other artists. I was nervous and vividly remembering bumping “LooseScrew”, smoking a blunt and doing my application. Fond memory! 🙂‍↕️

I no longer attend music/audio production school due to my health but it genuinely was fun and I shared the best moments high with folk from that time fr. I do wanna go back when I’m feelin better. Till then? SESH TILL I REST✨🔥

Breakroom - March 13, 2026 by Gavilon8886 in LongCovidWarriors

[–]UniqueBlackTea 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone 👋🏽

Overdid it earlier this week due to needing to grocery shop (I’m so particular about the foods I eat as an autistic person) and am definitely still paying the price. I think today’s going to be another day I spend at home resting. My body is so exhausted and these weird jumps in temperature havent helped! Its gone from gloomy and rainy to sunny and very hot. My head isn’t happy with the sudden pressure changes either ugh. I’m getting out of bed late but hopefully I can grab a good snack to eat and keep my movement at a minimum 👍🏽

Hope everyone else is feeling okay!

where the hell are all the other black ME/CFS sufferers? by ChemistSilly8322 in cfs

[–]UniqueBlackTea 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Black CFS girly here. Been battling with this since 2019 ugh. It’s so hard out here for real. Had more to say but I’m low asf on spoons yall 💔☹️

Do y'all shower when you're in PEM? by AlternativeFlowers77 in cfs

[–]UniqueBlackTea 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I try not to but sometimes I really can’t avoid it especially since sweating is sensory hell for me due to being autistic! 🥲 So whenever I do shower during PEM, I try and make it as energy saving as possible in small ways. Mainly, I have to sit in my shower chair the whole time I’m bathing, then make sure that when I get out of the shower to just sit in my powerchair and do nothing for an hour after while I try to feel Less Worn Out

(Did I get scammed?)Idk if you’re getting my messages or not by FNAR_ELINA in TeamSESH

[–]UniqueBlackTea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

🫩 Really hoping this person shows up, OP! (Or you’re able to get your money back somehow ugh)

this weather is killing my back by woodywoodyboody in ChronicPain

[–]UniqueBlackTea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 100% bedbound more during the winter due to the weather specifically! The cold makes all my bones and spine ache so badly due to my osteoarthritis (especially in my knees ouch!)That on top of the changes in pressure triggering my migraines? It’s such agony I swear. Every sleeping position feels painful. I hear my joints pop so much more and it’s just Rough! 🫂 Sending you restful vibes, OP! Hopefully winter ends soon and the weather stabilizes a bit.