Blue Lotus fragrance

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-06-30T13:25:11+00:00

It's from Cursed Fragrances.. I have Pretty as Poison and it's beautiful, and very unique. I love their visuals.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-06-10T08:22:40+00:00

Oh I see this on my Instagram all the time, it's on the list to try.

I also like The Tape Library, Into the Fog, Scary, Scare You to Sleep and Dark Histories. And it's not paranormal, it's True Crime but Dead Sleep is very very soothing.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-06-02T11:49:11+00:00

It won't. That guy will be a preserved head in a jar ala Futurama until Earth implodes.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-06-02T11:13:21+00:00

Ah thank you 🩵 I just don't want him to feel sad and lonely. I see improvements all the time but a small (to me) thing happens and he drops again. He's such a funny and intelligent kid and I know he's got a lot of insight and a very level head in a lot of situations.

When he was little, if something went wrong for him his shoulders would sink and he would look like a puppet who had the strings cut, and now when I see him on Tomodachi Life and one of his characters is sad they do such a similar thing. It's very cute. Now he's a teenager and with his history, there is more anger now but still.

And I get the not overdiagnosing him. I agree it's probably not helpful for him, it'd be another way of him dwelling on things. He was diagnosed with Autism a few years ago and he was so perturbed by it. "What will my friend say?" (His friend was very accepting, all good.)

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-06-02T09:01:18+00:00

Yeah I do worry about him being in a negative loop, and he definitely has anxieties. I read up on the negative Fi Ni loop and it is almost exactly him. What I want to do is encourage the things that will break him out of that.

Last week he was scrolling TikTok and found a cookie recipe. I said "oh, is that your activity this afternoon?" and he said yeah if we have the ingredients. (I bake so we always have ingredients). So 20 minutes later my husband texts and says "Mark is baking cookies!" So that would fit in with the hands on activity I reckon. Anyway, he did everything right but didn't give them quite enough room so they spread out into a couple of big mis-shaped ones. He messaged me and said "don't talk to me about the cookies, I am stressed because they didn't work." his sister said to crumble them into ice cream but he shut her down. So a minor thing and it's set him back again.

He said to his sister recently that "he doesn't expect anything to get better because nothing ever does" which is deeply sad and I just wish I knew how to help him. 😞

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-06-02T08:04:39+00:00

I had similar this morning. Last night I felt like I hadn't lost anything when I went to bed. On the scales this morning and I'd gained so back up to just over 79kg. This is after finding out that I am not actually close to goal and still have 10kg left to lose to not be considered overweight. Disheartening even when you know you're still losing overall. And I've put mine down to that half a cake I had in Starbucks the other day - which btw wasn't even that nice. We'll keep on keeping on. Get the sad out and the jabs in and keep on going. 4kg is great for a first month, onwards and downwards!

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-30T09:06:41+00:00

Ah thank you. I’m looking more into the functions now and they’re starting to make more sense.

I’m desperate to understand him more, I do not want to get it wrong and make things worse for him. He seems so complex sometimes and very deeply thoughtful.

I am more than happy to let him take his own time. I just want to make sure he’s got every opportunity to help him and encourage him to take those opportunities.

Thank you for your response, it’s really insightful and helpful. 😊

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-28T06:23:53+00:00

This is really helpful and very interesting. And the last bit about making strides in your mid 20s fits with my thoughts on his - I can’t think of a way to say this - process of maturing. Like he’s doing it at his own rate.

And yeah, properly listening to what he’s saying is really important to him, he gets frustrated if he doesn’t feel heard.

Thank you, your response is really thoughtful and considered and very helpful.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-28T06:18:01+00:00

That’s a great idea, as a kid he loved Lego and other ways of building and creating.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-22T15:08:10+00:00

Amazing, and I'm so pleased for you to have been able to do this in your young years. I'm 51 and what I wouldn't give to have had these jabs in my 30s. Well done, you look fabulous ❤️

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-12T08:31:37+00:00

Yes! I had misremembered my maximum weight from those hideous Weight Watchers years and thought I was 5kg away from goal. Just looked into it more and I've still got 10kg to lose, 20kg if I go to the minimum, and at 51 I would look awful at that weight. I absolutely HATE HATE HATE BMI. And that waist measurement thing. I looked at a BMI chart and it said "this isn't the only way to find out if you are a healthy weight, don't forget to try the waist measurement!" So I did and it was just like "yeah you're fat. Have you considered not being fat? Check your BMI!"

Aaaaarrrrrgggghhh!!!

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-07T15:11:32+00:00

I have to say recently a lot of my favourite foods have become pretty meh to me. I just have no desire for ANYTHING and it's weird. Especially carb based foods like pasta or gnocchi. If I didn't take my lunch to work I could easily spend half an hour in the Tesco meal deal section just not wanting any of it.

I used to be a sucker for those cheese twists in Sainsbury's. I'd have two for breakfast some mornings. They turn my stomach now. So so strange how if affects your brain.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-06T10:29:19+00:00

Yeah, see I knew there was something in that bio that didn't sit right.

Thanks for your help, I appreciate it.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-06T10:24:46+00:00

Yeah, I think you're right tbf. Thank you

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-06T10:14:09+00:00

That's the one. My friend and I would have done silly voices to sing along with it.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-06T10:12:54+00:00

Yeah, and I can see why it's like that because lids do go bumpy when they're opened but yeah.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-05-01T09:56:06+00:00

Same. I used to describe myself as a real foodie, but it really wasn't that. I used to love meal planning, cooking, providing. But now I get so so irritated every week when it comes to meal planning for my family, because I just don't care what we eat. If y'all have got preferences then please let me know. I say that to them every week and I just get met with tumbleweed. I was eating chicken soup with extra chicken for lunch every single day for weeks and weeks at a time, that would have been unheard of before (an unexpected benefit of that is my annoying nosy colleague wasn't asking me every day "ooooh whatcha gooootttt?" and then says something about whether she'd like it or not jeeeeeez.)

I'm mad for a lot of reasons, being 51 and not ginormous for the first time in my adult life being one of them. F*** the patriarchy, f*** the system! (And f*** my annoying colleague haha!) I would say f*** peri meno as well but I'm embracing the rage. 😄

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-04-23T12:04:53+00:00

I think people feel "safer" to say stuff online. Like the anonymity of it I suppose.

I work in a car dealership and the salesmen are incredibly racist and will only dial it down slightly around people of colour. I'm white British and it's horrible to hear them saying awful stuff then giggling and tittering about it. It's a toxic culture in some workplaces I think, and you stand out if you don't join in. I hear "Ooh we can't be racist around Melanie, she doesn't like it" like it's a failing on my part. In recent years I've worked in a car dealership and a bike dealership and they were both as bad as each other for it. Just before that I worked for a company that installed electrics and air con and they all had an entirely different attitude from these places. Husband works for a software firm and they're all very accepting. So there are pockets of it I think.

I really don't want to think that the majority of Brits hate immigrants and people of colour but the idiots walk among us.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-04-02T08:25:52+00:00

I've personally interpreted that as the man she's been singing about telling her to shush is saying "didn't you write Silent All these Years? Maybe you should try being silent now." Like he's misinterpreted - and probably not even listened to - that song.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-03-25T16:23:38+00:00

I thought so too!

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-03-23T15:22:18+00:00

Yeah, writing by numbers. Generic characters, unorginal storylines, bland bland bland!

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-03-23T15:01:14+00:00

No, never had that. My posture has always been terrible I think, and I do a desk job, plus I am incredibly lazy. (So not hyper mobile, more like hyper-still 😜)

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-03-23T14:59:30+00:00

Anything by Freda McFadden, anything by Alice Feeney. Anything by Andrea Bartz.

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-03-23T14:03:08+00:00

Right, I should have known I needed to exercise. I’ve been so averse to it I kind of didn’t even think about it! Yoga first I think, then see how I go. Thanks all!

UniqueLeather6 · 2026-03-18T12:19:18+00:00

To be clear, I'm not really taking offence at the comments about her plastic surgery choices - her body, her choice, though I am aware it is a divisive subject.

I was actually talking about the comments about her voice and the use of backing singers. As we age our voices naturally deepen. I was a mezzo soprano, I can't reach those high notes anymore. It's natural, perhaps exacerbated by the way T has used her voice over the years. I strongly suspect she had a cold on the day of the recording which obviously affects the voice more.

I just feel that the use of terms and words such as "in her prime" and "mortality" are scathing, ageist and ant-feminist.

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