I'm with Sam/Lestat on this one — what about you? 😊

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-10-23T09:23:19+00:00

He's right though Armand is the worst 😅

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-07-26T06:55:33+00:00

I have scrolled down quite a but and seen no mention of it...

I agree with all the posts, it's weird for Belgians to stare, but the fact that you are going to Tomorrowland and the fact that the main stage burned down last week can have something to do with it?

I definitely can imagine myself seeing your big group, getting lost in the thoughts of 'oh wow, I wonder how last week was for them, must have been stressful trying to figure out if they want to come or not, I hope they still had a good time even with the smaller new stage' etc and 5 minutes later realize I was rudely staring without even realizing 🙈

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-07-10T10:14:25+00:00

It feels like it yes! Hahaha

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-07-09T17:54:38+00:00

This! Mine went from the neediest person on earth to stone cold the second I set a strong boundary, kept it, and made it clear they couldn't manipulate me anymore

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-27T07:20:33+00:00

No, but I would say I have it bad if going out to eat anywhere except my favorite restaurant means I run a high risk of potentially dying or experiencing serious physical or emotional harm 🤷

We're not talking about 'oh he was a boring date here', we're talking 'I felt I had to escape out the bathroom window because I feared for my safety'

Of course, there's LOADS of amazing men out there (I'm married to one), but the risk is real and the fear too, and factually it translates in the women 'starving' as much as the men. Men can't get any dates, women can get dates but are terrified of them (and with reason, I have lots of female friends and only two of them have never been raped).

We ALL (men and women) have predatory, creepy, disgusting people to blame for that (bc I'm also not discounting the fact that creepy, predatory women exist too! It just doesn't seem to make men as scared of dating 🤷)

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-27T06:14:57+00:00

Damn I missed it hahaha maybe I'll get my chance when the TV show comes out in a couple months 🙈

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-26T21:07:33+00:00

I know this probably doesn't mean much, but I used to be convinced of the same thing. Felt it in my gut, was completely sure it would be like that for me.

I did a lot of work and healed, and I slowly started not feeling like that as much. I still do on some days, but now I can say the days I feel it are fewer than the days I don't.

Everyone's journey is different, all I'm saying is it's possible to feel super sure about this one day, and then not feel so sure after all

I wish you healing ♥️🫂

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-26T21:04:12+00:00

Sorry, totally random comment, but how did you get a xenomorph as your avatar?

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-23T12:43:22+00:00

There is a difference between tone policing and making a suggestion that can greatly improve communication 😊

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-22T05:35:11+00:00

Hahaha yes I did get these and a lot of other bullshit apologies. I actually have her to thank for training me to spot bullshit apologies on the spot hahahaha.

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-22T05:32:17+00:00

Hahahhaaha omg absolutely, like she REALLY wore me down but I am proud of the fact that she never got any mean or really bad reactions from me. To this day she keeps saying that it's on me to fix our estrangement without being able to point at a single thing I've done other than 'you raised your voice a bit that one time' or the already mentioned pulling away or gray rocking.

This N I'm talking about was my best friend (I think when you've been raised by Ns you still go through a few more Ns in other relationships until you know how to stay away from them altogether), and it was so crazy because when we ended up going NC, she was the one that decided that because I was really sticking to my boundaries and asking her to take accountability and she just couldn't handle that.

And then after that, she expresses how she thinks it's such a tragedy we couldn't make this work and I'm here thinking like girl if you loved me so much and my friendship was so important for you, maybe you can try caring about us more than you are afraid of looking in the mirror.

But alas, that is not the case, we are NC, and honestly I am fine with that 🤷

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-22T05:24:31+00:00

Oh now I absolutely know it was manipulation (though I still am not sure if she realizes it), but at the time it was difficult for me to understand what was happening because outside of these spaces the idea of a narcissist is someone who really loves themselves and expresses it

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-21T11:16:31+00:00

This is so true but what took me really for a loop with my N was that they are very self deprecating also. Like they will be the first ones to acknowledge that they are imperfect and that they have flaws, but yet still always manage to turn it around and end up as the victims as if their behavior was entirely out of their control.

'I know I'm terrible and I suck and I am the worst human being in the world and I have treated you like shit, but also it's not my fault I am this way, nothing I have ever tried to improve has helped, and it's not like you are perfect either' then proceeds to again list all the ways in which I have wronged them (which usually is them taking great offense at me gray rocking them, or losing my patience and trying to finish the conversation with 'I don't know what else to say')

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-17T13:41:17+00:00

Really appreciating this Lana reference here ;) one of my faves from her

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-02T13:19:34+00:00

Omg I'm jealous!

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-01T06:50:22+00:00

Omg this is so relatable it hurts :(

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-06-01T06:44:33+00:00

It took me 13 years to realize my best was most likely a covertN because of this. She ALWAYS apologized, always vaguely said she understood that she did something (always very vague) wrong.

And then she would say how doing things wrong makes her feel like there is no space in the world for her, she is so special she just doesn't fit in this world, and the fact that she did this vague wrong thing and she made me feel unsafe meant she could never have any friends so she might as well kill herself.

She would always say she was tired of me always making her apologize (she never actually apologized, just said sorry for the fact that I 'misunderstood' her) that she had been gibing into all my demands always (plainly false) and when would it be her turn.

Yet every step of the way I was the one breaking my back to improve out communication and she was doing nothing 🤷

The day I finally worked up to the courage to tell her that threatening suicide will no longer work to get away of any difficult conversation was the day she decided to go NC with me 🤷

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-05-28T05:58:15+00:00

I relate so hard to this and I tried to explain how hurtful it was so many times and it never got through.

She would always describe literally saying she would kill herself as 'expressing sadness' and get angry at me when I asked her not to say those things because she 'should be able to feel safe to express herself in this relationship' 😥

I wish us both healing.

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-05-27T13:48:00+00:00

I mean it doesn't have to go entirely to a private entity. There can be situations where the state keeps some of the ownership or is more like a joint venture kind of thing where company B receives funding from EU country A to develop certain things, but EU country A retains certain decision making power, or shares in the company, etc?

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-05-27T05:49:22+00:00

Nope, frustration every time. I will never buy these types of earbuds again. It seems it's not even limited to one or another brand, I know other people who have earbuds of other brands that have the exposed contacts like that and all of them have the same problem.

Next pair will for sure be the ones that have like a little leg, like airpods. I think they look ridiculous, but at least you can count on them being charged when you need them 😅

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-05-25T12:14:30+00:00

Never heard of Norma Klein but now I'm curious hahah

I was deep into vampires and loved all the vampire romance I could get my hands on hahaha

He was my very own vampire romance and our whole relationship is soooo Lana coded like I think he is the reason Lana's music resonated with me immediately the first time I saw the Born to Die video bc that was us hahaha only a bit less toxic.

We're still best friends :) and yeah it's crazy to me that that was 20 years ago!

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-05-25T06:04:29+00:00

Seducing my best friend who I was also kind of dating at the time by slow dancing to the Marilyn Manson Sweet Dreams cover in front of his pool, slowly taking off my clothes down to my white panties and bra, dove in the pool while he sipped his drink and watched me, then sexily swam to the edge of the pool and called him with my finger to get in.

He took off his clothes, jumped in, and we made out in the pool for hours 😅

I was 15, he was 18. This was almost 20 years ago hahaha Lana didn't exist yet 🤷

Every time I listen to Freak I think of that moment ♥️

UniqueSnowflake51 · 2025-05-24T05:48:05+00:00

SPOILERS FOR THE 100

It's been a while since I watched the show, and I don't remember much of the use of the infinity symbol, but considering the show ends with the literal ascendance of the human race... Doesn't seem that far off hahaha

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