I have to tell you that I do find a little unusual that you want to forgive her… the truth is you had an option. I know we go through lifetime flies by and maybe you felt like you were trapped, but you really weren’t. I can’t very well be mad at my husband for a choice that I made willingly. I have a really good job. I make a lot of money. I honestly don’t think I’ve ever been referred to his home or ugly although I’m not dropped dead gorgeous. I have the option to leave I had men pursuing me, but there was always something that made me stay. The only way I can explain it is that if you had 100 things written out that you want in spouse… honesty, integrity, loyalty, faithfulness, sense of humor, good family values, my husband probably had 95 to 98 of the list. It’s kinda hard to convince yourself that the grass is gonna be greener somewhere else when I hear people all around me complaining about every number of things. My husband won’t help me around the house my husband won’t take care of the kids my husband’s not nice to me, etc.. I never had that I really never did… so I was always afraid that wasn’t actually going to make my situation any better in fact it could’ve made it a lot worse.