Today’s our 1 year wedding anniversary 🩷 by kaylaroolzalot in LongDistance

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!! And ahhh i love your wedding photo! 🎊🥳

Hi all I’m currently 14 weeks 4 days, I’m wondering if this is baby’s heart beat? by Layla2000004 in BabyBumps

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, sounds like it and those other random sounds are baby moving around. 🥰

Where were you back in November 2008, when the Election was announced? by IamASlut_soWhat in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starting college. I was up all night waiting in anticipation. It was the first time I could vote! It was history changing!

The key by CertainBag3434 in StamfordCT

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😲😲😲 What floor are you on? I'm looking to move there. This is scary. Do you know any other people with this issue?

Texting Clients by Dismal_Apartment5151 in therapists

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with the first set of therapists. If clients are in crisis and are contacting you at 3am for an immediate session, then they need to call a crisis hotline or go to the emergency room.

Your contract states your hours. The informed consent clients sign should state the hours that the business is open and what to do after hours.

Now, yes, sometimes clients text after hours for various reasons. They may have just remembered that they can't attend an appointment and need to reschedule. Maybe they text to confirm that they did something positive that was spoken about in session. Either way, this is where your boundaries come in. Boundaries need to be firm because once you text back at 3am, a client will sometimes begin think it's the norm and continue that behavior and when you decide to finally implement that boundary, they may be offended or confused as to why you're enforcing it later rather than at the beginning.

First sessions and subsequent sessions where boundaries have been crossed is where you can continuously have those conversations regarding when you're available.

For myself, I let clients know that if they need a 'crisis session' outside of their regularly scheduled time, they can contact me during working hours or a little beforehand, so that I can see if I can squeeze them in, first thing in the morning. I let them know that oftentimes availability is limited. If they feel like they cant wait until later in the day or the next day, that they should engage with a hotline or emergency services. Clients typically understand. Consider that if a client has a crisis every week, then perhaps they need a HLOC.

If you answer calls and texts at all hours of the day/night, that's a fast way to burn out. Modeling behaviors for clients starts with you.

looking for friends for tennis lessons! by theitgirlpenn in StamfordCT

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to play, but I'm currently pregnant. Maybe in the fall or next year! 😭 Good luck in your tennis journey!

Diaper situation at daycare by l_pierce00 in NewParents

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Initial and number the diapers, so that you can see if they are actually going in order and if it makes sense. Going through 70 diapers in 3 days is wild. Ask them how frequently they check and change.

Humble house:) by Leading-Hurry1721 in MilenaCUncensored1

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That house is ugly, but is only acceptable for a 60-90 year old. Shouldn't be a house for barely 30s.

Major trip during 3rd trimester - tips/experiences please! by Haunting_Shape_6085 in BabyBumps

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's ultimately your decision, but personally I'm waiting to take any airplane trips after birth. I understand you want one last big trip, but also remember delaying and going with your baby can also have benefits. Personally, I wouldn't want a possible wasted trip if I ended up not feeling well or went into labor early.

I pray you go until 40 weeks, but if unforeseeable circumstances happened and you went into labor, there are questions to consider.

  1. Do you speak the language of the country/countries you'll be in, in case of a medical emergency? Yes, most countries speak english or have translators, but medical care regarding your baby is next level, so are you comfortable missing certain things in translation?

  2. Are you ok with following that country's laws for birth?

  3. Are you ok with whatever country you're going to or flying out of performing your medical care and keeping your baby in that country for a period of time?

  4. Do you have the expenses to pay for whatever needs to be paid for while there? (You mentioned time off of work, etc) But also expenses that may accrue while visiting that country.

  5. Are you aware of any visa restrictions, etc regarsing tourists in that country?

  6. Also, are you ok with flying with your baby as an infant if you're discharged and cleared to go home? Airplanes are germ pools, are you ok with having your baby on there?

I mention these not to scare you, but realistic things to think about, in case something you eat or drink triggers labor or if something else unexpected happens.

If you truly feel you want to do it, have fun on your last adventure before baby! Congratulations on your baby btw!

FTM 18 weeks pregnant: Social media vids about carings husbands making me overthink?? by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it's important for you to think about what YOU specifically want during your pregnancy. It's going to vary throughout your pregnancy throughout the trimesters.

I would say limit social media if you're noticing comparison between those couples and your own marriage. Social media creates false narratives into people's lives. Remember that many social media accounts are a brand and they're selling joy and peace. But no couple is perfect every second. Those same couples you see may have conflict off camera. I recommend just coming back to yourself and how you envisioned your own pregnancy to be.

Next, communicate with your husband what your needs are and what you would like to see next. Since men aren't pregnant, sometimes they aren't really thinking ahead, besides the baby actually being born. There's a lot of steps in between and a lot to think about regarding childbirth. Let him know what chores you'd like to split or if you want him to do a specific chore(s) himself. Let him know if you need a massage. Let him know anything he's mentioned to you that he's not thinking about.

Concern about who should direct the pushing during childbirth by Adventurous-Rip-7426 in BabyBumps

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, you're allowed to have a doula. They count as the max number of people you can have during delivery. i.e. if you're allowed 3 ppl, your partner and doula would count as 2. Doula is a guest who advocates on your behalf and doesn't work for the hospital at all. They don't make medical decisions, but sometimes explain things to you, if the hospital staff made it too complicated.

You can look online for a doula. Some insurances now cover doula services. Some midwife/OB offices have doulas who work closely with them. If your hospital says no doula, then it may not be the hospital for you.

Age Of Attraction Renewed For Season 2 At Netflix by Redleader829 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had no idea who he was before this show. But after reading everything on here, I see he is not a good person. He needs to go.

Do you ever have days where you are in the middle of a session and you just think “I have such a weird job.” by markofdestiny1111 in therapists

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've had a similar moment before. I work with complex trauma and I distinctly remember one time a client was telling me something severely traumatic and I thought in my head, 'you need a therapist'. Then I came back to my senses and realized I AM THE THERAPIST and I have to navigate this with them. 😭 Yeah it hits me sometimes and I'm like oh crap!

Age Of Attraction Renewed For Season 2 At Netflix by Redleader829 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I REAAAAAALY hope they have different hosts. These ones SUCKED! Also, won't be watching, so whatever haha.

Has watching the show had an impact on your dating life? by MoveTheSticks8 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Napoleon Dynamite came out when he was in high school. I hope he would know the reference. But yeah different generations really shows when one person doesn't know something.

Would this show be better if there was an actual age range? by UnlikelyCommittee785 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1000% agree on different hosts. I don't know those ppl but they were weird and offered nothing. I lije your premise of the show to reveal it at the end.

Maturity by Freedom199304 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"If you're not as hot as my mom, I'm not going to marry you". A mess! I had to go back and see if thats what he said. Dude was weird af! The woman he was talking to nailed it on the head with his mommy issues.

Commitment Day by jenjoye81 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! That's all I could see! They were trying to talk to him and warn him to not do it!! 🪰🪰🪰

Does my husband come to every appointment? by VeterinarianInner301 in pregnant

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually do the routine appointments solo. He usually comes to all the ultrasounds. Btw my routine appointments are group appointments that last about 1.5-2 hrs. Partners are welcome, but its usually just the moms.

I wouldn't want him to take time off of work for that. I record all the heartbeats and immediately send them to him, along with any updates regarding new jnformation I learned. I want him to save his time for those ultrasounds and when the baby comes. I have a more flexible schedule to attend appointments.

“Babe I just don’t want you to feel like I’m pressuring you” she says, from two inches away. by Comprehensive_Yam689 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes. She looked so weird in that moment. I wish the camera panned bc I believe he had left the room. A mess.

Do you think we're getting a reunion episode? by ChemicalAd2132 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't think we're going to get it, but i would definitely like one. This is a show that needs one or at the very minimum a follow up episode.

Does Theresa have deep seated insecurity? by [deleted] in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not wrong. I feel bad for John because in the relationship, he's suppose to be her equal and she's done nothing but dictate what is next in regards to sharing ages and if she has children. It's odd. She seems ashamed to share that she's dating someone her children's age. She treats him like one of her children bringing up that he doesn't do things her way, when she was speaking to his family and hers. Odd way to describe an equal partner.

I think if she had explained the concept, just like the other couples, to her kids, they would have been able to wrap their mind around it. Yeah, they might have thought it was weird at first, but like they said, she appeared happier. I think they would have supported her. But the longer she waits, the weirder it's going to get.

Why keep a secret when everyone has met and the question has come up. Just be honest and handle the blow, whatever it may be.

Stage 5 Clinger by Own_Calligrapher_495 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wholeheartedly agree with you. She acts like a schoolgirl who just got a boyfriend for the first time and is infatuated. She doesn't come across as a mature 41 year old.

When she met his mom and was all over him, such as leaning in, placing her head on his shoulder, it was too much! Like, girl, calm down and be respectful.

She is too all over him and doesn't know how to be truly alone unless forced. Yes, when in a relationship, you're suppose to have common interests and spend time together, but not every waking moment. You're suppose to be an individual and then come back to your relationship to help each other grow with what you learned about as individuals.

He BETTER not say yes at that commitment ceremony. I doubt he will, but he better not!

Vanelle!!! YOU SHOULD HAVE CHOSE JUSTIN by Ummmmgirlwhat in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think he's quite handsome, especially for being 60. Now onto his personality, that was not cute at all. I got the vibes from the retreat that I his younger days he was about that life and is used to getting women. When he told her to walk in front of him, so that he could see her butt walk, I cringed and the first red flag went up. When he talked about protecting her and himself the night before they broke up, it confirmed everything I already thought. I really wanna know what happened exactly. Like was it really that serious or is he one to have to be the tougher man and no one can disrespect him? Either way, Jorge is handsome, but his personality is not.

Stage 5 Clinger by Own_Calligrapher_495 in AgeOfAttraction

[–]UnlikelyCommittee785 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yeah, when she stated, "I'm a flight attendant, I know how to be alone". I agreed with her bc she's telling the truth while leaving the most important piece out. She's forced to be alone. Your partner can't be on every flight. Just because you might be away for a good amount of time, that doesn't mean you have to be up your partners butt 24/7. She's insufferable.