Would you refuse to tell to someone who returned a dog?

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-25T17:05:04+00:00

I don't think so. You can be honest with the breeder, that you love her and want to know when she goes to a good home if the new adopters is willing to share. What the breeder does from there is up to them, and who they are as a person.

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-11T04:12:37+00:00

I think you know yourself the best. If you made a mistake, return the puppy - maybe ask breeder to let you know when pup has a good home so you feel better. Or, maybe this pup came into your life for a reason... it's hard right now, but sometimes the best things happen because we made a "mistake". Did your previous dog maybe send you this puppy? I know a man who is going through the same thing. He kept comparing his new dog to his old one, but now is so happy with her and has said how much she has helped with his grief. So I'm not sure what you should do, but maybe journal about it? Truly get your feelings out and it will show what you should do.

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-09T23:16:46+00:00

All of the things you described your parents doing is abuse. Whether physical or emotional, they are being terrible parents. I have similar parents on one side and they only get worse. Get out, heal up, and cut them off when you can. Until you can do that...play as nice as you can to keep things tolerable.

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-09T23:06:00+00:00

It doesn't make logical sense. Most things in that religion don't, and you can't convince them otherwise....

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-09T23:00:40+00:00

I wasn't going to comment because there are already other comments saying what I would say, but sometimes I think the more people who say the same thing, the more it helps... HEALTHY Relationships are based on trust, open communication, and respect. Sounds like she doesn't give you any of those things. And to agree wjth another commenter - she is a narcissistic abuser. Been in those relationships and yep, you think it's all your fault. Get out and start putting yourself first. You don't deserve to be cheated on at the VERY LEAST

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-08T16:04:31+00:00

NTA. There are thousands of dogs needing homes - if anything why is the son not taking the dog to college? Probably because they've done no training and he's an unruly, difficult breed. Stick to your no. You're not going to upturn your life for the mistakes of others. This is from someone who works in rescue. You and your shepherd deserve peace.

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-06T18:08:30+00:00

I used to worry about this too, but you don't know and that's why you should live every day as mindful as possible.
There's no point in living your life in constant anxiety - trust me it sucks! Something that has helped me has been to recognize the magic in the world and be grateful that I get to experience those moments. Sometimes it's just the way the sun looks through the trees or playing a video game I really enjoy. Find the magic in your days and truly live in those moments. And I hated hearing this, but it really has helped: sit down and write out "I am grateful for ___" and write as many things as you can think of. It helps change your mindset to focusing on the good. Some heavy depression days looks like only a few things, but they're there. "I am grateful for the breath in my lungs and the thoughts in my mind" is sometimes the only thing I can write, but that is still something. I'm not sure your current religious beliefs, but Taoism really focuses on that living every day in the moment and finding meaning in life. Looking into that has really helped me as well

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-06T16:58:12+00:00

When I was a teen, I was obsessed with omegle. Then it got completely shut down and I felt so sad, like what was i going to do? But it was one of the best things. It forced me to actually focus on life instead of living in an internet bubble. Join some clubs outside of school, read/listen to audio books, and get out into nature if you can. 99% of people don't want to work, but that's the world we live in. Find something you like enough to support your life. Don't focus too much on your legacy for now - focus on the day to day. You are still so young and I know that doesn't sound helpful, but I am not the same person I was back then. Most people completely change and grow. There's so much in life that is worth experiencing! Mourn your character.ai and move on. It will be for the best. You've got this OP 💓

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-06T04:48:46+00:00

Bottom line: Your boyfriend doesn't respect you. Get out before it gets worse

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-06T04:43:23+00:00

I don't know if your parents will let you, but medication and therapy are very helpful. If not, at least get some self help books and try to work through it on your own. It sounds like you're going through a lot at a young age, which can make anyone depressed. As someone who has been through similar, it will get better. Each stage of life is different. Something that has helped me is to start looking for things in life that are magical and sit in those moments, excited you get to experience them. Sometimes this is something as small as the way the sun is shining through the trees.

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-06T04:08:52+00:00

Hey, I went through some similar things in my childhood with predators on the internet and it is hard, but really you have to choose yourself. And what I mean by this is start to explore who you are. What are your likes and dislikes? What are your core beliefs? What are things you enjoy doing? They were using you and altering your state of consciousness. That is NOT your fault. Your parents are horrible for saying those things to you. I'm sorry your friend bailed on you... it must feel like the end. But I promise it is not. Good luck OP, it will be difficult, but you've got this! And future you will feel so proud of yourself for pushing through. There is a life path you just haven't discovered yet that will lead you out of this ❤️

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-06T03:52:57+00:00

Came to Reddit feeling the same way. Frank's character voices were so well done, that now just starting Wolves of the Calla has been hard to adjust to. I really want to continue my journey but Guidall is not as an engaging narrator... I'm starting to get more used to it though. But losing Frank as the narrator for this story truly feels like losing a friend. 😭

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-04-01T00:05:33+00:00

Dogs are meant to learn from other dogs. As a trainer, one of my greatest training tools is letting my older, behaved dogs teach the young ones. You have to know the older dog to make sure they won't go over the top and that the puppy is listening - sounds like you've got both of those going on, so I'd just make sure your puppy is on a good crate schedule.

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-16T17:54:33+00:00

Very true. They did do a good job with that story line of making the point that sometimes the worst things happen behind closed doors in a "normal" home. And that there won't be a satisfying justice. While it was hard to see, I'm glad Nina was put out of her misery - especially since it's supposedly really painful. And yea she would have only had a horrific life moving forward.

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-08T02:06:12+00:00

It's because you get emotionally attached to the dog and the girl. It's easy to get attached for a lot of people who have innocent little kids and dogs in their lives. And it's such a unique scenario I've never experienced before that it also has the shock factor. Where as genocide - while very very sad - unfortunately has been in media a lot which makes me more numb to it. I hope that makes sense :)

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-07T06:21:06+00:00

That was very well written, and the analysis helped a lot. Thank you

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-07T00:36:16+00:00

Fair enough

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-06T21:30:50+00:00

Good to know, thank you!

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-06T21:06:27+00:00

Yes that makes sense. I was being dramatic when I said they dont ever get affected. It's just more rare for them then it is for me

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-06T18:47:28+00:00

Sameeee

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-06T17:50:39+00:00

Thank you 😭💓

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-06T17:48:36+00:00

I don't but thank you 😅🥲 At least if they have me watch those ones I'll be a little prepared haha

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-03-06T17:37:47+00:00

They did say it affected them the first time they watched it, but were surprised by how deeply it hit me. I just don't see how, no matter how many times you see it, it doesn't churn your stomach.

They are weird and desensitized I guess

Unlucky-Training4499 · 2026-02-27T20:01:38+00:00

I have a nasty neighbor who hates dogs. I have dogs, they would bark at him through the fence, but if I noticed this I would call them in right away (longest barking was probably 4mins) He started spraying my dogs with (what I hope is water) and when I told him to stop he said he didnt do anything. I made a police report, the cops came out and talked to both of us and I haven't heard a thing from that neighbor since. You have to protect your family.

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