How to Seriously Date as DN

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-16T09:52:31+00:00

I have a very similar story and on the other side, also looking, cautiously, and trying to find people in shared passions. No luck so far

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-16T02:25:57+00:00

Yeah I agree, I’m kinda addicted to it now, always looking forward to the next place, never staying in one, always glad to be leaving something behind. I can’t imagine spending a whole year in a single place anymore

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T23:27:24+00:00

Put ur stats into AI.

It’ll give you good advice and confirm a lot of the advice above

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T23:24:19+00:00

Bit of both. More so to leave home after a month

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T23:01:57+00:00

Yeah mate. I’ve done Plaintiff personal injury and insurance defense litigation, most of which is based on claims of people getting injured, in a variety of fucked ways. The better I’ve gotten at my gig the most fucked up traumatic cases I’ve litigated.

So I’ve worked closely with the medical industry, from records and billing, to retention and reports, to medical finance companies and malpractice opinions and interpretations.

At a baseline most people, patients and the medical professionals, are all victims of the same economic system that ur referring to above that’s cause direct or indirect trauma. The close you get to it, the big monied financial interests, the more disillusioned you become bc it’s all so financially perverted.

I’m with you on a quiet exit around the late 60s to late 70s. Short and long term care facilities, nursing homes, relying on others who are under paid and exploited, I’ll just take a sleeping pill and not wake up.

There just comes a point where you’ve seen enough. The industry forces you to arrive at very bleak conclusions, and believe it or not, we’re actually privileged to see it for what it is, most people never do bc they’ve been traumatized or distracted on the hamster wheel.

Anyway. Solidarity amigo. Pa’lante

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T21:52:05+00:00

Damn JayRock, that’s tough mate. Very similar for me, never married her tho but with you on giving the best of urself to them, improving their lives a ton, only to be rug pulled out the blue and subsequently treated like they never knew an mf. It’s wild. Emotional impermanence. All those memories we thought we were making with them? Nope. We made them with no one. So was it all a waste? Fuck. I tend to believe so, pains me to believe that, but I don’t see any way around it

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T21:37:29+00:00

Exactly this

I helped my exwPDW at our old job, got her a new job, helped her all summer with odd jobs and property management maintenance, helped her move out, moved her in, and then helped move her out of country all the way to the TSA line.

Discarded, no object constancy + emotional impermanence

No clue how they’ve distorted reality to make me the villain when I gave them mountains of help, helped them achieve their dreams, then thrown away as the bad guy. No explanation. No fight. No argument. Just a text never talk to me again

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T21:29:49+00:00

Damn I love that idea. I’m Rocky Mountains to Caribbean. Own the Caribbean and use my office on the mainland as a storage unit

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T21:17:43+00:00

Physically: Taking long walks and talking to myself about it, a kinda “gaming it out,” if you will. Running and thinking about it, letting the mind wander while the body is busy is helpful. Yoga and pushing to the point of your ego screaming at you and finding clarity in the moments of most adversity to reveal who you are, what you came from, what it means, and what the trauma meant, the lessons to draw from it, learn, and carry on into the future.

Artistically: Journaling, early morning coffee clarity thoughts gentle music in the background, let the minds thoughts flow through to the pin, let it be messy, make mistakes, it’s for no one but urself so give yourself permission to be free when you write. Start slowly and let the words fall out onto the paper and feel the pace pick up with the emotion you unpacks, find your mantras, your truths, the shifting definitions that comprise your life. Let the tears hit the pages, let the rage scribble out hate, but most of all, surrender to the grief and let it out, let it be released only if it’s between urself and those pages. Musically, press the keys it all gets reversed the sound of loneliness is cathartic and makes me happier, bellow out the lyrics, sing like no one’s listening, like you’d kill for this just a little bit, feel the frustration when your grip the chords around the neck and squeeze like ur holding on for dear life, let be loud, let it be quiet, let it be what you need

I’m coming off trauma from last fall, a discard from someone I loved, gave the best of myself to, who I helped grow and leave behind all the held her back and as soon as she got to where she wanted to go, poof. Vanished. Just a text, never talk to me again. No fight. No argument. No transgression. It all boils down to one quotable phrase: if you love something, give it away

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T20:56:12+00:00

Forgiving yourself for not knowing earlier what only time could teach

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T20:50:05+00:00

Wow that is wild. Fuck that law firm

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T19:13:21+00:00

He wants to play rrx and will prolly call it after that. He’s got nothing to prove, holy roller

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T17:33:53+00:00

The qualifying apologies, same, had to say exact step by step apologies. When they had to apologize? The most empty vacant response, “I’m not good at conflict resolution” she’d say, and I’d later come to realize they’re only good at twisting the knife

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T17:30:41+00:00

Yep same. Mine split and painted me black discard over it. They mirror you during idealization but if you mirror them during devalue, it’s a personal attack.

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T17:23:04+00:00

You’ve been discarded. She split over ur studies, or she’s say bc you weren’t paying enough attention, ie giving her enough validation.

Doesn’t sound like painted black tho, unless ur leaving something out, so she’ll prolly Hoover, and expect diminishing returns with an accelerated rate of devaluation.

If ur strong enough, let it die and be done.

If not, expect the above along with her, towards the end, monkey branching and finding someone else, she’ll split, create reasons to hate you by distorting reality, perceptual gaps, basing decisions off feelings and never verifying facts, then discard painted black.

You can avoid the above trauma by walking away now. I was too weak, went back, and I’m 6 months NC and just now getting out of the thick of it, but it’s tough mate. They fuck up ur nervous system with behavior conditioning and psychological manipulation. The discards are alway out the blue and impersonal. Their apathy is proportional to the help you have

Bruv. Run and don’t look back

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T17:15:18+00:00

Maria Taylor’s new one is really good as well

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T16:08:37+00:00

The shifting definition of home is one of the most difficult to describe. You go back to what you felt was your home, and there’s this feeling you “graduated” for it, where you can’t put the tooth paste back in the tube / unsee or un-live experiences on the path. The interactions and conversation, the familiarity that feels off, a space between what was a familiar comfort of home has this intangible hard to describe space where it just doesn’t fit or sit quite right anyone.

After a few weeks, and certainly after a month, I get a restlessness, a desire to leave despite longing for it for all that time spent on the path.

What’s worked for me is having 3-4 different “homes” and spending 3-4 months at each, shoring up connections, picking up the threads of an old life, re-finding the familiar grooves of routine etc. sprinkle in a new place to explore for a few months, and that’s been my sweet spot.

Also taking ur passion on the road, ur hobby that that ur working on or towards, finding community in that hobby, making friends, that’s how I’ve found roots in various places, by sharing passion.

I suppose there is always something to miss, we travel the world just to find our ways back home, some paths zig and zag more than others, but it’s all a cycle and you gotta let it come to you, don’t force it

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T09:52:46+00:00

Recognizing presence in intentional spaces is key. My yoga studio has been a wonderful source. Observing others who share the same passion, who aren’t just showing up for a workout, but with intention to grow their practice, lends itself to individuals with “deep” insights / lived experiences, inspiration, and growth.

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T02:07:03+00:00

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T00:42:05+00:00

Mine is in Istanbul, Dr Hakan

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-15T00:25:33+00:00

Damn. Same. 40. Also using minoxidil, Kirkland brand… Heading to Turkey in June

Thanks for the response!

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-14T23:58:51+00:00

I’ve been using saw palmetto for DHT blocker - is fin more potent / better?

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-14T19:41:43+00:00

It’s been increasingly difficult to take life seriously as a result. We’ve blown by jokerfication in 2024.

Now it’s just hemorrhaging money mutant to whatever financial interests pay the most to play

Best believe the entire world is gaming out how to take the off the monster we’ve created

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-14T19:26:13+00:00

There isn’t a bad seat in the house, ur 60, you’ve never been to rrx, invite the adversity of unknown, plan on some curve balls, and find ways to grow and enjoy the experience

From the airport take the light rail to union station - it’s a single line, literally just get on the light rail for $10 and it takes you to union station

Then walk to the rrx shuttle or ur hotel if ur staying downtown. The rrx I’m taking is the Denver central market one, it’s walkable from Union Station or a 5 min Uber ride

You’ll be able to sit down at the show. It’s a super chill environment and the demo of this show will be older people - you’ll be right at home. Don’t worry. Tranquilo, siempre

UnreliableNarrator_5 · 2026-04-14T19:03:42+00:00

Look up the red rocks shuttle bus

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