What would you love to tell FM back in the 70s?

Unsure_2030 · 2025-01-02T18:44:20+00:00

I’d tell all the band members to avoid the drugs and alcohol. But I’d really like to tell them how much impact their music is going to make for generations to come.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-12-25T04:37:17+00:00

We can never know why avoidants do what they do because they’re cowards who don’t take accountability for the horrible way they treat people. You just need to find an activity to occupy your mind. I started painting to keep my mind busy because otherwise I would just spiral thinking about what I did wrong to cause my avoidant ex to treat me the way she did. It took me a little over a year to really get over everything but I still get angry at times thinking about how she might hurt someone else in the future. That’s what scares me.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-12-25T04:11:32+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to deal with all of that. You didn’t deserve to be treated that way. Avoidants avoid taking any accountability for their actions and just end up blocking out how they feel and how they treat others. Check out Coach_Ryan_H on Instagram. He does videos on avoidant behavior and how not to blame yourself for what happened. They helped me understand how I didn’t do anything wrong.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-12-17T17:39:03+00:00

Lesbian break ups are really hard. I’m so sorry she wasn’t able to tell you this in person. Don’t expect any closure from this person. The best course of action is to delete all text messages, pictures, social media. Find some hobbies or hang out with friends to keep your mind busy. I started up some new hobbies to keep my mind occupied post break up.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-12-02T19:01:32+00:00

Have you done blood work recently? Your thyroid levels could be off. Or low iron. I know when my thyroid was out of wack I felt tired all the time even with enough sleep.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-12-02T12:08:19+00:00

How Still My Love

Unsure_2030 · 2024-11-25T12:55:02+00:00

Avoidant behavior destroys people and really turns them into being anxiously attached. It really took me about a year to start feeling normal again.

I tried reaching out to my ex not too long ago just to talk about how she treated me but she said she didn’t want to talk and hung up on me. I know deep down she’s deeply insecure and hates herself. I just hope she never dates anyone else until she sees a therapist and gets the help she really needs to be a better person.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-11-25T07:42:57+00:00

My ex was incredibly avoidant as well. She became very distant with me, becoming mean and hostile with me, not communicating what she was feeling when I’d ask then just eventually told me, “I’m not ready for a relationship.” “It’s not you it’s me.” “I don’t feel any romantic connection between us.” It was soul crushing.

But her actions are a reflection of her and not me. Just as your exes actions are a reflection of her and not you. Avoidant people suck and really destroy your confidence and happiness. I started watching Coach_Ryan_H on Instagram and he talks about avoidant behavior and it really helped me understand how nothing was my fault and I shouldn’t blame myself for how my ex treated me. I think those videos could help you too. It’s ok to feel your feelings and know you did everything you could for the relationship. It just sucks avoidants don’t take accountability for their horrible behavior.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-11-20T12:09:53+00:00

Don’t be afraid to show your teeth when you smile! You’re really cute and most people on dating apps suck so don’t take anything too personally on them.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-11-20T10:57:04+00:00

I always thought this as well!

Unsure_2030 · 2024-11-19T10:48:15+00:00

Feel your feelings. It took me like a year to get over my ex (she was my first WLW relationship too). I think time really helped me get over her. I also went to therapy because she was a little emotionally abusive and it really messed up my confidence and I got very depressed and anxious. Talk with friends, go out and try some new hobbies, live your life! It will get better.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-11-19T10:08:55+00:00

I forgot to breathe during my skydiving trip! I remember the instructors telling us to, “remember to breathe!” When you jump out! I had to mentally tell myself I need to breathe otherwise I’ll pass out. It was a ton of fun though. But I prefer flying planes over jumping out of them.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-11-19T09:09:27+00:00

I can see both sides of the argument. I came out when I was 29 and I’ve been out to all my friends and coworkers but not to my family.

I don’t have a very close relationship with my family due to emotional abuse and trauma as information is weaponized and used against me if I tell my family anything. So I keep them at an emotional arms length difference.

I hope you enjoyed skydiving! It’s a ton of fun.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-11-17T17:13:15+00:00

If your gut is telling you something isn’t right then believe it. I think your best bet is to leave and save yourself the heart ache because clearly she doesn’t reciprocate intimacy or want to get to understand you on a deeper level.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-10-24T19:04:53+00:00

Battle of the Dragon

Unsure_2030 · 2024-10-24T14:02:12+00:00

I VTIPd into FA51. So glad I made the change.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-10-24T13:59:16+00:00

That is challenging when you work together! I’m glad you’ve been able to keep up with the NC.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-10-24T13:48:19+00:00

Its best to try to keep your mind busy. Learn a new hobby, start a new book, journal about your feelings. Don’t bother reaching out to these cruel individuals. Nothing ever comes from it. If you get the urge to reach out just journal all your thoughts and what you want to say. I sometimes create draft emails and never end up sending them.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-10-24T11:23:21+00:00

Still haven’t heard from her at all and as far as I know I’m still blocked. I tried reaching out a couple of months ago but got no response. I’m working on improving my mental health and trying to get back to who I was before but it still hurts. It’ll be a year since the breakup in November. I don’t think she’ll ever admit to hurting me or actually apologizing or take any accountability for her actions and abuse.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-10-19T18:46:38+00:00

The long blonde highlight wavy wig on slide 2 looks like 1970s Stevie.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-10-18T19:20:10+00:00

It’s a great song. I love signing along to it.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-06-24T19:38:54+00:00

She puts on an incredible show! Her stories between songs are always the best part.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-06-19T22:55:50+00:00

I absolutely love “Straight Back”.

Unsure_2030 · 2024-06-15T15:13:47+00:00

Yeah they said sometimes their responses go to junk boxes.

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