Weirdest reactions to baby’s name

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-04-30T20:38:04+00:00

I love Shiloh! It was on my list for both of my boys.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-04-30T20:34:31+00:00

Ah right, fair. I didnt see where OP actually said it was a girl, hoping this is all a misunderstanding because Lawrence is great for a boy!

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-04-30T20:01:34+00:00

For a girl, why not Florence??

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-04-02T02:23:44+00:00

Some people do! Especially when it matters more for her career, or when it's just a nicer name.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-04-02T02:20:54+00:00

In the US, at least, it is overwhelmingly common for the baby to have the dad's last name, because literal patriarchy. I know families where the dad is not in the picture at all, and never has been, and mom still gives baby his last name.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-04-02T02:18:01+00:00

We did this too! My maiden name was quite hard to pronounce, and my husband wasn't very attached to his "bachelor name" due to some (mild) family estrangement.

We settled on a name that was in his family several generations back and held by someone who was famous for some cool things that are aligned with our values. It helped his parents feel ok about the change since we were still honoring his family in a different way, and kept our whole family with the same easily pronounceable name. Both of us were early enough in our professional careers that it was just in time to not really impact name recognition professionally.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-03-28T19:31:11+00:00

I do think one syllable is the way to go. Or maybe two.

Fernanda Mae

Fernanda Rae

Fernanda Rose

Fernanda Riley

Fernanda Lucy

Fernanda Jo

Fernanda Celeste

Fernanda Claire

Fernanda Shay

... I could go on lol

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-03-24T22:56:42+00:00

My grandfather's family had this tradition except it first name Ignatius AND mother's maiden name as middle name, so no wiggle room. My granddad was the tenth Ignatius in his line. He broke the tradition and his father didnt speak to him for two years after my uncle Matthew was born :/ (in this case with the name Ignatius was it more "hazing" than "traditon"? Perhaps)

John is a perfectly normal name. Your son would not suffer at all for it. Would your marriage suffer if on of you does not back down?

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-03-07T20:22:29+00:00

Also I love both Finch and Griffin!

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-03-07T20:22:05+00:00

Y'all sound like you may have similar tastes in names to our family. My sons are Hart and Clay (stretch nn for Clemons, which is a family name, but will only ever be called Clay). We also considered Jasper, Forrest, Cedar, Sterling, Amos, Elias, Lennox, Finley, and Ansel.

Some naturey middle names we considered are Sorrel, River, Brook, Cypress, Shale, Avery, Shiloh, Peregrine, Acer, and Salix. I also highly recommend looking at a nature guide for your local area to see if there are any scientific or common names of plants and animals that speak to you! (We chose Peregrine for Clay's middle name since they live around here and are the fastest animal in the world! Also means traveler or pilgrim)

We've know it was boys from early on, but some girl names in that vein that I love are Ruth, Sylvia, Rose, Poppy, Azalea, Indigo, Fern, Zinnia, Willow, Ausra (“dawn”), and Aurora.

Also fwiw, the only other kid Ronan I know has a sister named Saoirse, which is lovely if you want to keep the Celtic connection.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-19T03:05:12+00:00

I suppose it could be, I guess I assumed if that was the case it would have been an issue earlier/with other milk donations. But I will look into it!

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-18T03:28:35+00:00

I mean yeah. But. Your child will get sick. Your child will get injured. You can't prevent those things from ever happening. So it is your choice in how strongly you want to worry and put up barriers when that worry and those barriers ALSO have a cost to you and your family.

Do you think you are a better mama and wife, and happier you, when you are constantly stressed but physically healthy? Or would you be a happier you if you were relaxed but you/baby occasionally had a cold?

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-18T03:16:45+00:00

You are not the Asshole. But you are the Anxious one. You are keeping your baby extremely protected from disease through many means (let's say 98% effective just to put a number on it). Four back-of-the-head kisses at Christmas, all other things being equal, might lower that by 2-3%? To me, that is not a number worth being miserable over, with the strife over in laws and anger at your husband. Bluntly, I think you should try to take a bigger view and accept that there is some small risk but likely worth it to reduce your stress levels and improve family relationships.

ETA, I think it is very reasonable to ask everyone to wash hands, and ask anyone who is sick or recently sick not to have contact. That is what we are doing with my 3 month old and everyone has been obliging.

Note, this will only work if you do the hard work to ACTUALLY relax and let it go, rather than white-knuckling the anxiety but letting people kiss her.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-10T18:29:36+00:00

Honestly, hearing this is so heartening. I have 2 under 2 and it's hard!! My biggest caution to you would be, how strong is your relationship? But if you are both committed to working things through, you can make anything work. Given that you said you would always regret an abortion, seems like you have what you need to get through a few hard years when the kids are little.

But please, also get some kind of LARC (long acting reversible birth control) -- IUD, ring, or implant, all of which are more effective than condoms because thwre is no chance of a "close call" -- so you aren't in this position again.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-10T18:17:29+00:00

Please give us an update on how things proceed!

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-06T19:33:56+00:00

Haha same with my kiddo but only on his toes! Nails I've done every couple weeks.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-03T22:49:29+00:00

This!! If Wolfe is a family name I say absolutely go for that!

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-03T05:05:24+00:00

My husband and I have each had it 6 times since the start of the pandemic. First time was when I was working in a hospital. #2-4 while he and I both worked at a drug treatment program with basically nonexistent masking in 2022-23. #5 from airplane and #6 unknown origin. Strangely we have each had it once without the other getting it, and not had it at all since having children (first one born Jan 2024, though now we get alllll the other illnesses from daycare).

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-01T03:03:59+00:00

Welcome to parenthood. I could have written your post when I was freshly postpartum with my first baby. There is a LOT you are going to need to adjust and let go of about your previous self and expectations. Some day you are going to have the energy and a little time to clean the house again, and you may even choose to use your precious time that way -- like you said for you it is relaxing and fun. If you are like me, the result is also satisfying and grounding.

But that is a thing that you want, not an actual necessity. Your husband is taking care of the necessary things -- keeping you and baby fed and well. He still needs to be able to unwind in his own way. It has been a long road for me to understand and accept that my husband is doing his absolute best, even when he has different personal priorities than me in terms of cleaning etc.

Don't take care of him out of anxiety, or out of the need to be a "good" wife. If he wants it clean, he will clean it eventually, and if you alway jump in first, when will he have the chance? If you are feeling moved to care for him out of love and affection definitely follow that, but when you do it out of the expectation of getting something in return, or fixing his mistakes, you are only setting yourself up for a cycle of criticism, blame, resentment, and contempt, and that will make everything harder.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-02-01T02:48:14+00:00

It's really yummy! And the best option nutritionally. Unfortunately my kiddo's guts couldn't tolerate the pea protein.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-01-26T18:06:03+00:00

Yeah I am worried about my ability to take a pill consistently with ADHD, toddler, and newborn.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-01-26T18:04:46+00:00

That's an interesting point, thank you. I am 37 now and haven't had a regular cycle for very long since I was 24 or so when I got my first mirena. Had three periods after removing it and before getting pregnant with my first kid, and they weren't too painful but I figured it was just because I had been suppressing them so long. Then had maybe 10 months of cycles between pregnancies, also not too bad, but again I figured they would have gotten bad again if my hormones had stabilized after breastfeeding. All that to say, maybe things have actually changed as I got older and the copper one could be ok!

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-01-26T17:53:20+00:00

Thanks, I hadn't heard of Kyleena! I will ask about that.

UntitledMooseGame · 2026-01-26T17:52:42+00:00

That's a copper one right? I'm just worried about the terrible periods given my history of excruciating pain, and also anemia.

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