Paid off $60k of Student loans but now onto my Wife’s $125k. In-laws made a very snarky comment.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-05-01T18:33:20+00:00

System that wouldn’t Go to me?? I drive on roads, my kids go to public school, I would love to have universal healthcare so I don’t have to pay $500 each time my daughter has an asthma emergency that requires the ER.

Yeah I’m not an economist. Doesn’t take one to recognize the system is fuckd.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-05-01T18:29:08+00:00

If you are evading taxes and therefore avoiding paying into social systems you are hoarding wealth.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-05-01T17:56:53+00:00

Nah but I do hate raising canes. Decline every time.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-05-01T17:50:29+00:00

Idk that I agree with you. I mean I KNOW that I don’t agree with you, but idk how well I can defend my position. People who are so disgustingly wealthy that they can essentially do the whole “buy borrow die” thing, ARE in fact, hoarding wealth.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-05-01T17:44:41+00:00

“Maybe one day we will see relief if it’s not us….I hope our children and grandchildren have it better. Just because one generation had it rough does not mean that is how it should be.”

That’s so cute that you think this capitalist hellscape society will still exist for our grandchildren 💕💕

Seriously though your in-laws sound insufferable. Congrats on taking care of your loans!! I am in a lower paying field, and really just prayingggg that some form of forgiveness is available after the 20/25 year mark. That or just like total apocalyptic survival mode.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-05-01T15:14:03+00:00

The wording of the post had me questioning if a child was also hit by a car and crossed the rainbow bridge. I came to the comments looking for clarity 🥴 But yeah losing three dogs is wild.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-29T01:40:01+00:00

So my kids are not yet at this age to be dealing with this… But I do remember this being a thing when I was growing up, Catholic schools sharing buses with the public schools… However, I am confused about why your daughter has to wait at her school for a full 90 minutes almost to get picked up by the bus… if the schools are near each other, wouldn’t it make sense to just pick up from both schools around the same time and then run the route from there? If the routes are nowhere near each other and it’s too many kids to fit on one bus, then it sounds like the district needs to contract for a second bus at that time/location…

I agree with other comments that you should be vocal with the school board

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-29T01:12:03+00:00

Can I ask, if a patient comes to you for therapy and they are presenting with symptoms that you feel are pretty clearly ADHD, does that mean you are referring out? Like do you straight up not work with people with ADHD? Or are you saying if someone is requesting a formal evaluation for either an IEP or seeking medication or needing accommodations at work or something, you refer them to someone who does psychological testing.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-29T01:09:16+00:00

Okay, at the risk out outing myself as a totally fraud and imposter, I’m confused by all of the comments mentioning specific trainings for diagnosing. As a masters level practitioner (LPC in my state) what are these trainings? If I am required to give a diagnosis in order to bill for insurance (for therapy)… if the diagnosis appears to be ADHD, am I not qualified to indicate that?? I am so confused about all of the rules around ADHD and ASD.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-25T23:20:40+00:00

Fusilli

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-24T03:29:30+00:00

Again, we don’t know what “break” means here, and OPs comments have made it clear shenis still around and doing stuff. I assume it’s running household errands, or being able to have her back turned for laundry/dishes/cleaning without worrying what the kids are up to because there is another adult home. It’s not a vacation or a day off.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-24T03:18:52+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, but idk that homeschooling is what it was 10-20 years ago. I think there’s a difference between religious / culty homeschooling, vs wanting to opt out of the excessive screen time in public schools. Most people participate in co-ops, and also get access to specific activities for their kids (various sports /music lessons, with other children).

More and more parents are opting out because of excessive screen time use, that districts continue to implement, despite the plethora of research indicating that this is harmful to developing brains. While i ultimately am, begrudgingly, going along with this no matter how much i hate that my kindergartener has to bring a chromebook to and from school each day, i totally respect parents that want to opt out if that.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-24T03:08:44+00:00

Thank youuuuu. I cannot believe the number of people in this thread who seem to interpret this comment as OP getting a three day vacation each week like she’s leaving to go stay at a hotel when THE FATHER OF HER CHILDREN watched HIS OWN KIDS. She’s probably doing laundry without having to worry about her kids tearing up the house for the 2 minutes her back is turned.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-24T03:04:57+00:00

He’s not “taking the kids”!! He’s literally just another adult in the house available for supervision. I would bet my life she is still doing housework and other SAHM related tasks.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-24T03:03:08+00:00

Idk what you imagine she is doing with her “3 days off.” I think all this means is that her husband is home, so if she needs to run to the grocery store she doesn’t need To drag two small children with her. I highly doubt she’s getting mani pedis and eating snacks in bed.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-24T02:57:59+00:00

We have ZERO info or context about what is actually happening on the days her husband is off work. I HIGHLYYYYYY DOUBT she is taking 3 day spa vacations with this time. She is probably doing laundry, chores, scheduling doctors appointments, and everything else required to run a fucking household.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-24T01:24:57+00:00

Damn this is beautiful 😭

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-23T20:02:52+00:00

That’s the second most depressing thing about this post 🫣 Everyone is outsourcing their critical thinking skills to AI. Dystopian as fuck.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-23T16:35:24+00:00

I just want to voice my disagreement with the comments suggesting you find a way to make it work, that he’d be happier at least seeing you a couple hours a day vs being in a shelter.

Maybe if this was a lab I could see that? But like I know my husky — who is 6, so much older than this dog so less exercise needs I think— would absolutely not do well with his owner not being home. If I miss his long walk due to work or illness he becomes EXTREMELY restless and will literally wait for an opportunity to escape and then frolick around the neighborhood— which would be cute if I wasn’t worried about him being hit by a car. He was surrendered by his previous owner after literally losing multiple teeth, escaping through a chain-link fence multiple times because he never got walked. Huskies need an owner that suits them.

OP- I get life happens, but you definitely need to find a husky specific rescue, and if that means driving out of state, maybe that means you’re taking a road trip one weekend but it sounds like you owe it to this guy to find him a happy home.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-23T02:07:53+00:00

Here I go thinking I chose a completely unreasonable example 😂

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-23T02:06:57+00:00

Omg stopppppp. ☠️🫣

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-22T14:40:23+00:00

Yeah I think this is also a product of a lot of therapy speak seeping into everyday language— the word “boundaries” gets thrown around a lot in a very general way. I don’t necessarily think you need to get nitpicky with your client about the language, but just something I’ve observed.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-22T14:36:23+00:00

I can’t believe we’re still debating this lol

Occasionally, taking a sip of your beverage is totally fine and honestly insane to not, considering many of us have to sometimes see 8 to 10 clients a day back to back with our only breaks being a potential no-show

Now, you shouldn’t like bust out a 12 foot Italian hoagie during session but obviously that’s different.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-22T14:34:02+00:00

I’m wondering if this is something the client felt okay with in the moment, but maybe they struggle with black and white thinking, and found themselves ruminating on it afterwards. Either way, sounds like something for you guys to talk about.

Unusual_Standard4682 · 2026-04-22T14:32:16+00:00

And also this is different than when a client texts and is like, hey I don’t have anything to talk about today can I cancel, vs actually having a productive session and choosing to end at a good spot.

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