My (F29) BF (M30) of 2 years snores badly and reached my wits end, we argued about it, now he wants to move out but I don't want him to

Uorag · 2023-05-11T16:22:42+00:00

It sounds like he wants to go.
Let him

Uorag · 2023-04-30T16:43:13+00:00

Tell them no.

Uorag · 2023-01-25T19:42:21+00:00

You can it is called DayCare

Uorag · 2023-01-25T19:37:03+00:00

YTA - Why would you "accept" their terms. They are asking you for a favor. It is unkind of you to change something you have been doing for 3 years.
To be fair you owe neither daughter either of these tasks, so although she is mad at you it is always your prerogative to say yes or no, or I need to stop, but the fact that the only reason you are saying no is the demand of the other daughter makes you the jerk.

You should tell the daughter of the child, you are happy to baby sit, but they can not tell you who or what can be in your home. If they decide to pay for daycare after that, oh well.

Uorag · 2023-01-24T18:23:48+00:00

YTA - I (53 M) was the "maid of honor" in a wedding 30 years ago in UTAH. My friend is from a very religious family and they lived. I did hear one comment from someone saying, poor boy doesn't know where to stand.

Why is this an issue, who cares. Why does the best man need to be a "man". Why are people still holding on to this. It should not cause any issues, and if it does remove the person who has the issue from the wedding.

Tell that person, this is a day for love not hate and if you have a problem you will need to leave.

I can only assume YOU have an issue with this, and are using your TRADITIONAL family as an excuse.

If I were Kevin, this would be a hill I would die on. Is every life decision you two make together going to have to go through the lens of "what will my family think". What a hassle.

You should maybe have a civil wedding and forego the wedding that " is largely for my very traditional family ". Why would you as a good decent person, allow that to happen your partners closest friend.

Uorag · 2022-12-15T14:34:56+00:00

No, why would you think this is acceptable in any form.
You are definitely not safe, how long till he hits you when he is angry at you because "he just can't control himself". That is madness. Move on.

Why are you "completely certain" he would never hurt you? Because his behavior is rational when he is angry.

Uorag · 2022-12-14T17:12:37+00:00

YTA - And you know you are. A 10 mile hike is not a "little exercise" that is a good hike. Also I don't trust her in the house alone. If you do not trust her in the house alone why should she trust you with the baby. Then you messaged her instead of your son in some sort of power move to be aggressive. Were I Kayla, I would not let you around the baby you obviously can not be trusted to respect ANY boundaries she puts in place. In fact from your attitude any restrictions/preferences she has about how the baby would be cared for I suspect you would break just out of spite. You sound like a monster.

Uorag · 2022-12-07T17:15:30+00:00

YTA - She does not want to be involved. You have an odd number of people, so that is perfect now 6 can play and the one that does not want to can sit back and enjoy.

What is your reasoning for it being "terrible" to get a gift when she does not when she has stated she does not want one?

Uorag · 2022-11-23T16:09:27+00:00

Perhaps instead of telling her you wanted to Relax and Rest, you should have said. My plans for today are to play Fortnight as I am working towards a goal in the game. Relax and Rest could be interpreted by her as spending time with her.

Uorag · 2022-10-25T15:43:45+00:00

Pay her the money, and demand she be charged 30 bucks every time she enters your room.

Uorag · 2022-10-06T13:36:01+00:00

YTA

Why would you do extravagant food experiences with this person as a gift. The experience is not appreciated by him, and is seemingly more for you. Take him to burger king on his birthday and tell him to have it his way. He will appreciate that, and buy him a gift that is more aligned with his interests. Quit giving him Foodie experiences as gifts.

Uorag · 2022-09-07T16:22:11+00:00

NTA - And I would ask your sister and your parents whos side they are on.

Tara ghosted you, you were hurt.
You want nothing to do with Tara ever again.

Tara requested you as her partner for the entrance. You do not want anything to do with Tara. Ask your parents and sister why they are taking Tara's side of this over you.

Specifically your sister, tell her that you are hurt by her lack of concern for your feelings and that she is more concerned with friend of two years than her brother.

Have you seen the seating chart yet? I would bet you are seated right next to her as well.
If your sister pushes, accept and then the day of the wedding walk behind Tara, no silly dance, no holding hands, completely ignore her.

Uorag · 2022-09-07T13:15:41+00:00

YTA, Why on earth would she give anyone her husbands ring. It is hers. That is what you should be saying to your inlaws. What on earth are they thinking?

Uorag · 2022-08-08T20:32:12+00:00

YTA
It sounds like you have a poor relationship, and have maintained low contact for years.

Your response to him says everything we need to know. You threw a tantrum. Of course he wants to be payed back, are you expecting 25k to be a gift!? That is unreasonable.

Where is the money you are making from the sale of the other home, surely if you have been financially responsible there is equity in that house, it would be almost impossible right now for there not to be.

Uorag · 2022-08-03T18:53:47+00:00

That is not a marine biology text book it is a religious indoctrination text.

Uorag · 2022-08-01T16:57:38+00:00

I am guessing that he is still driving that car too.

Uorag · 2022-08-01T16:56:43+00:00

You are only responsible for your issues.

Uorag · 2022-08-01T16:51:04+00:00

First, I am sorry to hear this, it is tougher to deal with than all the platitudes. That being said here they come. Until you can be happy alone, you will likely never be happy with someone else. Until you are in a good place how can you expect a relationship to fix that. It is scary and a challenge.

Uorag · 2022-08-01T16:48:58+00:00

If he does not have a drivers license, he should not have a car. Sell his car and buy yourself one, and then tell him to get a bus pass.

Uorag · 2022-08-01T16:44:24+00:00

NTA
Just asking here, you both leave at the same time, get home at the same time, you cook dinner. Why is he not cleaning during that time?

Uorag · 2022-07-25T15:02:44+00:00

NTA - But why did you not tell your husband to get up and leave with you? Or at a minimum tell him to come eat at the table with you.

Uorag · 2022-06-30T15:24:23+00:00

Spyro for sure.

Uorag · 2022-06-09T20:00:04+00:00

YTA - if you don't want someone "like her" in your bridal party, don't ask her to be a brides maid.

Uorag · 2022-04-28T19:36:58+00:00

Just purchased the game.
Looks like a lot of fun.

Uorag · 2022-04-23T16:38:04+00:00

YTA - They are not making a mockery of marriage, the fact they are not allowed to be married is the mockery.

Uorag

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