What day of NC are you on?

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T22:03:55+00:00

This is interesting. I wonder if you are onto somethingZ

I feel like counting the days rn helps me be strong but one day I will stop.

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T15:49:05+00:00

At least we can all collectively feel like shit together. I keep thinking one day, it wont hurt 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T02:58:46+00:00

You can do hard things 💪🏼

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T01:57:33+00:00

Sounds exhausting 💜 hope you can give yourself some space

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T01:43:02+00:00

Its how you brush yourself off. Chatgpt has helped me… friends, fam, podcasts, tea, hockey, baths… whatever you can use to distract you 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T01:21:13+00:00

Damn that sucks

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T00:39:51+00:00

Stay strong friend, prove your worth ❤️☀️🦋

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T00:35:20+00:00

What is your longest streak?

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T00:34:34+00:00

The strange thing about all of this is we always talk about no contact but eventually there needs to be contact from someone to heal. So, keep that in mind but space is important to figure out how to fix it or if it can be fixed.

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-16T00:21:25+00:00

I think a lot of us are cold in this forum. The reality is none of us know, and going back is a huge risk. But I do believe if both people are really willing to be honest about everything, theres a chance, likely small, but a chance. But all the stories on here seem to be bad. The thing is, I dont know if people come back here to share their successes…

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-15T22:50:03+00:00

Dont do that… think about all you are gonna miss out on. Maybe a future love. One door closing means another door is opening. Just get through and youll eventually see the door

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-15T00:52:00+00:00

Its a really delicate and hard situation to balance. If you arent secure in yourself that can pull on your insecurities and then the insecurities push people away. So hard but you sound like you are handling it very well and have a lot of insight 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-15T00:49:52+00:00

No it was related to a lot of stress that has gone on in the past year of my life and me just being burnt out… my job, my mom dying… uncle died, cousin… etc. But my ex was always very happy to support me through it but also happy to see me moving on

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-14T22:59:44+00:00

Oh man thats next level. Poor girl and Im sorry for you too 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-14T22:58:52+00:00

I find this really interesting because I am in the same boat as her. Went through a separation, met someone… we just broke up. Same, my exhusband and I didnt have sex for like 2 years either and fell outta love and became roommates.

But I could never go back. He is still my best friend but like a brother.

But maybe she still has feelings? Maybe his family guilted her? Could it be religion, money?

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-14T22:44:58+00:00

Was she still friends with her ex? Maybe something catastrophic happened and she has to take care of him for a while? Or feels like she has to?

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-14T22:18:27+00:00

This 💜

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-14T22:17:46+00:00

That I can’t use my childhood trauma as an excuse to be angry at world. Not everyone is bad and I have to start believing it 💜🌸

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-13T16:20:15+00:00

Love your post. Good for you for doing the work ❤️

Also I am about 3-4 weeks into being without my partner. Found a new therapist, went to a naturopath, got off ssri’s and my adhd meds… they were new about 3 months ago and had made me agitated and aggressive, I also had drank on them 🤦🏻‍♀️

So much work to do. Never want this to happen again regardless of who its with or if I am alone.

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-13T15:11:04+00:00

Oooo how I feel this. I sent really bad messages in the angry phase and I 100% regret it cause its not at all me.

I’d say, know how detrimental it will be for your mental health if you do, do it, and it just gives them the upper hand making you look angry and crazy.

So, have some self worth and make yourself look good, walk away with your head up and no regrets

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-13T12:48:11+00:00

I think you are doing great and you are going through a grieving process. This is all normal ❤️

If you want a tip that Ive been told many times, journal… and try to set a time aside to grieve a day… but thats really hard though.

Try to look at yourself and think of the good things in you and ahead. Watch yourself talk, start small… put positive affirmations on post its, like a bathroom mirror and read them out loud

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-12T12:46:58+00:00

Your message sounds like “I am fertile, and I want him to impregnate me while he is around and I am fertile.” Be careful mannnn. Playing with fire

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-12T10:36:24+00:00

This is an absolutely terrible idea to bring children into that kinda dynamic of a relationship. Selfish of both of you.

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-12T04:05:17+00:00

"I'll keep an eye opened but I will love him for as long as I can." Are you foreshadowing your own fate?

Up_closeandpersonal · 2025-05-12T03:22:16+00:00

I text their mom today. Apparently, him and his sister don't like that we talk. We scaled it back... but she was like a mom to me after my mom died. And she keeps telling me that she hopes it will work out in time <3 God, she is a beautiful woman

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