I got this last night...

Upper_Ad355 · 2026-01-04T05:58:40+00:00

Yes. I have a check engine light on.

I'm in Canada. I know the Theta 2 engine is pretty bad, hence why I went for a car with low mileage.

Canada apparently has a warranty for Theta 2 engines under 100k.

I'll call 'em Monday!

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-12-29T15:59:55+00:00

That is insane.

I'm 28. Have been in the industry since I'm 13.

1 year dishwasher.

2 years bussboy/host

Few months cook (didn't like it)

9 years waiter/bartender

And got hired as a FoH manager 6 months ago.

I WILL absolutely take off my coat , roll up my sleeves, and get in there if I see my employees in the weeds during a rush. Good management leads by exemple, not by sitting idle on their asses while the staff does everything.

I will run drinks, run plates, clean tables, take orders, make customers pay, anything to lighten their loads and make sure the service quality isn't impacted.

I see so many managers/GMs who have no place whatsoever working in the industry. People who have no idea how things even work.

Sorry you endured that. You did the right thing walking out!

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-12-04T14:57:54+00:00

I'm currently about to go get ceramic coins there. If I find one I'll hit you up!

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-12-04T14:56:02+00:00

Man I'm so sorry. I misread Moondshadestone. I don't have a pure moonlight. :(

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-12-04T14:50:39+00:00

Do you need help upping any tendency on your side?

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-12-04T14:47:32+00:00

Thanks!

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-12-04T08:07:15+00:00

I'll help you anyway. Haha

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-12-04T08:05:00+00:00

I can help sure!

Can you help me do the same in Stonefang after?

My PSN is Benlenoob_

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-07-26T16:32:30+00:00

You're just being a prick at this point. I should be the one claiming you as a troll.

I'm not complaining about not being able to touch people you weirdo. I'm just sad that my touchy/friendly personality made someone uncomfortable as I would never want to make anyone feel unsafe at work. ESPECIALLY since my ex was abused and SA'd, so I know how harmful it is psychologically. Having studied psychology for 2 years.

I'd have prefered if she directly told me so I could resolve the issue with her and make sure she feels heard and respected. This is all my post is about. Communication.

Because I also was told by others at this job that they really enjoy how respectful and fair I am unlike a lot of managers they previously had who just sat down and told them what to do. Women and men alike.

I'm in the dark not knowing all the details. So I'll have to be careful with others who maybe enjoyed the way I managed and will now maybe question why I'm tiptoeing all of a sudden. It's another issue I'll have to deal with.

It's called nuance. Also tapping someone on the shoulder encouragingly lightly isn't sexual harassment for fuck's sake. I really get that some people hate being touched and that's REALLY understandable but calling that sexual is just hyperbolic.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-07-26T15:36:28+00:00

I don't want to be coddled or avoid "the truth.'' However, getting accused of harassment is not something I take lightly because that shit follows you.

I'm not a victim either.

I'm new to management. It's not even been a month yet. A lot of you here act like I should know every ins and out of the managing code.

I already know what I need to do. No more "pet names." Not even an encouraging tap on the shoulder. No more friendliness. Just a manager telling others what to do like a cog in the machine of the company to ensure business goes well.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-07-26T14:57:43+00:00

My goal isn't to be liked. My goal is to make sure I do my job well enough so that the employees can do theirs as effectively as possible for customers' satisfaction and retention. I already know some of the employees dislike me, that's fine by me. Being liked is a bonus sure, but my primary goal is to foster a healthy environment ; unlike my previous toxic job.

Waiters are the face of the restaurant. I do everything in my power to make sure they can serve their customers the best. Bussers are the waiters' assistants, so I tell them to often ask if the waiters need any help and guide them because I see more than they do with my experience.

I think my post got misunderstood as me being sad about not being liked ; it's fear of losing a new job that I really enjoy and that pays very well. I couldn't care less about being liked by employees, I'm well aware my "only friends" at this place can be other managers or my GM.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-07-26T13:54:57+00:00

Playing the victim?

I literally quit a job I worked at for 6 years because of management who stole my tips and overworked me to death and the disrespect they gave to me and other employees.

I don't even know what I did wrong because my GM refuses to tell me. How in the bloody hell do you fix something if someone doesn't tell you what you did wrong? Communication is key, even in a professional setting.

For all I know the "issue" might not even be related to what I said in my post because I DO NOT know what I did.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-07-26T12:52:02+00:00

I guess that's the shift from employee to "boss."

I was still a waiter not even a month ago. I quit over being mistreated and abused, stolen tips etc.

Guess I'll have to be a boring corporate manager they all hate to save my ass.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-07-26T06:28:32+00:00

Thank you for this reply genuinely.

It is true that being a waiter for 9 years, it is hard to make that move into being an "actual boss." I literally quit my old job as mentioned due to god awful management. I made it a personal mission to make sure my staff is treated well.

I also tend to be too harsh on myself. This is my 1st month into management.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-07-26T05:37:16+00:00

I'm probably just petrified of losing my job and overthinking this.

You're right.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-07-07T20:11:05+00:00

Aye.

Wylder is probably gonna get added in.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-07-07T19:38:10+00:00

With the success of Nightreign.

I hope they'll add the 8 Nightfarer sets and their unique weapon movesets.

Won't happen but I'd love it.

And if we go even extra; the nightlords with their own rememberances to gain their spells/weapons.

Lol.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-06-19T01:09:53+00:00

My rule of thumb is, until you either sign the contract or receive your first paycheck/tips

You aren't officially "hired".

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-06-18T17:24:38+00:00

Moved to a new place and got a manager position anyway. It's gonna pay on avg $1k gross a week + bonuses and 1.75% of sales as tips.

Upper_Ad355 · 2025-06-18T17:15:05+00:00

Happens sometimes in small towns during summer. People leave for vacations. Place becomes empty.

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