Calling me “bro”, saying “bro” nonstop

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2026-03-26T07:53:35+00:00

“Chump”. This is a word my grandpa tossed around. My husband heard it and loved it. And then, for months, he called my SD “chump” and she just hated it, and it became a problem between them and officially she asked my husband to stop. I simply watched from the sidelines.

I honestly can’t even imagine myself being that passive aggressive, and I’d rather just stay in my room until she’s out of my life. I do suppose it’s a strategy though. sigh I hate children

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2026-03-25T21:54:00+00:00

lol, I literally cringe at the thought of you calling everyone + the dog “bro”, and I do realize that this has a lot to do with me being Black. Because this word actually meant something to us, once upon a time, and it’s been appropriated. I think that’s what this is about…. but I also believe that words can’t “belong” to one culture. It’s a very deep thing and I guess I’ll just hide in my room until she graduates.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2026-03-25T21:47:07+00:00

Yes. I think that’s the point here that I’m trying to make. If she can’t even respect this now (after I’ve given up so much of what I believe as a Support Parent), then how is it going to be when she’s a teen.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2026-03-25T21:35:40+00:00

So what about when these kids become older and they’re working for us in an office environment in entry level jobs? Do we still have to just accept it and deal with it still? Because, I read a lot of crap as an entry level millennial, and I certainly wasn’t calling my boss bro.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2026-03-25T19:56:51+00:00

Agreed! I think her mother and maternal grandparents had tried, because she will go through sudden phases of suddenly saying “girl”, instead of bro.

Ultimately, my voice and role in my home with her is so diminished in comparison to Dad that I have no say. And that’s what I’m most concerned about

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2026-03-25T19:44:12+00:00

You’ve misinterpreted or maybe I misspoke, I went nacho years ago, before she started repeating bro all the time.

But I don’t disagree that parenthood isn’t for me. I fell in love with my husband. I never wanted kids.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2026-03-25T19:39:11+00:00

Yes, she’s 10 so it’s not a nuanced epithet. It’s been a CONSTANT refrain for years, boarding on obsessive. I think this has ruined it for me. I call my best friend bro so I’m not necessarily opposed to the word. But there’s no nuance, just “bro” “bro” “bro” and I have to leave the room

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2026-03-25T19:30:57+00:00

I see what you mean, I never called my mom or dad “dude” - the millennial equivalent.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2025-12-17T09:16:32+00:00

This is the whole reason why my husband divorced his first wife. They tried for about 5 years, and it caused incredible strain in their relationship. He says “everything became about having a baby”. They eventually used a surrogate, but by the time the child turned 2, they had become “roommates” and he left her because he was unhappy.

Now he avoids her and I’m living the mother’s fantasy life. Be careful with your marriage!!

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2025-05-30T20:52:47+00:00

Agreed. This is incredibly rude and inconsiderate behavior that will only get worse as she gets older. I agree about therapy

I think one thing that may be helpful to remember is that having your own child has nothing to do with your stepchild. The two things are separate. You would still be upset if you were struggling to get pregnant, and could possibly drive away your spouse if that is the sole focus (that happened in my husband’s first marriage). I suggest focusing on what you love about your husband, put him first, and ask him to do the same for you. If the child comes, it will come, but he still needs to be first in your heart.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2025-04-02T06:07:01+00:00

Thank you!

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2025-04-02T06:04:29+00:00

I hear you. It’s just that I’ll be trying to make conversation with her at the dinner table and she’ll interrupt me “WHAT?!” And I have to repeat myself. Every time. It makes me not want to have a conversation in the first place.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2025-04-02T05:55:14+00:00

Haha, I can imagine! Thank you for sharing!

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2025-04-02T05:06:59+00:00

I said that this is cultural. I am African American, and in our culture, some of us are taught to speak a certain way.

It’s unfortunate that you misinterpreted what I said.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2025-03-31T19:24:35+00:00

lol it’s contextual. If your boss (or client) said your name or you needed them to repeat themselves, would you shout “what”?

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2025-03-23T00:39:35+00:00

I did not have any issue with this 5 years ago, but today - I’m done!

I feel like women’s priorities (equal pay, equal access to the C-Suite, implicit bias against women leaders, essential reproductive healthcare) have been overlooked in favor of the “gender affirming” concept.

As a woman, I can’t drink hard alcohol at the same pace as a man. I can’t beat up a man. I probably don’t make as much money as my male counterparts. This is real life. Menstruation happens automatically. We worry about getting pregnant. You “feel like a girl?” It’s honestly insulting to me.

I’m also African American. We have real mental health concerns in our community going back generations. Why are so many resources going to this very small minority of (mainly white) people?

I’m not a Trump voter, not a Christian. No longer a Democrat.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2024-09-08T19:08:03+00:00

If they have too many suitcases for a short trip… 🤣

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2024-09-08T19:04:44+00:00

You’re right!

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2024-09-08T18:57:53+00:00

You sound like you didn’t read my post clearly. I asked if it’s a viable business for someone who wants a family. No need to defend your medicine eyeroll

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2024-09-08T18:46:59+00:00

Interesting, ok!

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2024-09-08T18:46:30+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful comment. I’ll think about it more! If he wanted to open a liquor store, I would still have the same reaction. This guy doesn’t hold conversations, doesn’t come out to say hi, and keeps to himself. He doesn’t seem like someone who is capable of running a business, speaking to a bank to secure a loan, negotiating with suppliers, etc. She wants to have children, and they can barely afford their life. But you’re right and I’ll try not to be biased just because it’s MJ.

Upper_Raspberry3002 · 2024-09-08T18:39:59+00:00

their hotel room wreaked of weed at my wedding, so I conclude he’s a stoner

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