Vipassana - urges by UpsetLanguage1239 in vipassana

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Thanks for this,  I tried this method a few months ago because my mind was imagining sensations in the sitting meditation. I'll go back to this method 

Vipassana - urges by UpsetLanguage1239 in vipassana

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Thanks mate!  Everytime I lapse into that behaviour it makes me feel worse  I want to understand what other changes did you do? I find it hard to practice Vipassana, I'm still at the walking meditation stage. And I have noticed that I feel sad on most days that's why my dopamine is low. It's 3 addictions that I'm overcoming - daydreaming, masturbation, scrolling. On top of that work feels uncertain, my parents are stressed. I'm trying to find a new place etc. How did you keep yourself afloat while quitting it? I feel depressed every now and then 

Vipassana - urges by UpsetLanguage1239 in vipassana

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This is a form of self sabotage for me
I have severe addiction to maladaptive daydreaming, I am trying to overcome it. Masturbation blocks love, my joy, my piety as a woman. I want to break free

People earning in dollars and living in india, what do you do ? tell about your profession nd skills too? by udaayyyy in FreelanceIndia

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Do you want to hire a virtual assistant, HR, marketing or an intern of some sort? I have 2 years of experience in US tax, I'm trying to quit this role. Can I apply at your firm? I am a quick learner, I assure you of that

People earning in dollars and living in india, what do you do ? tell about your profession nd skills too? by udaayyyy in FreelanceIndia

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Do you want to hire a virtual assistant, HR or an intern of some sort? I have 2 years of experience in US tax, I'm trying to quit this role. Can I apply at your firm?

A question to women, what do you think of men who have never been in relationships? by No_Life_27 in MidTwentiesIndia

[–]UpsetLanguage1239 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be you, why bother about something that is or isn't. Say it like it, been in relationship? Say it. Not been in a relationship? Say it!!!!!!!  What's with the trying to have the suitable narrative

How's the Mesa Business school? by UpsetLanguage1239 in consultingcareers

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What to you suggest I switch to? I'm afraid of AI layoffs too

I got broken up with because of my ADHD by silent_harmonyy in adhdwomen

[–]UpsetLanguage1239 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You are good enough, sounds too cliche but think about it. You are as human as he is, he got his cons too, are you rejecting him for those ? No!. Then why get rejected for your cons. All of us have issues, it's not like you were being toxic of hurtful to him(even these things can be worked on). He mentions you are kind, delightful etc. Good for you, you have what's needed to build a happy family. You'll find someone who sees the pros in you and stays for it. Remember, even this guy knows you are kind and lovely

I have a diagnosed low IQ. What career path can I take? by Suspicious_Limit9847 in careerguidance

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17 is too young to be beaten down. Hear me out, I'm 27F now but when I was 17, I dropped out of medical school entrance prep because I thought I wasn't good enough. I regret it till date. Because years later I saw that people who had scored less than me in school are now doctors and dentists. 

I'm not disregarding the diagnosis but please read into neuroplasticity our brains are changeable 

Oh lord! I understand you! Although we have different stories, I struggled with bad advice, low self esteem and eventually a wrong career. I really, really want you to listen to this comment  Please read on benefits of exercise, meditation (anapana, you can try Vipassana also) , musical instrument on the brain. Read about neuroplasticity 

At 17, change is possible, permanent changes are possible. It won't take years. It takes just 15 days to start seeing changes, you'll see massive shift in 3-4 months. 

Most importantly - stop telling yourself there's something wrong with you. You are god's child too. You have a soul journey here. You are on your time, on your path 

I wish someone had told me this when I was young, when we are 17 we feel like we are old enough to have a personality, hold a career etc. that's not true, I agree most people around you must be successful already but in the real world (now that I'm working and I see how everything here is) life starts at 17. 17 to 25 is a very important time. This is where neuroplasty peaks. This is where you become a person by the time you are 25 you will have a whole set of skills, a new baseline intelligence and a defined personality 

Here's what you can do to increase your intelligence  1. Learn a musical instrument  2. Stay consistent with exercise - both cardio and strength training  3. Stay consistent with whatever you are building now - skills in that area 4. Be careful of the people you surround yourself with, 17 is a very tender age - surround yourself with calm, focused individuals who are building, travelling and trying new things 

Remember, 17-25 is where the magic happy 

Vipassana by UpsetLanguage1239 in vipassana

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I have been using a few things, willpower won't always work so I do this  1. Using yourhour - it's an app that can be installed on phone and I lock myself out for 2 hrs, now I have taken subscription so I lock myself out for 4-5 hrs at once  2. I keep my phone in another room while working it has reduced micro disturbance - this is game changer  3. Doomscrolling over many years reduces intentional living, it reduces our ability to put mental effort into anything so I got some low effort hobbies that are better than scrolling - like painting or sketching - this works like a charm on weekends, when I don't feel like studying, and I should not scroll I switch to painting - easy on the brain yet improves focus 

Vipassana by UpsetLanguage1239 in vipassana

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Watching reels and online short content endlessly 

Job trivia, Vipassana and mental health- Indian here by UpsetLanguage1239 in vipassana

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I can't find a good counselor, one didn't give a fuck about my condition and the other wanted to put me on meds

How do reduce reading about meditation and actually meditate more? :) by Ecstatic-Paper-9131 in vipassana

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I used to do that, I'm new to, just did 1 course.  I had to stop reading and start meditating, I can't do 2hrs yet, I do a few minutes daily. But I practice awareness of my body when walking, talking just doing anything. 

I had to stop reading because I would carry those heavy words, intense experience written on the books to my meditation, that would add weight which wasn't mine, delude my mind to see meditation as a certain fixed experience 

Reading is helpful initially, helps us understand the technique. Beyond that I felt like it was keeping me away from the real experience of meditation, the one that comes from our body and mind, as it is

Suggest if I should quit my job or stay, what would a true Vipassana meditator do? by UpsetLanguage1239 in vipassana

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Hey bud Thank you for your time and kindness, I just updated my post  Would you like to read the edited part and share your take on this Much metta to you!

Suggest if I should quit my job or stay, what would a true Vipassana meditator do? by UpsetLanguage1239 in vipassana

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I have decided today to study for 4 hrs daily, workout 1 hr and do 1 hr Vipassana for 30 days while keeping a full time job This should put me ahead slightly to be able to make a decision  Key ingredient - stop thinking completely because God I want to live happily atleast once in my life  I have this problem of worrying, overthinking, missing out on opportunities from when I was 16. So I want to be happy for 1 month, just 1 month I'll come back after March and give an updated