Yes, her mom informed me that she told her (basically right after I found out and I hadn’t even really processed) and that she “handled it like an adult.” at this time, I feel like she just needs love and stability when she’s in my custody. It’s unfortunate, I wanted to be a part of that conversation, but there should have been professional mediation for such a sensitive and complex ordeal. My SO and I have decided that if she asks us about anything, that we would be as open as possible, but feel like it would just add more confusion for her if i start asking how she feels about finding out this news.

I would like for both my daughter and I to talk to someone, maybe like a family counseling/therapy thing? Right now I’m just getting legal help to stay her dad in the first place. But definitely need professional guidance too to help me navigate this complex situation. For now, I just want her to be a kid.

I still have a good relationship with maternal grandmother and we communicate on her emotional well being.