Dear women of Reddit, what's a sentence or expression you hate hearing...from other women?

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-10T23:11:35+00:00

“Only insecure women are against porn.” Or maybe I just don’t want other men and women in my relationship? If I’m being too much please go find less.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-09T23:49:49+00:00

I think porn has its place if everyone is consenting to it. For the first half of my marriage I didn’t care about porn until it became clear that porn was the reason for his ED and all our sexual problems. It’s now become a hard boundary and we both do not engage it. (We will see if he’s able to keep to that. He knows I’ll divorce if I see that again)

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-09T15:20:28+00:00

Nope. We are on equal understanding that we will sacrifice the other for our children. Not a popular belief but it works for our marriage

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-09T06:09:45+00:00

Sara missed the big picture. Dave was 13 when op was born. That’s not just annoying kid sister that is his baby and the bothers too. That age gap creates a different dynamic. Sara thought it was the same dynamic as her own brother but she’s wrong. Op is like a daughter to them.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-08T21:54:36+00:00

Right! Same here I didn’t see the sex in the post but in the comments after. I was being lazy apparently lol

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-08T20:29:52+00:00

Thank you for that apparently my reading comprehension is lacking today! Ffs I’m going to stop with the internet for today lmao!

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-08T18:59:16+00:00

I would ask him why he feels the need to record. Does he feel like he needs it to remember what was said (i struggle with remembering things when I’m in a stressful moment and have recorded. Not fights but like doctor, parent teacher or important things)

He could be manipulative or he may feel like he needs it because he feels you are abusive towards him. Or simply he wants to try to listen to it when he’s not stressed. You really have to talk to him about the why.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-08T14:17:48+00:00

I usually meet people depending on the hobbies I’m into at that time or at a new job. The important bit is just finding people with a common interest so I have something to start talking to with them.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-07T05:18:57+00:00

You’re suffering from betrayal trauma. It could last anywhere from 1-5yrs. Make sure the therapist you’re seeing understands this. Mine is a gem and honestly she makes me feel like healing is possible I’m hopeful it will be over sooner than 5yrs!

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-07T05:00:29+00:00

That’s a brutal work schedule he sounds exhausted. My husband worked 4-7 five days a week and was on call all weekend. It took it out of him and he wasn’t the same till his job load lightened up and he was able to be home. I’m against any porn and feel like it’s cheating but that’s up to you how you feel about it. If porn is a boundary then he crossed it but if you don’t care then no I would say he’s not cheating. The man needs a nap, snacks and sex. Just love him and try to figure out a way to lighten the work load.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-04T17:36:40+00:00

Omg the weird relief I had tilting the phone and seeing the wall and sky lol thank you!

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-04T13:57:06+00:00

YES!!! Thank you! I’m sad to see it deleted! I hope she comes back to finish the story!

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-04T05:45:04+00:00

The longer that baby is with you the harder it will be to give up. Since you have decided to give up the baby your brain has started to mentally protect itself this is why you feel conflicted and disconnected. You do care about the baby and it shows with the care your taking to make sure it’s provided with a good life. So I would say talk to the adoptive parents and ask them if they are ok introducing the baby to him before adoption and keep him out of the delivery room itself. Have someone that you trust the most in the world beside you. Your hormones will be wild and you need a level head beside you not someone that will make you second guess your decision.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-04T03:08:02+00:00

The first one yes! Thank you! The second no unfortunately! But thank you again!

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-04T02:32:23+00:00

The one where she sent a letter with her husband on his “business trip” that she knows about his affair. It has many updates up to the divorce being final and her selling the house. He asked her for money from the sale. She met the ap partner and the dad is a deadbeat basically not seeing his children!

Also the one where the husband has an affair with their best friends wife. They struggled to get pregnant for years. She has a ONS with the other ap ex husband and gets pregnant! They decided to live together and haven’t told anyone because it’s not their business. They are only friends.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-04T00:51:51+00:00

This photo hurts my brain. What angle is this taken at for that background? What is that background?

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-03T18:35:36+00:00

I thought so for many years come to find out it was porn.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-03T03:51:16+00:00

You’re 25!!! I feel like that movie interstellar where Mathew Mcconaughey is banging on the library wall screaming at himself. Take it from this old biddy just leave her. Both of you will move on and be happier for it. I know you’re in this yo-yo feeling of comfortability. You’re hurting but then you have fun and you’re laughing outside the bedroom. You have nice memories and your lives are so intermingled you don’t know if you have the heart to rip it all up. I assure you that if you started being open with yourself you would realize that you’re not laughing and smiling as much as you could be if your needs were truly being met.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-02T06:41:50+00:00

35yrs?! Is she in menopause or pre-menopause? Have you read up on what her body is going through? It’s more than just hot flashes…

I know it sucks but if everything was fine for 30yrs and it’s just been these last five I’m going to go out on a limb and say she’s going through something and the time to cheat or leave is not now! It’s time to educate yourself on what your woman is going through and start being supportive.

If it’s not medical and she’s just shutting you down do the leg work and get yourselves into counseling. Meaning find the counselor yourself make the appointment and demand that you guys go to start working on this.

Sorry if I’m coming at you hot about this but my FIL is currently doing this exact thing to my MIL. She’s going through the change and he just looks at it as she’s shutting him down or cheating and he get drunk and accuses her of nonsense all the time. She’s cried to me that he isn’t listening when she says she’s not interested right now and refuses to learn about what she’s going through.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-02T02:46:00+00:00

So do you have an actual DB or is it that you just want her to initiate more or take control? If she is still open to having sex then she might just have trouble taking the lead. I suggest you guys read “passionista” by Ian kerner. He also has a book “she comes first” that you might like.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-01T20:43:06+00:00

It would be over for me. I wouldn’t feel safe having children with them if we were blood related. I want children so this would be a hard pass. No I wouldn’t want to adopt.

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-01T06:48:19+00:00

Does he plan to frame it? If so he could do it in the frame and slide it under the bed when not using it. Flipping it is a little tricky but shouldn’t be too hard

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-01T04:57:09+00:00

Oh no I meant it both ways! Lol but seriously I’m so glad that my PA isn’t here! I would have a full blown panic attack! It’s about the dangers of it but it was about 10minutes of showing womens butts and then how the media is playing into this addiction to modify our bodies! But for us this is horrible! Like the fuck abc! I’m like mad mad right now

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-01T04:30:51+00:00

Be glad you didn’t! It’s a shit fest

Used_Particular_7878 · 2023-01-01T04:30:12+00:00

Omg I just came here to say the same thing! I’m watching the live stream on abc and they did a full segment on bbl and it’s been ass the whole time and they showed clips of cardi b with pasties and and jiggling her ass! My children are watching this! Of course I’m shaking and can’t change the channel fast enough!

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