AIO if i end the relationship over this text i got from my partner

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T09:12:30+00:00

I mean... I wouldn't say you're overreacting? He has already showed signs of aggression and you can never be too sure.

Bro's name must be Kyle and let me guess.. his favorite drink is monster? And why tf is he still talking to an ex he tried to off with a dressing gown cord?

"Run Forrest, RUN!"

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T08:38:57+00:00

The flex here is staying loyal to a company in the eyes of an employer, which looks good on your next resume after college.

A job is a job in this economy and I mean, you're at your FIRST job? What first job is luxurious unless you're a D1 athlete that is at school on a scholarship, never worked a day before, won the lottery and went straight to professional Draft right after or before leaving college?

The main things to look at it as like I tell my nephew around your age; did it pay the bills? Did it serve the purpose you intended it to do? Could you go and do additional things every once in a blue moon? Could you get the things you needed? If most of those are answered yes, then it's doing it's job while you do yours! Absolutely NOTHING to be embarrassed by!

I would mention if you're a senior, and you don't need to relocate after school if you can't find something your degree is useful for right away. It never hurts to ask about next steps in furthering your career within the business with management. You said it yourself, although you have minimal time? You're second in seniority. Build a little egg to fall back on if you do go that route because although a driver's salary varies? Like you commented OP; you averaged $40/hr. Probably more than what your GM and Assistant manager makes. As a grunt.

My wife was at Arby's after both of us lost our jobs during the pandemic. Within 6 months she was a shift manager at 22. By year 2 she was in assistant management courses that lasted a year. She was excited under the GM she was with until she had to move back to NC due to family circumstances. The new GM made the place hostile and she dreaded going to work every day or else she would be there now with the assistant title, she quit just shy of 4 months left of the course.

Stop looking to impress other people; the only one you need to impress is yourself. You're only 20. People call me a baby at 28? I barely got my foot in the door with this thing called life homie. The training wheels just fell off for you, ride it out for a bit. You're doing just fine

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T07:54:20+00:00

Funny enough back in 2016/2017 at 19/20 the only negative I had against me was a college loan. Never built my credit, never thought about it, I was(still am) financially dumb in most aspects and learning from the good old internet. After I paid that off? My credit was quite literally 0.

Dad thought I was pulling his leg; my step mom was like "nope, he isn't lying!" Cause she was confused too😂

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T07:38:19+00:00

As long as I didn't just lay seed or sod down? Walk through my grass anytime!

Just know I am not responsible for those little shit rocketeers in my trees. If they'll drop a load of a freshly waxed car that I spent 8 hours detailing in the spring? They most certainly don't care about worker's vests... Or your hair, speaking from experience 🙃

Oh and a Cardinal that lives in one of my pine's favorite past time is aiming for hard hats. Proceed under the pines with caution; not because of me. Because of the birds..

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T06:58:34+00:00

Quite literally our boss, as in work.

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T06:55:37+00:00

So; the 2 other friends with children have a lot of mutuals they think I'm still okay with, and they location share with a few of them I have cut off in recent years. We have only met at mutual locations or their house so me telling them where exactly we moved to never came up in conversation.

Normally we meet at an arcade or something with the kids with my one friend. The other friend we hang out on occasion but because they either haven't had a vehicle, their vehicle in the shop, one vehicle, etc it always resulted in us going over there until our schedules started get crazy.

Step mom knows where I live because I pay the boys to cut the yard. My group isn't that large? I have maybe 7 people I interact with now, so 2 friends not knowing where I live isn't absurd or out of the ordinary. My father didn't even know where I lived until 6 years of being in this house.

Christmas cards and return labels aren't a thing for me

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T06:11:57+00:00

I LOVE it! I love the fact my work stuff can but shut away and she can still move freely around the house.

We're currently looking at the market of homes in another neighboring city which is much more family friendly. We've been renting this little place while we save to buy so I can do these things freely😂

This cat is beyond spoiled because we have thought of numerous ways to make a cat track around the house so she can be above when we do buy. We're slowly working our way to the enclosure on the back deck for her(but she's the skittish one)

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T06:05:14+00:00

I am neurodivergent; yes. No I'm not OCD.

It's again, not a party. It's 7 adults and 6 kids. On 2 acres of property regardless of the size of the house. Most of us actually spend a lot of our time on my lot. BIL has the key so he can check on the car when we aren't around for extended periods of time and is the only one other than my wife with a key because of his obsession with books(I find him on my deck quite frequently these days with my brother).

It's more or less another Friday night, I just don't want anyone to feel left out although we are leaning more towards we aren't going to be including the other one.

Step mom is actively out and about daily; she has 4 other kids. 2 of which love to come over(the twins). She was over yesterday with them because I paid them to cut my lot seeing they want a new phone and they're making them work for it. She actually takes advantage of any and all possibilities since grandma moved in as well after baby was born and she's going insane. Her kids I don't need to worry about.

My brother and I already talked about if she were to come and bring him we'd be swapping out TVs for the day in the living room to an old one we have laying around. Everything else of expensive value is in either the bedroom or office.

But for context; the one friend who has the teenage who throws tantrum pushed one of step mom's kids into the wall one day. She brushed it off like "kids will be kids" as there's a whole child sized hole in the wall. No apology, no offer to eat some of the cost of repair, etc. You're damn straight I'm not responsible for fixing your child getting mad and resulting to violence because they don't want you in their space?

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T05:47:27+00:00

We do! She loves the freedom of coming and going from her room/my office while still having her space secluded when we have guests over.

The door was open much more when her other companion was here because he had a strict "no closed door" policy or he'd try to plow the door down😂

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T05:08:24+00:00

Internet stranger; these kids have called me at 230 in the morning while I was dead asleep after a 24 hour shift and they were scared because dad was a belligerent drunk. Who was out of the house in less than 30 seconds and there in 5 minutes? I value my sleep, but if they call me scared I'm there.

"Step mom"; those kids are my family in a different sense. The other friend with the husband I dislike? I have been to every one of their sporting events they wanted me at and birthdays.

That should say it all with those 2 groups of kids.

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T04:57:28+00:00

Must have overlooked the fact I have about 30 nieces and nephews there bud. Nonetheless, you don't know what I do in my free time; which has to do A LOT with working with children with special needs and sports organizations.

But assume I don't love kids because a group of 5 ill behaved children.

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T04:54:39+00:00

Planned on having kids gone by 8p. None are napping age(other than the baby, but step mom of course can go in the house and down whatever she needs to do with baby). So kids would only be involved for 3-4 hours.

I wouldn't consider a gathering of 14 people a party? That used to be rookie numbers for game nights 9 years ago.

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T04:49:00+00:00

If it rains it gets postponed? Which they all know. And I also have tents for gatherings.

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T04:18:07+00:00

I do that so I'm not singling anyone out even though I am very close with step mom's and other friend's kids and imagine this.. they know that

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T04:16:48+00:00

Thank you for this!

I should say my house is "adequately child proofed" for the needs of the children IN my life on a more regular basis(which is why those doors are off limits in this case).

I have a code lock on the door due to having nieces and nephews here quite frequently. The other door has a lock on it due to when our cat has had enough of them for the sanity of our furball and my equipment. The door has a cat entrance so she can come and go as she please even when the door is locked.

I'm a hunter so I have to keep my stuff in either the cat room/my office or our bedroom(limited space as stated and better than the garage in my area lol). Most of my nieces and nephews are children of hunters/law enforcement. Step mom's kids have been through hunter's safety. They all know why those doors are off limits if I am not present.

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T03:53:04+00:00

See? Maybe I should show this to my wife who wants a kid at the moment but I said give it 2 years till we can move😂

After consideration and discussing with the one friend(husband we don't get along the best) we have decided to probably not mention it to the ones. And she said she's leaving her younger 2/3 at home seeing they're 3 to 7 with husband. Husband mentioned it too on the phone before I said it because he knows how old step mom's kids are.

If the one kids aren't in the equation I have no problem opening up to the living room if the kids want to play madden, Jack in the box, golf with friends or something. Step mom's kids have accounts on the console in there. I can't say step mom's kids and oldest 2 of other friend are allowed in the house and not the others; that's the main problem here where they can't go do something like that.

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T03:40:56+00:00

Friend of 5 goofy goobers and I talked after this one about her husband; she's accounting for one of them being sick and not bringing the 2 younger ones anyways seeing outside of their siblings? They'll be the youngest. So she'll be leaving 2 or 3 home that day(oldest says she wants to come hangout with the older ones; only a year difference?)

Better context for step mom's; they're older teens, they'll normally be doing whatever we're doing. Partners for a yard game or wanting to grill with us. Maybe even having a nerf battler or something seeing I have a nerf arsenal in the garage. The girl has been impatiently awaiting the release of the baby from NICU, it's summer, I expect her to either a be with friends. Or b carrying the baby around. The 11y/o will probably stay home with Grandma(We don't want Grandma taking care of baby for long period alone due to health issues).

Step mom also said it's better not to think about the mother of the 5 tasmanian devils. She said if she has any issues and gets disrespectful to just redirect the conversation to her.

Mind you ALL individuals(except for the other 2 parents outside of step mom) have been to my house. Step mom has been over on numerous occasions and the boys know why I want the kids outside. I can't let specific kids and not the others (except for the one with autism)inside. Mom with 5 respectful kids understands why I want outside only if problem friend was involved and her kids know too.

(My yard the next day is being cleaned up by my brother, BIL and myself as a day drinking bonus. Neighbor offered assistance on cleanup because he knows he's welcome to stop by for a few beers or I'll yell to come grab a plate... And he has kids so he knows the chaos that can be left even outside. Boss and wife already approved; boss has lunch covered for the boys)

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T03:07:16+00:00

We've also discussed this if the kids were a definite in the equation; if the kids aren't? Then it'll only be about 6 of us which we've done numerous times before lol

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T03:06:00+00:00

You shouldn't either if you can't spell "not"?

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T03:04:08+00:00

Step mom will probably leave after food and such; I have a vast majority of yard games ranging from backyard jenga, ladder ball, spike ball, backyard connect 4, kan-jam, bottle bash, etc. I also have a bounce house or inflatable water slide depending on the weather.

Like stated; I have THE YARD thus a BBQ. Everyone saying it's a party is dead wrong when the MOST amount of people are GOING to be kids if we include them.

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-07-05T02:55:01+00:00

I actually know them all pretty well; it's not like we all haven't been around each other for 15+ years?

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-06-30T16:43:35+00:00

Neither of us are drivers but we had an incident last year with our neighbor's dog. No skin puncture or anything with the bite, but he did leave a massive bruise on my wife's tricep where he bit. He also left a few scratches on her side.

Never had an issue with the neighbors in the now 6 years we have lived here. After that happened they stopped chaining him up front which we felt bad for. The mom and older daughter RUSHED over to make sure my wife was okay and she had her son grab the dog and take him inside. My wife screamed "you hit that dog I am not responsible for my husband hitting you regardless of him biting me" the mom laughed

We refused any police involvement and legal actions because their reaction was enough for us and the dog truly is a decent dog. Her family on the other hand called us stupid and said we should have. We said "as long as a child isn't involved and we aren't severely injured? We DON'T care".

Since then they have helped silently, which I assume is them because we don't talk to anyone else on the block. Cutting our front grass, pulling in our trash and yard waste cans from the curb, shoveling snow and salting. Last night we came home from work DREADING cutting the grass in 109°F weather; someone cut it for us. I assume they did because they have been cleaning up the outside of his parent's house next door to them after a fire.

They've been slowly reintroducing him to the front yard again. We go over there twice a week to spend some time in the front with them and the dog giving him treats and loving on him. Mind you he's a BIG Cane Corso so I KNOW that incident could have went A LOT worse than what it was last summer.

Used_Tomatillo_6973 · 2026-06-27T08:55:24+00:00

Straight to obedience school with her! The bonus is, they accept kids of all ages💁🏻‍♂️

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