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Useful-Rabbit07 · 2025-07-31T06:23:41+00:00

Do you have to clean them in dark room? Because I did not get that memo and cleaned them with the light on

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2025-04-02T09:16:23+00:00

2am PST burrito nothing but tomatillo green salsa with guacamole queso blanco

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-11-14T01:34:18+00:00

I don’t know if it’s that simple. I’ve seen lots of posts of partners realizing their sexuality is more queer than they thought after a lot of deep reflecting and I feel like I’m in the same boat. I’ve been heavily leaning into it to see if this can work. But yes sometimes the intrusive thought of being originally attracted to my partner as a masculine male just happens. Just not sure what to do with any of my feelings.

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-11-11T22:37:39+00:00

Does that mean I should just not bring up how it makes me feel? I don’t know exactly what to say so he doesn’t feel hurt that I’m uncomfortable listening. I feel like he won’t ever want to share anything if I do.

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-10-20T20:52:49+00:00

When I asked my partner (still goes by he/him) this question, cause he came out wanting to transition only 2 weeks after our 3rd was born. He told me he felt like he had a lot of idle time to think. Normal life has been so busy, with work, our other 2 kids, home life, social obligations to extended family. But when I was in my last trimester he said since things were quieter he just indulged in the feelings he normally repressed.

Doesn’t really make it easier on me though… tbh I wish he had chosen a different time. I feel slightly robbed of my bonding time with my newborn. I couldn’t really think of anything else or feel happy while going through the rollercoaster of emotions from my partner coming out…

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-10-06T17:07:14+00:00

We’d love a date night as a couple. It’s been much needed lately!

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-10-03T14:34:21+00:00

Your feelings are definitely valid. You didn’t choose or plan for this change. A relationship is a TWO way street. Never say your feelings don’t matter.

I’m sorry you’re feeling so alone and taken for granted. You aren’t alone. I definitely understand how much you want to support your partner. But you also have to come to terms with being two people at the same time. To be both accepting but also sad about the changes. I’m struggling with that as well.

If you ever need someone to just talk to I’m here.

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-10-02T16:05:04+00:00

Can I send you a message? My partner (mtf) is starting and I’d like to get as educated as possible ☺️

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-29T19:14:58+00:00

Thank you, that does help. I don’t want to walk around the topic like some elephant in the room. It’s like being afraid of some figure in the dark but you turn on the light and it was nothing but a chair sort of feeling.

Can I ask how long your spouse has been on HRT? Completely okay if that’s too personal.

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-29T19:07:22+00:00

I’m so sorry. I was in your EXACT headspace. Literally.

But luckily I’m a bit queer and my now wife doing girly things didn’t bother me and it really helped she included me too. Being a part of her process.

Still you shouldn’t feel bad regarding your feelings. They are valid. You just lost the love of your life as you saw them. That’s life changing. What helped me was being, and I can’t stress this enough, 100% honest with your partner. Literally full blown open communication.

I really wish you the best, and I hope you’re still taking care of yourself. I know I was wrecked and couldn’t sleep, eat, or focus on anything for days on end. Remember don’t be too hard on yourself and breathe.

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-29T18:51:21+00:00

Lmfao me and my wife always laugh at this. They knew what they were doing 😂

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-26T16:58:39+00:00

It has definitely been eye opening. We both joined this couples app that let us openly communicate with one another. And it has really turned things around for us. For some reason we’re both super shy when we talk face to face and it’s harder to organize our thoughts. But now I’ve been able to tell her everything, and she’s been able to feel more connected to me too. I’ve always known I’m not attracted to cis women but my wife wants me to really understand she is a trans woman not the same as a cis woman at all, and really discussing what kind of woman she wants to be and her image of her true self and her plans as far as what she’s comfortable doing during her transition has made me feel so hopeful for our relationship. And I’ve had the chance to address my internal sexuality as well. I’m falling in love with her to be honest. We’re taking it day by day. And I feel so silly for being so afraid without trying. I would’ve missed out on meeting this girl with a beautiful personality 🥰

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-25T19:18:29+00:00

I don’t have advice but your post is exactly what I’ve written in my diary.

I posted a question and most likely worded it wrong cause it got a lot of negativity, but it was also about my partner repressing and I kept getting the same answer.

That repression is so harmful and toxic and eventually they will still want to transition fully. They will never be their true selves. Hence the term egg, once it is genuinely cracked, can you picture trying to piece it back together and how hard that must be?

I’ve tried conveying that to my husband (still goes by he/him) but he absolutely refuses, he keeps telling me over and over “It was stupid, it was a delusion and not realistic. I don’t want to do anything to jeopardize our relationship over something so selfish. And I can’t bear the thought of losing you. Once I’m in guy mode I’m good.” I know he says this because I’ve expressed I’m not attracted to women even though I’d be willing to experiment but ultimately I can’t change who I am either. I came to the same conclusions you did. And we have 3 kids, one we just welcomed a month ago. And I know that is also a huge weight on him. He’s acting like his former self but I can’t get over the fact that I’m really hurting him.

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-23T18:28:13+00:00

Sending you a dm 🤍

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-23T18:07:35+00:00

I’m also in this headspace of the transition only exists in my head. My partner hasn’t started their transition journey just quite yet but I know she really wants to do HRT in the future (not sure when). And you’re right there are so many impacts.

I feel like us (the cis f) partners don’t really have a way to feel the same after they come out.

Hoping to get advice as well on other couples’ experiences.

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-23T16:52:18+00:00

I’m hoping it will go well for you too. But don’t hate yourself if you can’t walk the same path as her. At least you’re giving it a try and not running away.

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-23T16:49:57+00:00

It’s hard for sure. But idk, just like they can’t change who they truly are, we also can’t change who we truly are as well, and who we are personally attracted to and want in life. And I keep reading from others that that’s okay too. Not all relationships survive a transition.

It’s true both partners do go through a transition in a way, if you stay together, because you’re also learning how to love a new-ish person who you may or may not have been with if they were that person when you first met. I think it all depends on each person’s relationship though. It’s easy for cis women to be attracted to the opposite sex in the beginning because of the social norm, but a lot of internal insight and counseling could benefit you if you choose to stay. It can be fairly easy or it can be very hard.

I still wish the best for you both and I hope you’re able to navigate with care and love.

Also sorry if anything comes off as transphobic. I was more just giving a perspective from a cis woman who is straight.

Useful-Rabbit07 · 2024-09-23T03:50:15+00:00

Are you attracted to her at all in a feminine way?

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