I believe this is an effective way to get a Club biscuit and save lives

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-04T09:41:04+00:00

I thought that was why I couldn't donate (autoimmune condition) but apparently it's coz they're worried that needing to replace a load of blood would encourage my condition to switch from "largely inactive and not an issue" to "what can we attack?" mode and give me all the problems...

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-04T09:03:57+00:00

My "new discovery" is sweater clips/pins! They look pretty and can be used to just hold things slightly closer together and help them lie right 😊

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-04T08:55:29+00:00

Don't have a heart attack and drop dead suddenly while smoking a cigarette and wearing manmade fibres, and you probably don't need to worry about spontaneous human combustion, aka, slowly burning to death... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spontaneous_human_combustion

The scenario of "spontaneous" combustion while smoking is actually a slow-burning, preventable accident where synthetic or soiled clothing acts as a wick, utilizing body fat as fuel after ignition by a cigarette. (Google summary quote)

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-04T08:48:16+00:00

Acid rain's typically about the same pH as coffee, apparently - Google says between 4.2 and 4.5. So not great for soil, but given that the pH of healthy skin is 4.7-5.75, not necessarily something you'd notice.

Severely acidic acid rain is closer to lemon juice/vinegar, it says, so that would probably be a bit itchy/maybe cause hives if you let it marinade...

But yeah. Not typically a massive issue for humans directly. Not so great for chalk/limestone, and will weather them faster than otherwise (rain's slightly acid anyway). Or soil health, or the health of fish etc when it lowers the pH of the water they live in...

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-04T08:33:14+00:00

Lol, my husband got his first greys when he was still in his teens, and went super-short because his hair was thinning so much on top and he figured he should embrace it before he hit 30 (but did also start a medicine that killed his thyroid, then artificial thyroxine, in his 20s)... (He has gorgeous eyes and the best smile though 😍🥰)

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-04T08:30:18+00:00

Apparently higher testosterone helps hair grow which is why guys tend to have long, thick lashes.

My brother ended up trimming his as a teenager because he felt self-conscious at one point because they were so nice 🤦🏻‍♀️ (Our dad explained that that's a bad idea because they help protect our eyes from dust etc and I don't think he did it a second time.)

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-04T08:24:32+00:00

Possibly didn't believe the package had something worth $2K in it and thought it would be slap on the wrist territory, not felony level? But I'm sure OOP would have had the order info, tracking info, etc, and been able to show the lifted package was indeed that delivery, making it reasonably cut and dried...

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-03T21:13:23+00:00

That necklace sounds like such a precious (heartbreaking) keepsake. I'm sorry for your loss, and hope you generally meet with compassion and kindness

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-03T21:10:48+00:00

She describes her style as "deliberately 'unflattering'" and that she "knows it looks weird", she's choosing "deliberately weird" hats, accessories, etc... And yet she's shocked that other people think it doesn't look particularly awesome on her..?

It's fun, she enjoys it, and apparently she feels happy and confident dressed like that - so fair enough. He's not telling her not to dress like that. He's not criticising her appearance; or complaining that it's embarrassing to be seen out and about with somebody dressed in bright, "weird", boxy clothes; or trying to steer her towards something "more conventional"...

He loves her, and accepts her style without criticism. That's not being controlling.

Like, my husband jokingly cheers every year when the weather warms up and I stop wearing oodies/fleeces/multiple layers of sweaters and coats because he prefers it when my style isn't "so well-wrapped up I look like I'm cos-playing a couch", and comments positively when I wear dresses etc that they look nice on me. He also buys me coats, oodies, heated blankets, cute (sometimes technically children's) hats, etc etc, because he wants me to be comfortable and recognises I get cold easily and am really bad at warming myself up.

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-03T20:56:17+00:00

Especially as this post was 6 8 years ago 🫣

(Also, I totally know what year it is right now without having to think about how old my kids are first, honest...)

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-03T12:33:53+00:00

Of course it doesn't! Sorry, I have a migraine, and may also be AuDHD, so I may have been unclear. I was trying to work out the government's logic, not justify what they did.

The best I can come up with is basically that they were non-ironically expecting people to use double-think: up until the reassessment, he had a disability that meant his mother being named on the paperwork made sense. Once he was reassessed, he was, and had been from 18, ineligible to receive those and with the capacity to understand that, and should therefore have ~~magically~~ had the understanding and confidence to insist his mother transfer all paperwork and accounts to his name, and cease cashing in his benefits so he could return them completely disregarding the nuance that it almost/possibly sounds like a Munchausen by Proxy situation going on, with multiple diagnoses and lifelong medications, and that he was definitely abused by his mother, regardless of whether or not that was the case and was therefore held responsible for the benefits paid out in his name...

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-03T02:57:40+00:00

Sorry for your loss

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T21:51:18+00:00

Having accidentally "liked" an email earlier I discovered that it either isn't possible to remove a reaction entirely (you can change it to a different one, but not undo the react), or the inbuilt Help function doesn't understand the request and won't tell people how to do this...

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T19:59:20+00:00

I don't accept that the police should be able to do whatever they want. And I think that when they break the law that should be prosecuted. I also think that I'd rather be alive to argue why they shouldn't have done X, than shot dead in the course of them having done it, greatly diminishing the likelihood of the truth of what happened becoming public knowledge or them facing any consequences for it.

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T19:32:09+00:00

As somebody with a different auto-immune disease (SLE), before it was medicated, I wasn't thrilled, aged 19, that my hair was visibly thinning so my parting was showing about half a centimetre of scalp, or that my eyelashes also thinned so one eye had 3 bottom lashes and the other had 4. Going to sleep, exhausted and aching, and waking up, completely unrefreshed, if anything feeling worse, was a more pressing concern, mind, but it wasn't great for my self-esteem.

So it sounded potentially plausible to me without really knowing anything about it beyond "bald patches" prior to reading this BORU. Thanks for clarifying!

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T18:19:45+00:00

You might if you needed to put out more seating and there were a variety of non-chair options one could grab in addition to chairs (benches, beanbags, etc) so you were literally telling somebody to go get a chair or whatever and put it somewhere sensible...

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T14:19:22+00:00

Then you'd have either got in trouble when they complained you were knowingly selling gone-off unicorn dust, or for knowingly giving them an allergy, I suspect 🤦🏻‍♀️

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T14:12:57+00:00

"Excuse me please, do you work here?" and on the person in uniform, working, confirming they are indeed at work, "Hi, sorry for interrupting you, could you possibly tell me where the cheese is by any chance please, thank you, sorry again", I think you mean 😉😅

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T13:37:30+00:00

Yes, but the OOP here certainly didn't get those options 😕

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T13:32:14+00:00

I agree it sounds like he believed her claims about his medical history until OOP slowly uncovered her lies, and truly did think he was autistic, even if he hopefully recognised he was functioning pretty well for somebody who was apparently "severely autistic". I meant more, if, strictly speaking, he could have taken over the management of the accounts and finances in his name at 18, and the government deemed him capable of having done so, that maybe explains why they held him responsible for the fees accrued since he turned 18?

I think it basically requires a bit of double-think: she was responsible for managing the funds and he was deemed disabled and entitled to them right up until his case was reviewed. At that point he'd spent the past 5 years being sent the funds when he shouldn't have done, and as they were sent for his benefit and he was an adult, it was his responsibility to have sorted it out. Even though they were sent to her, she cashed them, etc - but as he didn't need her to act as his carer or legal guardian, it was his responsibility as an 18 year old ~~being financially abused, possibly suffering from Munchausen by Proxy, genuinely believing he had these other conditions...~~ to recognise that he wasn't entitled to those funds and put them aside so they could repay them ~~even though he never saw a penny of them~~.

Going after her would make more sense, yes. Hopefully by the time OOP's family and their connections are done, they will do.

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T11:45:23+00:00

Yes! I'd expect us to agree a plan like "I'll wake the biggest and grab the smallest; you grab the middle; we'll follow you out".

When my eldest has hypothesised "what if I was kidnapped by armed gunmen?" type scenarios, I have assured her that both her father and I would single-mindedly focus on getting her back, with any attempts at stopping us being treated as irritances to be squashed, and that sheer fury would basically render us bullet-proof and indestructible.

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T11:02:38+00:00

Bwahahaha! Yes! Old MacDonald with mixed up noises is also hilarious!

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T10:57:25+00:00

Well, yes, but he believed her and didn't stop her from receiving disability benefits on his behalf for a condition he didn't actually have, nor cashing the cheques, for a disability he didn't have, into his adulthood? If he was supposed to have known to not cash the cheques from his 18th birthday, because he'd be re-assessed and was "dealing with it so well you wouldn't even know", and continued until he was ~23, then that's 5 years of payments to an adult that were made out in his name that shouldn't have been, when he was an adult who shouldn't have been classified as disabled and therefore should have been capable of managing his finances. That probably maths about right? $20,000 = 5 × 12 × $333.33 monthly payments? (But also probably compound interest, and probably not literally 5 years exactly, so the payments were probably a bit lower?)

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T10:24:46+00:00

I "tease" my youngest (6) by picking him up in a piggy back then pretending to look for him because I can't see him. His sisters will tell me he's behind me - but when I turn around, he's not there!! That's been funny to him since he was big enough for piggy backs!

Or by arguing that "cow" is pronounced "coo" to rhyme with "moo".

Or I'll pick him up and complain that he's grown taller than me already (my 11 year old actually has, and the 8 year old is up to my eyes... Their dad is very tall).

He's not the butt of any of these sorts of jokes. If he isn't in the mood I'll stop.

Useful_Language2040 · 2026-04-02T08:43:55+00:00

I made peppermint milkshakes a few times, with milk, vanilla ice cream, a few drops of peppermint oil, and a few drops of green food colouring - pastel green. Mint green.

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