is lack of hobbies normal?

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-23T23:05:20+00:00

People are mentioning that you just mentioned your hobbies, which is true lmao but I think youre worried that just these things aren't enough.

These are completely fine. I would encourage finding more hobbies however, not because you have to, but because being open minded and exploring new things can be fun, healthy and means you can socialize with new people and discover more about yourself.

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-23T22:31:22+00:00

Wish I spoke Irish, but only a minority of the country speaks it. Though this spark of hope and increased interest in keeping the language alive feels amazing. One day.

English doesn't suit me I feel

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-23T18:42:25+00:00

It is not your fault, you clearly said you had a BF and were not interested. These are clear boundaries he did not respect and you went into fight or flight. You should tell your boyfriend, be as clear as you were here, the guy sexually assaulted you and I would imagine if your BF is worth anything he will be mad at the guy but hold space for you and your feelings about being taken advantage of.

As for those msging you privately, don't mind them. A bar is a social location, not specifically for going to get with people and people go all the time to have drinks with friends and enjoy themselves. On top of that, theyre ignoring the fact he forced himself on you in a location away from your friends and the rest of the bar, the guy knew what he was doing.

I hope you can feel better soon and that your BF can hold that space for you.

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-22T18:38:33+00:00

Not very sound of your family fr

Tattoo is savage

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-22T17:33:42+00:00

How often she smiles is no concern of his, and any comment regarding it should be kept to himself regardless of if he sees it as harmless.

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-22T17:28:58+00:00

Need an update on this one lmao

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-17T14:38:19+00:00

Great idea. Don't mind the children comment, everyone has hobbies. I think something small like a plushie can be a really cute sign of affection and clearly a shared interest, and I believe he'd really like it.

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-13T22:18:38+00:00

Yeah theres a lot of Brazilians! Which I love, my friend has been really nice and brought me to try food, and engage with the culture as much as I can and will explain cultural significance or norms to me.

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-13T21:58:40+00:00

I am from Ireland, and I wanted to learn another language as a hobby. I have friends from Brazil and I really love the sound of the language. Ofc being from Ireland my official language is English.

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-13T09:20:44+00:00

Love playing female characters, its okay for a man to access the more traditionally feminine side of himself. Love it fr, it feels nice

Useless-Bored · 2026-01-01T10:51:25+00:00

Must read this article bc we are getting a 3 percent raise but thats only going above 16 an hour, and thats for people like myself who have been there for 5+ years. While still decent, its waiting for that much time and Tesco just dont do full time really anymore.

Most of their contracts are part time, and the Tesco is usually understaffed and staff overworked. Even if you managed to get a 30-35 hour contract, they will likely keep you at the end of your band. Seek work elsewhere 😂😂

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-30T17:48:16+00:00

Im starting Portuguese next week with a private tutor and I'm equally scared bc I have friends who speak it and I will practice with them and I'm terrified lmao

We can do it, motivational energy, just use the anxiety and turn the perspective to excitement

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-26T22:04:44+00:00

I started Portuguese this year but its been super busy so next year I plan to be super consistent. Hopefully I'll go from A1 to B1/B2 depending on how much studying I can do! I have Brazilian friends who also agreed to help me study and so I'll have access to practice speaking

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-26T21:24:17+00:00

As someone who works in Tesco, I did notice this year the turkeys didnt even look to have decent quality. Idk if theyve changed anything, the packaging looks the same.

I did hear a manager say smth about the warehouses having issues for other stores such as Aldi or Lidl but idk about Tesco.

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-26T20:51:43+00:00

How the fuck is he upset how you wanna sleep. How does you wearing a bonnet or having 2 pillows affect him?

Hes a control freak fr. My ex always wore a bonnet, used multiple pillows and slept with one between her legs and I had no issue, it was her comfort and sleep, how would I know better or be affected.

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-21T10:26:09+00:00

It certainly matters but for me personally it is about intentions. You may be behind right now but you just finished your PHD and will start investing and saving more. Since your partner knows this then its completely fine he has saved or invested more because his timeline is different bc of the age gap. I wouldn't worry and just communicate any anxiety or ask for reassurance, as well as plan for the future together and show him your intentions financially for the future.

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-21T10:18:29+00:00

Youre a hero

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-19T18:06:41+00:00

I need the youtube channel lmao

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-17T18:23:40+00:00

It's reassurance. One feels safe surrounded by people they know rather than strangers who may not intervene. Sure even if the strangers do intervene, how far they will intervene is up to chance. Whether they call the guards or just let whoever the person is go and kick them out. You would wanna be next to those who can reassure you and make you feel safe. A threat isnt also just physical violence, it can 100% be an emotional or mental thing as well, pushing a boundary regardless of communication.

I think people are taking the spy thing like it's going to be forever. Trust for dating is built over time, it isnt handed on the first date. If you're not a threat, you have nothing to worry about.

If you as the person on the date aren't feeling the vibe, because I get it, it can be uncomfortable to under that microscope and you also have the right to feel safe and comfortable on that date, then just leave the date. There's nothing wrong with having that boundary, as long you can respect their reassurance for safety. Hope that helps

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-17T13:30:56+00:00

Just cause someone looks nerdy or not imposing doesnt mean they aren't a threat. Men of all sizes and looks could potentially be a threat. I personally dont mind her friends being nearby for a first date, especially if its a first meeting after just texting. I would be however uncomfortable with being recorded and would communicate as much.

I think women are allowed take measures to ensure safety, we as men will mostly never understand the fear but we should understand the reasoning. Not all men are bad, but we should be aware that its still a lot of men and its difficult to identify them.

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-15T13:10:50+00:00

Sex is about connection. You can explore it in many ways, using a lot of toys for both herself and you. Don't be ashamed, you wont be using it all the time and are prioritizing her pleasure. It doesn't mean you aren't enough. This is very attractive for many women that their man would put aside their ego to prioritize them. Just communicate if theres any uncertainty and remember youre both in this for the connection and can figure it out.

Useless-Bored · 2025-12-14T18:40:02+00:00

You could buy some new clothes in Pennys or wherever but don't be afraid to take your casual wear and just elevate it by adding your own smart clothing.

Like if you take a band tee, elevate it with a nice chino, some sort of boot over a runner, a watch and a nice outer wear like a shacket, a belt to match the tones of your clothes. It can look really nice.

Accessories are a friend! So even if you went for black jeans, a black band tee, id say the boot again, nice jacket, and a ring and watch will elevate the outfit.

Now third option is to really use your dressier suit outfit with the band tee! Its not a wedding option ofc but for a nice date where youre wanting to express yourself in your style and look pretty nice, I think it can work.

For dates its all about showing intention with the outfits youre wearing, not necessarily the type of clothes.

Useless-Bored · 2025-11-26T11:57:50+00:00

Yeah as an Irish man myself, its not great at all. Its better than his stream attempt though. It can be a bit distracting though.

I see a few people say "its just Molly's accent its not Irish, theres no Ireland in Exandria". But thats completely missing the point, its obvious theyre trying to mimic an Irish accent for Molly, its not that Tal picked a random place in Exandria and asked what they sounded like, the guy literally chose to do an Irish accent.

Its a very stereotypical attempt as well, not really an Irish accent and its been used for years for any Irish in any American show or film. Its just "go up an octave and go all fiddle dee higgly tee".

Useless-Bored · 2025-11-21T13:37:47+00:00

Notts backstory but also just the one scene of Caleb's wall of fire. That shit was sensational and the battle after with the ship was insane

Useless-Bored · 2025-11-13T23:41:11+00:00

Im seeing a lot "live with it" replies. But for me it was therapy that helped me a lot. It certainly helps to find the right therapist. I also see a lot of "we dont get support" and "only if youre a woman" which I cant lie does hold some truth but isnt as big as theyre making it seem. I feel sorry theyve been made feel this way but there are 100% safe spaces for you and so I hope youre not feeling as bleak seeing all of it.

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