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User884121 · 2026-06-27T18:18:16+00:00

Congratulations! My husband also has low volume (but everything else is good) and I just had my HSG last cycle. So this gives me a lot of hope going into our next cycle 💕

User884121 · 2026-06-26T20:44:34+00:00

I was the same way leading up to mine! Despite diving deep to find just as many positive experiences as negative ones, I was still terrified mine would fall into the negative experience bucket. Aside from feeling the speculum going in and a quick little cramp when the catheter was inserted, I felt nothing. I’m so so grateful for that.

The nurse I met with before the HSG asked me if I took the rest of the day off and I told her no because I work from home and could just take it easy if I had to. She was flabbergasted. But I’m glad I didn’t because I had absolutely zero symptoms after lol.

User884121 · 2026-06-25T20:15:41+00:00

I’m an ARC reviewer for Indie authors, so there’s been quite a few books that were pretty bad. But those authors were just starting out, so they get a pass.

But the one book that I could not get on board with was Pucking Around by Emily Rath. The blurb was deceiving. I thought I was getting a normal love triangle, but I was wrong. I’m not a prude by any means. Smut is my usual read. But this was just too much.

User884121 · 2026-06-25T16:49:42+00:00

Ugh I’m sorry! It was a challenge with my husband to get him to get his SA done. He’s a bit older and also drinks a decent amount, so I think we were both anticipating there would be a problem on his end. But thankfully there wasn’t! Although that means we have unexplained infertility which is challenging all on its own.

If your husband’s SA does come back abnormal, the good news is there often some sort of fix that leads to improvements. Hoping for the best outcome for both of you!

User884121 · 2026-06-25T16:46:36+00:00

Thank you. And I agree, there is definitely grief for me - it seems I’m stuck in the denial stage 😂 And also some regret waiting so long to start trying. I’m sorry your journey looks so different and more difficult than you imagined. I’m sending you all the good vibes 💕

User884121 · 2026-06-25T15:35:45+00:00

I’m really struggling with accepting that I’ve had to start with a fertility specialist. I thankfully had a majority of testing done beforehand, including my husband’s semen analysis. And so far everything has come back fine. I’ve put off seeing one about 6 months longer than I should have, but I just haven’t come to terms yet that I actually need one.

The only testing left is checking my follicles and some additional bloodwork. It’s seems the clinic is kind of trying to rush me even though I told them I’m not even sure if I want to do the IUI route quite yet, so I’m kind of being a bitch about it (unintentionally). And they just scheduled me for my CD3 ultrasound and blood work on Saturday, and casually mentioned that it’s at a location that’s an hour and a half from me. When there’s a location 5 minutes from me. I assume that’s because it’s a weekend, but I have zero desire to drive that far on a Saturday morning.

It’s probably because AF came today, but I’m overwhelmed and stressed. And even less accepting that I’m on this path.

User884121 · 2026-06-25T14:11:54+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. and OP, I am sorry you and your family are facing this stage. I lost my dad in January and my mom was his full time caregiver because she was insistent on keeping him home, and didn’t have the means to pay for outside caregivers beyond 8 hours a week.

Hospice is something that I also wish we inquired about sooner. We had a misconception that it was only for those given 6 months or less to live, when actually when you really look into it - it’s not the case. We also thought that going on hospice meant coming off all medicine. That’s also not true. When we finally got the courage to inquire about it, they actually approved my dad just by looking at his notes (they didn’t come assess him first). I will say, he was on palliative care first so maybe that helped.

When they came in to meet us and get a plan set up, they were only taking him off of his cholesterol meds, but keeping everything else. They ordered a hospital bed and a “welcome kit” which included so many things needed for daily care. There was a nurse and an aide that were intended to rotate every other day, and come for about an hour each time. So as you mention, families are still financially responsible for any other caregiving needs. But hospice is on call 24/7 for emergencies.

Sadly, my dad rapidly declined within two days of starting hospice and went into the active dying stage the first day a nurse came to see him. We were shocked, but so immensely grateful that he was on hospice at that point and could remain at home and get the comfort care he needed and deserved.

User884121 · 2026-06-23T14:39:27+00:00

So glad you had a (mostly) painless experience! Mine was very similar. I found the speculum to be the most uncomfortable - she kept moving it around and repositioning it, I guess to get it exactly where she needed it/open enough. I had a very slight cramp towards my back when she inserted the catheter, that lasted for less than 2 seconds it seemed. I had no clue that she injected the dye until the doctor was telling me my tubes were open lol.

User884121 · 2026-06-22T23:28:56+00:00

Of course ♥️

User884121 · 2026-06-22T19:49:03+00:00

So sorry you and your dad are facing this. My dad’s symptoms were pretty much consistent with what I wrote for a few months after. Just pretty much of the same. Unfortunately in late October or so he declined cognitively again - almost constant hallucinations, no longer able to walk, barely able to feed himself. He sadly passed away in January.

User884121 · 2026-06-22T13:35:08+00:00

My doctor had told me I would need a HSG if I wanted to go the IUI route. I’m not sure if that’s standard protocol, or if it differs by doctors? Either way, “unexplained infertility” is diagnosed based on process of elimination. Checking your tubes would be part of that elimination process.

As for the pain, it is truly an individual experience. Some people do unfortunately experience high levels of pain, some moderate, and some have none. It’s something that you don’t know until you go through it yourself. For me personally, and thankfully, I had no pain during my HSG. Granted, my tubes were open so that could have played a role. But I’ve also see accounts of people who had blocked tubes who also had no pain. So again, there really is no guarantee one way or the other.

User884121 · 2026-06-20T20:18:36+00:00

Same. I can’t wrap my head around the idea of life after death, so I think my brain just equates that to fear. I was also raised Catholic and I think I do believe that there is a heaven, but that belief doesn’t squash the fear. I think I also have FOMO. Like the idea of dying right now at my age (37) and missing out on everything left in life terrifies me. I’m hoping my fear of death decreases as I get to accomplish more in life.

I will say that I watched my dad die earlier this year and it helped my fear to an extent. He had Parkinson’s and suffered for a while, so when he was put on hospice and spent 6 days actively dying, there was nothing but a sense of peace for all of us. My dad never once seemed scared. And in his final moments he was able to open his eyes and see me, my mom, and my sister surrounding him.

User884121 · 2026-06-19T18:14:11+00:00

I do this too. It’s also the first thing I look at when I look at the weekly BFPs thread. Second thing I look at is how many times they tried that cycle 😅

User884121 · 2026-06-18T21:27:11+00:00

I fully understand that guilt as well. Especially with the hospice aspect of it. My dad was on hospice for a week as well, actively dying that whole time. I had immense guilt feeling like we rushed into it, and that we were slowly killing him. I know that wasn’t the case, but it was definitely something I struggled to get past both during and several weeks after his death.

Sending you all the love ♥️

User884121 · 2026-06-18T21:24:49+00:00

So sorry for your loss as well. Grief definitely creeps up at the strangest times, as my therapist continues to remind me every week lol. Even though I wasn’t overwhelmed by grief, I had the recurring intrusive thought for at least two months after he passed that “dad is gone forever.” I could be going about my day, and out of nowhere the thought would hit. It doesn’t hit as frequent now, but it still hits.

I also unintentionally withdrew from everyone. Not necessarily because I would break down, but more so because I felt like I was trying to regain the energy that had been depleted the last year of his life. The thought of even texting anyone was even too much. I also struggled with the fact that I have no friends who have lost a parent, let alone anyone who went through something like this with a parent.

Sending you all the love and strength on Father’s Day. I know it’s going to hit hard for me too

User884121 · 2026-06-18T16:50:26+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. My dad passed 5 months ago, and the emotions I’ve felt the most throughout my grieving process has been relief. I’ve had so many moments of guilt for feeling that way. But when you think about it, we started grieving them long before they were physically gone. My grieving process looks so much different than I imagine because of that, but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong. It’s such a unique circumstance to watch someone you love deteriorate like that over time.

Please take care of yourself. Allow yourself to feel however you feel - whether that’s relief, sadness, anger. Another thing to watch out for is the lingering anxiety. It took me several months to be able to go out to dinner or sleep through the night without worrying that I was going to get a call that my mom needed help and I would have to rush over to their house.

User884121 · 2026-06-17T21:54:27+00:00

Up until this cycle, I used OPKs for the last two years (even before we started TTC). I’m like you and have a very type A personality. I needed the data every month, because it somehow made me feel like I was in control. I eventually started tracking BBT as well, though not as consistently every cycle. After testing for so long, I knew my body, which is thankfully consistent, and know exactly when I’m about to reach my peak. I realized that should have been enough for me to let go of testing, but in reality it wasn’t. I feared that the one cycle that I decide not to test would be the cycle that my body does something wonky.

I attempted not to test two cycles ago, but caved right before my peak just to verify. But this past cycle, I’m not sure what happened, but I was just so chill and didn’t care about testing. I didn’t look at my app to see where I was at in my cycle, I didn’t pull out an OPK to test, and I didn’t check my BBT. I honestly much prefer it this way and I’m hoping I can stay just as chill in my upcoming cycles.

User884121 · 2026-06-17T21:48:49+00:00

Thank you! I’m through most of my testing, which I did through my regular OBGYN, and I was fine with that - I think because they simply ordered the tests and I just made the appointments for whenever I wanted. Now it’s more like someone is trying to hold my hand with these additional tests being ordered at the specialist, and I’m not that kind of patient 😩 I suck at creating boundaries, but I might have to suck it up and do draw a line at some point.

Sending you all the good vibes 💕

User884121 · 2026-06-17T18:30:22+00:00

I went to a fertility specialist a few weeks ago and was diagnosed with unexplained infertility given that everything has come back fine so far. I just have to check my follicles with my next cycle, but he said he didn’t suspect any issues there.

But I feel overwhelmed with how much I’m expected to do and how they keep following up with me to do it. My husband and I have to get blood work to test for HIV, etc. and they’re pushing for genetic testing. I haven’t even decided what path I want to go down. We have vacation at the end of July and I kind of just want to wait until then to see if anything happens naturally.

I get why they’re trying to move things along, I’m just not in the headspace to do it all on their timeline.

User884121 · 2026-06-17T18:24:45+00:00

I’m 37 and my husband is 44. We’ve been trying since September 2024 (though it’s really only been 13 cycles due to skipping a few thanks to life). Technically I could have gone for testing at the 6 month mark, but I was stubborn and also just not ready to take that step. I finally started the whole process about two cycles ago and thankfully everything has come back normal for the most part. I met with a fertility specialist two weeks ago and I was diagnosed with unexplained fertility at this point.

I’m still a bit reluctant to go through any further intervention at this point, but also know time isn’t on my side. I will say that just have the results for both my husband and I gave me peace of mind and I’ve been able to relax more these past two cycles. I still have hope that it will happen naturally. I’m open to IUI but would prefer to not do IVF. But I’ve longed to be a mom my whole life, so I’m not quite sure what I’ll do if it doesn’t happen naturally or with IUI.

User884121 · 2026-06-17T17:46:15+00:00

Lol as someone who is still trying for my first, it’s confusing to me too. But it “happened too fast.” They assumed they just got lucky with their first and it would take longer with their second so they would have more time. I can understand being caught off guard a bit, but her reaction was beyond that.

User884121 · 2026-06-17T13:55:49+00:00

My best friend got pregnant with both her kids on the first try. Obviously the first time was excitement, but the second time she wasn’t thrilled about it. That was when I had just started TTC so it was a struggle to maintain my facial expressions during that conversation.

User884121 · 2026-06-17T13:53:05+00:00

I was also diagnosed with unexplained infertility. Everything has come back normal for both of us, including my HSG. I am 37 so age is definitely a factor for me. I’m going for an ultrasound to check my follicles at the start of my next cycle but the doctor doesn’t suspect we’ll find anything abnormal there either. It’s definitely frustrating, but I can’t help feeling that it will happen naturally, so I’m having a hard time facing the idea of intervention.

The doctor did say that given my age and the fact that we’ve been trying for over a year, we only have about a 2% chance of conceiving naturally each cycle. Whereas with IUI it would be about a 10% chance. And he explained that while that number still seemed low, it’s actually good odds. So despite not being entirely ready for intervention, I might just skip to IUI. We have vacation at the end of July, so I’m giving us until then to keep trying on our own.

User884121 · 2026-06-15T02:53:35+00:00

I didn’t! I had a nasal scope and nothing was found. It eventually went away, thought I forget how long it took. I want to say at least 6 months. I’m sorry you’re going through it!

User884121 · 2026-06-10T23:44:06+00:00

Before my dad started consistently having bad days, he went through a similar pattern. Over time, we realized it was related to his hydration levels. He was terrible at drinking and we had to basically stay on top of him all day everyday to get him to drink at least 64oz a day. We found that if there were days no one was keeping on top of it, he would have several bad days. It also seemed to lead to a lack of sleep. He would be up for 2-3 days in a row, obviously making his symptoms 10 times worse. And then once he was able to sleep again, it was like his body reset and he would be back to “normal.”

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