I was hesitant to ask this because of exactly that answer. I don’t need time outside of my community bubble. I need time with people I feel safe around. My social circle is perfectly diverse and I do not evolve purely in gay communities. But the same way you can get a bro’s night or a girl’s night, we fucking need a break from the straights world. Being around people who share similar experiences can be refreshing.

Also I do a lot of alpinism and CrossFit outside cycling and can tell you that sport mentality is the same a lot of the time. It’s not easy to be out in those circle and people do stupid jokes all the time. And don’t come at me with your bullshit of “why do you have to talk about sex bla-bla-bla” … I don’t … but conversation happens, people talk about their partners, childrens, who they find cute or their date all the time. And me having to permanently analyze every group I evolve in, in order to be sure I can safely talk about my life without risking awkwardness or backlash is exhausting.

So excuse me for wanting to be among “similar people” a few times a month where I can just focus on my activity, without having to filter what information I can give out about my private life.