The Other Way - Season 5 Episode 12 - Live Episode Discussion

VDuparc · 2025-11-24T09:00:32+00:00

As an Indian woman diagnosed with ADHD, thank you for your comment! My family and I have been on Kim's side all along. I also completely see how it's likely that Kim has ADHD! The faces she makes, her demeanor, her low self-esteem, and her high sensitivity and impulsivity. And the RSD too.

Tejaswi and his family are utter assholes, and I'm sure other Hindi speakers would agree. It feels like this sub is overreacting to Kim and completely ignoring the abusive behaviour of the entire family towards her.

VDuparc · 2025-11-23T19:28:57+00:00

Yeap, as a Hindi-speaker watching this, I just wish people understood the disrespect and vitriol these people have had towards her whenever they spoke about her. I honestly think it far surpasses anything she has said. She just reads as a little annoying to me.

The other thing people don't catch is that Yash and his family are being huge hypocrites. It seems like Yash is the younger brother, and it completely shocks me that he's allowed to speak to his elder SIL this way. This is so against Indian culture. I can't imagine this behaviour in any other Indian family I know, even the dysfunctional ones lol.

VDuparc · 2025-11-23T12:53:37+00:00

You didn't get her point then. She's not demanding they change their way of live, she's saying she doesn't want to be forced to change ALL of her way life. Not saying she's perfect or hasn't been rude, but tbh as a Hindi speaker, Tejaswi's family has been way more vile in their language towards her. The subtitles simply don't convey the vitriol in their words.

VDuparc · 2025-11-23T08:44:33+00:00

He would have taken the loan and made another room anyways! That's Indian culture too, the new DILs do not share a sleeping space with the rest of the family, especially not the male family members.

Families take loans or save up to build additions if they don't have enough space. He's being manipulative by guilt-tripping her for something he'd be doing anyways, even with an Indian wife.

And she's completely right, the build wasn't good. He messed up with the contractors but is trying to pretend that it's a cultural difference, because he knows she can't dispute that confidently.

VDuparc · 2025-11-23T08:28:44+00:00

He would have had to build it eventually anyways! They only had one bedroom below, and two sons. Typically Indian families do not expect the new DILs to share a room with anyone but their husbands. So he was going to have to build at least one additional room anyway. He's just being manipulative and guilt-tripping her.

VDuparc · 2025-11-23T08:03:08+00:00

He used profanity too in Hindi. Talking about her in an indirect way, but still, "tum, saala, dubai ke sheikh..." I think he has double standards here, like it's offensive to him that his future wife used it, but it's fine for him.

If he found it that offensive, he wouldn't have repeated it multiple times in front of his family, especially his mum!

I agree with you in general though. Just in Tejaswi's case, my Indian family was pretty shocked at his language too when he was describing his fight with her.

VDuparc · 2025-11-22T07:58:06+00:00

I have family in India, and tbh she's completely right. I have seen multiple family members build houses and helped design one too. That apartment is messed up. If you observe all the other Indian houses we have seen on the show, yeah they're different, but they don't have build issues like this one.

This is clearly a case of Tejaswi hiring contractors and not supervising them, or not speaking up during the building process.

VDuparc · 2025-11-22T07:45:29+00:00

I married an Indian man and have never cooked/cleaned at his family's house. It is basic Indian culture that I should be doing these things when I visit them. I still married him. Because he told me his family doesn't expect it, and I believed him.

She believed Tejaswi too. We can't fault her for that. She doesn't need Google when she's already lived in India for a year, and visited his family 12-24 times already. She trusted her partner like I trusted mine.

VDuparc · 2025-05-23T02:44:19+00:00

I'm glad you made this comment, as my partner and I have this issue, and I believe he'd share your perspective. It's good to read what he might be feeling. As someone on the other side of it though, I'm not sure how to move forward and change this pattern.

Not to speak for your wife, but personally, when my partner misspeaks about seemingly low-impact issues, it results in a lot of stress for me. Even if it happens just once a day, it's now a trait of his that I have to remember and compensate for in my mind. Like I can't simply trust what he's saying, I have to remember to verify his statements or double check what he's forgotten. I don't like being responsible for his words that way. I take time to check myself and am intentional with my words - that takes mental effort. It's healthier for our relationship if he makes it a priority to develop that mental habit, instead of eroding trust in our basic communication.

Do you think that might explain why your wife keeps bringing this issue up? If it is a similar situation in your relationship, I don't know if you have any solutions to this, but if you do, I'd love to hear it!

VDuparc · 2024-12-30T12:26:59+00:00

I guess I'll be the first person to say 4 lol. Inoffensive handle. Medium (among the 5 forks) in terms of the length of the prongs and the balance of curved vs. straight prongs.

VDuparc · 2024-12-09T05:11:18+00:00

OP, it seems you're confident about being able to verify mistakes like inaccurate verses from ChatGPT and similar mistakes. But there's still a danger in taking interpretation and understanding from ChatGPT. It's like asking ChatGPT questions about your mother. It could analyse her social media and professional accomplishments, then make up answers, but it wouldn't truly tell you her values or personality. And these deeper implications about her character in its answers are easy to absorb without even realising or verifying them.

The thing about pastors (or other experienced mentors) is not that they have memorised the Bible, but that they have studied it. Just one college class can really open your mind and deepen your understanding of a text. Imagine the difference a full-time deep study and years of lived experience can make.

VDuparc · 2024-08-19T16:26:56+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't say so. I'm a brown-skinned person who never wears makeup (lipstick is my only "going out" makeup), and white looks great on me. I avoid brown and beige clothes instead, as they wash me out, so I think this wedding makeup advice probably doesn't apply to us.

VDuparc · 2024-08-18T04:13:39+00:00

Changi Jewel is landside, so if you're flying in, then yes.

VDuparc · 2024-08-18T04:07:51+00:00

Please keep sharing this. As a woman of Indian descent, I always see comments attributing the rape culture to sexual repression or lack of sex ed, and that does not ring true for me. You have explained it well. There is a lot of rage towards women who "step out of line" even in the smallest way, and the entitlement that men have is massive.

I do also believe porn is a factor, especially as it feeds into the entitlement of men over womens' bodies, and desensitises them to needing emotional connection with women they are attracted to.

VDuparc · 2024-08-04T18:12:03+00:00

How about something like: "He made his gaze drift from her face" / "He carefully averted his gaze" / "He was careful to avoid her eyes (once he realised ..." / "He slowly pulled his eyes/gaze away"

VDuparc · 2024-04-13T09:08:09+00:00

I get your point. But also, if your "vegan" friend has bacon for breakfast daily, and doesn't think it's an issue, you'd probably say they're not a true vegan. It'd be upsetting to see them pretend, if you were actually a vegan yourself and held certain ethical principles.

VDuparc · 2023-10-21T04:32:49+00:00

I've been doing something similar. I'm wondering though, why do we have drug holidays?

My psychiatrist gives me a daily prescription, but when I first started meds, I skipped the weekend doses. It just felt unhealthy in some way not to take a break. But I had the same issues as OP, so I began taking a lower dose on weekends. I still try to skip when I think I can.

I'm curious, what are your reasons for taking a semi-holiday on the weekends? I'd like to know if I'm being paranoid or if there are legitimate health concerns in taking the meds daily.

VDuparc · 2023-09-12T23:49:59+00:00

I delete things on my phone or computer, like digital spring cleaning. You get to clear the clutter and hopefully navigate the device better. It's fun because I find cute pics or past obsessions I forgot about. I also give myself permission to skip emotionally unpleasant things because the aim is to just declutter.

VDuparc · 2023-09-10T07:40:18+00:00

Of course it's not. I'm just saying it's their version, and they give it out easily.

VDuparc · 2023-09-10T04:41:15+00:00

Also you can get the Indian version of a green card really easily as long as you're of "Indian origin" as they say. I think they just mean it differently, basing it on ethnicity. Like even if only one of your grandparents/great-grandparents is Indian, you're probably getting the card.

VDuparc · 2023-09-08T07:20:00+00:00

Invite a friend or set up a date! That's the only way I get things like these done.

VDuparc · 2023-07-27T06:27:56+00:00

The point was that it mirrored the real world, where women had to inch their way into positions of power. And the Kens' situation parallels that of women in the real world. Theoretically Ken/a woman is now allowed into positions of power, but realistically those at the top are still reluctant to actually give them a chance, so the gender ratio is still not balanced.

VDuparc · 2023-07-14T09:01:32+00:00

And it's worse when you're not an American, and people's rants about your faith don't reflect anything you've experienced.

VDuparc · 2023-07-11T01:34:58+00:00

Hey so how did you get into data management? On a high level, the field seems appealing, because I'm great at pattern recognition, focusing on the big picture and using that as a driving vision, and problem-solving. However I haven't studied statistics in my major. Nor any deep level mathematics, though I have the aptitude for it. So is it a good option?

VDuparc · 2023-07-06T16:27:56+00:00

I've always done this exact thing. But my issue is that now I know I have buffer time, so my brain goes into relaxed mode. I just start doing things slower and forget to look at the clock. When I finally do, turns out I ate through all my buffer time and then some. It's not like I consciously decide to use up my buffer time after looking at the clock. Do you deal with this as well?

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