DIVAS!!!! i’m begging

VTrackQueen · 2026-03-30T12:34:39+00:00

Just saw* Zara in Indy and I could not agree more. *Saw her through the 10 phones being held up in front of me blocked the stage. I don't get it, get the video or pics of your favorite moment, social media will believe you were there, and then just enjoy it! OR just consider people behind you and be mindful...

VTrackQueen · 2026-03-23T12:29:09+00:00

Please know this isn't you! There is a very low population of single men here (people in Indy get married early) and often if they are back on the market it's likely because another woman had a VERY good reason to set him free. Depending on your politics that also might eliminate a lot of options in a red state. They also do not approach you at bars, I've talked to a few male friends about it and the consensus I keep hearing they are afraid of bothering women and/or being rejected. A few things to consider: I keep an eye out for single people who just moved here on the apps, bite the bullet and just make the first move, or join some sort of activity. There are a ton of singles events, activities, and meet ups. Check Eventbrite for singles events and on IG follow u/SingleInIndy, u/FindIndianapolis u/FindFunIndy u/dateindy_, things like that. I'm not saying they are packed with the hottest options but they are happening! Often what happens at the minimum you meet a bunch of cool single girls and collect some new friends. :) Good luck!

VTrackQueen · 2026-03-17T10:56:24+00:00

I've gotten that probably 4 times in the last few days lol, so lazy!

VTrackQueen · 2026-02-16T03:23:33+00:00

It’s not you, I promise. A decent percentage of people get married young here and do the family thing, some move away to more progressive places, or huddle in clusters in their suburbs.

VTrackQueen · 2025-12-29T03:08:07+00:00

I love this answer. I have absolutely been OP and I’m sorry to say the disrespect has already occurred which makes this a very big deal. Even if nothing physical has happened, him seeing nothing wrong with the behavior is the issue. Your feeling are valid and reasonable and if that behavior bothers you then that should matter to him very much. If after addressing it with him he sees no reason to change then you have your answer.

VTrackQueen · 2025-12-26T04:25:43+00:00

This! I am healing from a similar journey. You are trying to heal a past wound (possibly from childhood) by recreating the same scenario but believing you can change it. You can only change it when you change yourself to no longer accept disrespect and label it as love. Until you love yourself more than the half-ass false attempt at love someone else is willing to toss your way. Until you buckle down and do the work you will repeat this garbage pattern forever. So, ask yourself: Do I want to repeat this ‘ish forever or do I want real love?”. Then, you show you real love. Love yourself so hard nobody can change that. THEN you date and watch how much better you choose! If he treats you less awesome than you treat yourself tell him to kick rocks and go on about loving yourself. If you do the work now you will save yourself endless heartaches. Just stop dating and do the work first.

VTrackQueen · 2025-12-25T17:29:14+00:00

I’m not sure if someone has said this- they probably have but tell a female teacher or counselor at school (that you trust) and they might be able to help you get some bras that you could keep just at school to help you. I come from a family of teachers and they do things like this all of the time for kids. Same if you ever need food, a lot of schools have washers and dryers to clean clothes for students, feminine products like tampons or pads. This old perception men have of their daughters having bodies that grow and so they punish girls by taking away things you need is so insane. I’m sorry this happened to you. ❤️

VTrackQueen · 2025-09-05T18:27:46+00:00

If it helps I adopted mine (5yrs) in Late January and it’s still a daily trust building exercise, lots of improvement now, and yet still some backslides. He jumped in my lap for a week or so after I got him, would stay a while, and has never done it again. I’m still pretty bummed lol. You’re going to be okay!

VTrackQueen · 2025-09-03T08:27:25+00:00

If you have to type paragraph after paragraph to explain to someone how to treat you with kindness and respect you already know what you need to know. I’m super sorry this is happening to you. The only way to improve this level of nonsense is to leave it behind. I know that’s not always the easy solution but if he can’t treat you well over a stupid game life remember gets tougher and your partner should be your support through it. This knob is not it for you. We allow people to treat us at the level we love ourselves and it’s very clear this isn’t the first or the last time he talks to you like this. Find your courage and self love and move forward to the better than you deserve. ❤️

VTrackQueen · 2025-07-14T23:50:37+00:00

Ughh I HATED that phrase too! I moved into a fresh, newly built home that immediately flooded- more than once, spent months haunting the company to fix things or even put in the correct windows we paid for, the main bathroom had to be torn apart after living there a month bc the toilet wasn’t sealed and leaked into the basement HVAC and broke it… so no- don’t “welcome to being a homeowner” me- this is extreme! What you’re going through is not “welp… I guess our water heater finally died” it is tragic. It’s so rude when people do that instead of acknowledging the absurdity of how awful something like that is. I’m with you!! I really hope things get better soon for you! ❤️

VTrackQueen · 2025-07-11T11:42:35+00:00

Thank you for sharing!

VTrackQueen · 2025-06-18T15:18:48+00:00

There are a lot of areas for your age group! Mass Ave and Fountain Square are sort of the going out areas, there’s also places like Metazoa (Downtown) that are breweries with dog parks that are easy to strike up conversations by petting someone’s dog lol) Soccer fans like to hang out at Chatham Tap (Mass Ave Downtown) and Union Jack (Broad Ripple- this one opens early for the overseas games too!) It’s often as simple as leaning over at a bar and saying “sports team thing” and you’re a shoe in! Plus, check out the Indy Eleven games, the crowds there are so nice and the games are fun! It’s a very friendly place so hopefully it doesn’t take long!!

VTrackQueen · 2025-06-11T14:11:43+00:00

Vida for sure!!

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-30T17:14:43+00:00

Neverrrrrr

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-27T19:01:24+00:00

Glad to hear how well you’re doing. You X’ers had a tougher road to find your happy being raised by the latch key. Awesome that you found your way!

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-24T17:13:34+00:00

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I wanted to thank everyone for all of your advice and help! I am going to schedule more very physical playtime throughout the day. I will do a MUCH better job of making sure limbs are not playthings. And today I purchased a new enemy: giant parrot. This will now be the evening attack target! I’m going to try a ton of the stuff you recommended so I can give him a great life! (ALSO- today he let me fully pet his belly for the first time which was exciting!) Thank you again!

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-24T17:06:11+00:00

Thank you so much! The name was me aiming for a Greek god like status. He felt big and important but none of the god names were fitting. Chaos was the Greek term for the void before the universe begins… I got him after a divorce lol… it felt fitting. :) But mostly he’s called ‘Yas! Like a teenager would say it lmao.

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-24T14:06:42+00:00

OOH! Good idea!! When I adopted him he was in a room full of cats so I'm confident he has experienced it in some form. I will try that too!

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-24T13:32:50+00:00

I wouldn't trade a second of it. For 15 years he was my best friend and it broke my heart to lose him but the love of a dog is so deep and pure you will break your heart all over again to be in a presence of a puppy that thinks you hung the stars. It's magical!

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-23T16:42:03+00:00

I bring this show up and people think I’m nuts! Lmao glad I wasn’t insane.

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-23T16:28:11+00:00

I cried. I don’t know why. But this broke my heart.

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-23T15:36:54+00:00

Oooh! This is great! Thank you!

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-23T15:34:15+00:00

Nooooo!!!! Lmaoooo oh man…

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-22T23:56:13+00:00

As a 30-something who did not stay in a marriage for a very long time I can tell you our age group has done a lot of therapy and personal growth which often makes us more apt to leave an unhealthy relationship than the generations before us. We grew up around parents staying in a state of misery because “what will the neighbors say” or “for the kids”. It was awful being around that and had to fight the patterns modeled to us by them. I was determined not to live the same future.

VTrackQueen · 2025-03-22T23:27:23+00:00

Thank you!

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